sunny honey Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I have a husband who is very close to his mother and sister (maybe too close). He has to tell them everything we say or do. Example: I asked him not to say anything about us trying to have a baby. No need for the added anticipation of others and stress. He told them- he swore he wouldn't, but emailed and told them. Second, we are having trouble conceiving, so he tells them that, after I ask him not to. I ask one final time for him not to say anything about our doctor appointment today, he swears he won't, but he emailed them and told them. If I say something about it, he says "I can't help it my family is close, end of discussion". Aren't there some things that should remain private in a relationship? Am I just over reacting. I don't know what to do anymore. Any suggestions will help! Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedGal Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 So I have to ask, are you Indian?? Cause that sounds like SUCH an indian thing... Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted February 23, 2006 Share Posted February 23, 2006 I don't understand why you'd be so upset about his family knowing about this particular problem. There's nothing to be ashamed of. There isn't anything in my past, present or future that my In-Laws don't know. They've been a great support for me, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm they're favorite in-law. (could be the money, but I like to think it's just me)....... Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted February 24, 2006 Share Posted February 24, 2006 Personally can't stand my inlaws and the less they know about anything in our lives the better we are. I think that was very disrespectful of your h to tell his family after promising you he wouldn't. You don't need the added pressure of them knowing and you not being able to conceive yet. Stress makes it hard to conceive and the pushiness of the inlaws are the last thing you need. It will happen when the time is right hang in there. Don't let the inlaws get the best of you . Try a ovulation predictor to detect ovulation. It worked for me and using robittusin does as well helps thin secretion making sperm travel more easily . Learned this on a forum with mothers having problems conceiving . Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
sunny honey Posted February 24, 2006 Share Posted February 24, 2006 Thanks for the encouragement. I don't know what to do anymore. I understand families are close, but he discusses things with them about our lives. He makes his decisions based on what they say! Link to post Share on other sites
Becoming Posted February 24, 2006 Share Posted February 24, 2006 I can see why you're upset. He gave you his word and then violated that promise. That's a huge problem in my book. And when we get married, we promise to leave our father and mother and cleave unto our spouse. It sounds like your H hasn't really done that, which may be what really upsets you? So basically, did he just say, "Tough. This is the way it is. I don't care what you want/think on this matter. End of discussion?" Are you just breeding stock for his family? :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
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