Is this worth crying over?

[lobsterbabe]

I'm not sure who else to turn to. I know a lot of you guys here give sound advice. So here goes my problem...

 

It's been a rough couple of weeks for my bf and I. He recently walked away from a 6-figure job (couldn't get along with the boss) and have no serious backup. He's been stressed/depressed/irritable/short/moody, etc. He basically is risking everything he worked for all his life. I have been very supportive of him ever since.

 

In the meantime, I have my own problems at work. A lot of stress under me. I'm not happy. And I suspect I might have PTSD from a serious car accident since I have been depressed, angry, and having anxiety attacks. But somehow, I couldn't seem to find a way to tell him without making him feel like another burden.

 

Well today was one of those days that I did tell him about my feelings and instead of getting the "everything will be okay" response, instead i got the "i can't help you as i have my own problems to deal with."

 

I feel like I can't even talk to him. I just wanted him to listen to me, for once. And when he did, he basically invalidated my feelings.

 

So we got into this huge argument about how he thinks Im not being supportive, which I don't understand. And it just kind of went out of hand... then he said, "Maybe we need to take a little break. You haven't been happy, you've been extra fragile. you clearly do not understand what I'm going through right now, etc. etc."

 

To make the long story short, we hung up the phone both pissed at each other. I mean, I try to not take things personally from him, but sometimes I can't help it. I know I should be more patient with him, but that takes time. And it's hard when I have my own problems to worry about.

 

I guess I'm just venting.. I cried for the first time. He's never seen/heard me cry before. I guess it's because of all the things I have been feeling.