masterbating to family members

[TUDOR]

All men masturbate, no exceptions. If you think it is something they will grow out of, you're wrong. By the time we hit 30 we are just now really getting good at it. And with all that jerking off your mind needs something to stimulate it and if it was the same thing over and over that really isn't much fun now is it.

 

What enters a guy's mind when he punches the clown has nothing to do what we really want's to do. It is nothing more than a fantacy at the moment to fulfill his current need to get off. It isn't always specifics, sometimes all you see is tits and ass or a face, your mom's friend, the starbucks girl, etc, etc.

 

I think to read into him seeing a family member of your's as his intent to be unfaithful is a little bit of stretch. I mean if you caught him flirting with her or any inappropriate behavior that is one thing. But if all you have is he thought about her while jerking off then I wouldn't be too concerned. I caught myself thinking about my step sister one time and was like WTF, but I didn't plan it, it just happened. What pops in your head at the moment isn't always controllable and certainly not something you plan to do for real.

[Reckless]

Marie,

 

My first reaction was 'why the HELL would your husband tell you something like that?!"

 

Then as I read on it turns out

 

1) He was half drunk

 

and more importantly

 

2) you pushed him.

 

You pushed and pushed, he didn't want to share this particular fantacy but you wouldn't let it go. You wanted inside his head, you probably suspected he might have a little thing for your sister and you wouldn't let it lie.

 

Well, know you know.

 

As has been said earlier.

 

Fantacies, are fantacies (grandma's panties aside (no pun intended, some are 'sharable' most aren't.) Who started this thing that nothing, not even your head, is your own if you're married? Don't buy it myself.

 

My fantacies are mine... some I'll share with my dearest, some I won't.

 

More seriously, the fact that you're here hints to me that there may be things wrong with your relationship. Maybe you've picked up that he has or will act on these fantacies? Maybe your husband is neglecting you and you rightly feel insecure. Women tend to be very intuative so I won't poo-poo you out of hand; I'm guessing there's something more, because if everyone got a divorce because of their partner's fantacies there'd be a lot of broken families out there.

[crazy_grl]

marie, there's a good chance that he didn't tell you he thought they were pretty in the first place because he didn't want to give you reason to be insecure and think exactly what you're thinking now: that he'd rather be with them than you when he wouldn't. Even if he thinks they're 10x prettier than you (which he probably doesn't), it doesn't mean he'd rather be with them.

 

He shouldn't have told you, but since you practically forced him to, I don't think you can blame him for it. You made the mistake of forcing it out of him. What he masterbates to is his own business unless he wants to share.

 

Why did you feel like you needed to know? I think whether or not your relationship is in trouble hinges more on the answer that question than in your husband's private fantasies.

[Sassy]

Your comparing apples and oranges here..What happened to you in your teens isn't the same

 

why do you think he is sick ?.. she isn't a teen..

 

what is the difference between Heather Locklear and her sister ?... Nothing..

 

Art the difference in this is my sister's h was a grown man and i was a child that is the difference. That is sick!!

[Art_Critic]

Art the difference in this is my sister's h was a grown man and i was a child that is the difference. That is sick!!

 

Sassy.. I understand that.. it is sick as you were a teen..

 

But the OP is 28 and her sister is 30 and her husband is 27.. Far from being teeny bopper sick..

I was commenting on how your situation is totally different than the OP because of the age difference..

 

They are ALL adults

[Sassy]

Sassy.. I understand that.. it is sick as you were a teen..

 

But the OP is 28 and her sister is 30 and her husband is 27.. Far from being teeny bopper sick..

I was commenting on how your situation is totally different than the OP because of the age difference..

 

They are ALL adults

 

I understand what you are saying that they are adults but the fact remains that it is still disrespectful of him to think that. He could have lied and not said it was her sister . Why couldn't he have said a celebrity instead. Saying her sister doesn't make her feel good about herself and sure doesn't help her confidence. I know when my sister found that picture of me under her h's mattress sure didn't make her too worthy and it grossed her out as well!

[whichwayisup]

The thing is sassy, he wasn't thinking PERIOD. That is why those thoughts are better left not knowing. People are allowed to have their own private thoughts. It was a mistake for him to tell her and it was wrong of her to ask. I say, if you ask a question inwhich you may not be happy with, be prepared with what you hear. Double edged sword I guess...

[Sassy]

The thing is sassy, he wasn't thinking PERIOD. That is why those thoughts are better left not knowing. People are allowed to have their own private thoughts. It was a mistake for him to tell her and it was wrong of her to ask. I say, if you ask a question inwhich you may not be happy with, be prepared with what you hear. Double edged sword I guess...

 

Yeah you make a excellent point . Didn't want to make anyone mad just still think about my sister's h and what he done to her and think it was wrong . Yeah he should have not told her and she shouldn't have asked couldn't agree more .

[Milo]

Once again, disclosing fantasies proves to be an explosive and damaging issue. Remember: tell strangers your fantasies, not people you know and are in relationships with. Works out better for everyone.

[whichwayisup]

Remember: tell strangers your fantasies, not people you know

Yeah, tomorrow's HOT Thread is going to be tell your fantasy day. No s***, I'm jokin' either...Anything goes!

 

Cheer! Here's to strangers!

[Sassy]

Once again, disclosing fantasies proves to be an explosive and damaging issue. Remember: tell strangers your fantasies, not people you know and are in relationships with. Works out better for everyone.

 

Exactly Milo.

[RecordProducer]

If you deduct all opinions, you can divide them in two groups:

 

1. Men claiming that fantasies mean nothing, and

2. Women who feel bad if their men think of other women.

 

The best thing is to really never dig inside somebody's imagination. Once a thing is said or written, it becomes real. As long as they are in our heads, they are not real.

 

My husband never thinks of any other woman and never masturbates! That's what I know from not asking him anything about it.

[Bob Dole]

That your husband thinks of your sister as sexually attractive and even occassionally fantasizes about her is not only normal but predictable. It would be strange if he didn't. Certainly not a reason for divorce, or even something to worry about.

 

But the fact that he TOLD YOU, on his own, no matter how drunk, is a sign of such uncaring disrespect that maybe you do have something to worry about.

 

As many have noted, fantasies are private .... and sometimes strange. They aren't necessarily something we actually would *do*. And the simple fact is that if a man spends time around an attactive woman, he'll probably fantasize about her. If she's your sister, she probably has some of the same qualities that make YOU desirable to your husband.

 

The fantasy is no big deal. Blurting out that fantasy is. Once its out there it can't be taken back. This will make it permanently difficult for you to have your sister around. I can't even imagine why he told you this. I don't care how drunk he was. What an ass.

 

Try telling him that you got off last night thinking about his brother or best friend. See how he likes it. Wait - nevermind. He probably would dig it.

[KonRyuu]

Almost all men fantasize while masturbating, whether they are married or not. I've told my wife that her sister is hot, as a matter of fact, my wife was like, my sister's hot as hell hah? I was like, hell yeah, ya'll come from good genes! I've never masturbated to the thought of her sister, but, you don't have much to worry about unless you don't trust your sister and you don't trust your husband. If you're really worried about it.

 

I do agree that he's retarded for telling you that, only a dumbass would do something like that, but was he serious, or joking because you kept pestering him about it and he just gave in and lied to you?

 

Try this...maybe tonight or tomorrow or something, dress up in a way you normally don't dress up, knock on the outside of the door and pretend like you don't know him, use your name of course it's role play, it will add spice, maybe he will stop bazugaing to your sister? But doubtful.

 

Just be glad he's doing it to a girl period. It's a natural instinct to be attracted to women, not a single woman. It is human for most people to be with only one woman, does this mean that those men still don't fantasize? That's crazy, I'm sure women fantasize too, women just aren't dumb enough to tell their spouse. Only time when you should be pissed is if you're making love and he calls out her name, that just sucks, the worst feeling ever and you feeling like kicking some ass. Other than that, play back with him and see what he says. Masturbate, make sure he catches you, only masturbate to one of his family members. See how he likes it, then he will understand where you are coming from. Talk to him about it, not us.

 

Sometimes when my wife accuses me of things, I'll just agree with it because I'm so tired of disagreeing with her or her not believing me that it's not worth it to be serious anymore. For instance if she gives me the 3rd degree like, when Girls Gone Wild called our house trying to sell us porn, she was like, was are they calling our house, insenuating that I subscribed to it. I was like, ooh baby, I just wanna bone all those girls, especially when they do eachother in the butt.

[whichwayisup]

That's crazy, I'm sure women fantasize too, women just aren't dumb enough to tell their spouse.

 

You're correct. Us women, (atleast I know I do) think of afew other guys while masterbating...Think of women too. Hey, whatever gets you off and feels good, why not. And ofcourse if my husband asked me what I thought of I would down play it too...He's not stupid enough to ask me, just like I ain't gonna ask him!

 

I was like, ooh baby, I just wanna bone all those girls, especially when they do eachother in the butt.

 

LOL that's funny.