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Summary: There is a girl at my school that I figured liked me. She showed alot of body language like staring at me, smiling at times, etc. It takes me awhile to get up the courage to talk to her but I do. She is very happy to see me talk to her (first time in 3 years), she just stares into my eyes when we talk and she acted very nervous and very quiet. With all this I believe she really likes me. Here is a link for more info on this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80065/ .

 

Important notes: She has shown signs of liking me for a long time but the odd thing is every once in a while, she ignores me. Like she'll keep acting like she normally acts around me for 2 weeks and then there is a 4-5 day span where its like I don't even exist. Its a pretty consistant thing. But it still hurts even though I know its coming. I don't know why exactly she does this every once in awhile.

 

Problem: Ok my problem is its been 3 weeks since I talked to this girl (again, for the first time in 3 years) and she has been showing signs that she wants me to talk to her again (smiling when around me, looking at me from across a room, etc). I want to talk to her again and have been trying hard to but I'm having incredably bad luck trying to get close enough to talk to her again. Some random thing comes up and it prevents me from finding her and talking to her. Well on Tuesday she was her usual self around me but from wednesday-Friday she completely ignored me outside of a split second glance. Sound familiar? Well I'm not sure whether it is just that span again or she's losing interest.

 

I can wait out the weekend and try to talk to her again on Monday or I can call her now. I want to call her incase she really is losing interest so she knows I'm not actually trying to not talk to her. But I've always felt awkward about calling people just to say "whatsup?" when they are not close to me. I want to talk to get to know her but just calling her to do that sounds awkward, especially when she never gave me her phone number. I kind of think its more of a thing to do when you are ready to ask them out, to call them. But I'm not sure. I'm kind of an emotional guy on the inside so the things she's doing will really bug me all weekend.

 

I know its kind of a lot to take in. And I'm looking for a response as fast as possible but I really appreciate it. Thanks.

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Are you ready to ask her out? If so just give her a call. If she likes you she'll be flattered that you went through the effort of getting her phone number. It's not like you're complete strangers, you have talked to each other and consider yourselves aquaintences (right?).

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I used to know her alittle bit awhile ago. Not really as a friend but knew who she was. I asked her out along time ago and she said no and we kind of drifted apart. A couple years later she's apparently said she wanted to get to know me and showed lots of signs I mentioned before. I did talk to her but it wasn't for very long. Just enough to break some of the ice. But I don't want to ask her out right away. I want to get to know her first and that's kind of my goal. We both kind of hangout with different crowds which is a big reason why it feels awkward to call.

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Could you call her to hang out as friends? Or would that be too awkward?

 

If you want to wait until Monday when you're back in school just make sure you bump into her and talk to her. High school crushes are fun. Enjoy them while they last. ;)

 

oh and by the way you tell the story I get the feeling that she does like you but you need to start making some advances.

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I'm hoping just to talk with her on monday. The hard thing is I don't know if I will have a chance to talk with her, or if she is still in that type of phase and ignoring me. Not really sure what that means since she does it sometimes.

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if she is still in that type of phase and ignoring me.
what do you mean by, "she is ignoring you"? Do you go up and speak to her and she doesn't answer you or is she just not initiating talking to you? If she's just not initiating, maybe she's waiting for you to do it. I know when I was in high school I felt it was the guy's job to approach me. It wasn't until I got older that I figured out how to go after what I wanted.
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Basically she smiles at me and stuff like that. But every once in a while, there's like 4 days (max) where she looks like she doesn't even know I'm there, then all of a sudden she goes back to what she's been doing (smiling, etc). I don't know why she does this. Each time she does it, I feel really bad emotionally. The good thing is I can usually predict when it happens and I can usually tell that it won't last but still aint fun to go through. Its what's happening now, except I don't know what to think of it this time since I feel bad about not talking to her again. And you are right, she doesn't initiate conversations with me but she tends to do stuff to try to get me talking. But I do think she is shy... she can't talk to me in a normal voice, just very quietly.

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If she's shy you may have to be a little more forward. It's clear that she's interested though. She probably backs off because while she's interested, she's probably not sure that you're interested. She'll also probably open up more and talk in a more normal voice when she gets to know you better. :)

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Summary: There is a girl at my school that I figured liked me. She showed alot of body language like staring at me, smiling at times, etc. It takes me awhile to get up the courage to talk to her but I do. She is very happy to see me talk to her (first time in 3 years), she just stares into my eyes when we talk and she acted very nervous and very quiet. With all this I believe she really likes me. Here is a link for more info on this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t80065/ .

 

Important notes: She has shown signs of liking me for a long time but the odd thing is every once in a while, she ignores me. Like she'll keep acting like she normally acts around me for 2 weeks and then there is a 4-5 day span where its like I don't even exist. Its a pretty consistant thing. But it still hurts even though I know its coming. I don't know why exactly she does this every once in awhile.

 

Problem: Ok my problem is its been 3 weeks since I talked to this girl (again, for the first time in 3 years) and she has been showing signs that she wants me to talk to her again (smiling when around me, looking at me from across a room, etc). I want to talk to her again and have been trying hard to but I'm having incredably bad luck trying to get close enough to talk to her again. Some random thing comes up and it prevents me from finding her and talking to her. Well on Tuesday she was her usual self around me but from wednesday-Friday she completely ignored me outside of a split second glance. Sound familiar? Well I'm not sure whether it is just that span again or she's losing interest.

 

I can wait out the weekend and try to talk to her again on Monday or I can call her now. I want to call her incase she really is losing interest so she knows I'm not actually trying to not talk to her. But I've always felt awkward about calling people just to say "whatsup?" when they are not close to me. I want to talk to get to know her but just calling her to do that sounds awkward, especially when she never gave me her phone number. I kind of think its more of a thing to do when you are ready to ask them out, to call them. But I'm not sure. I'm kind of an emotional guy on the inside so the things she's doing will really bug me all weekend.

 

I know its kind of a lot to take in. And I'm looking for a response as fast as possible but I really appreciate it. Thanks.

Hello the girl you went out with three years ago might be scared of getting hurt! It sounds like both you have hurt each other in the past. Was she that way when you was going out with her three years ago? Call her and get it over with.

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We never went out. I asked her out 3 years ago and she said no. But she apparently said that she wished she had the chance to get to know me. But that was a rumor from a not so close friend. But I kind of believe it because of everything else that has happened since then.

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Thanks for the advice but one thing still bugs me. Its how she just ignores me for a bit and then just goes back to doing what she has been doing. I'm pretty sure I've given her all the reason to believe I like her so I don't know if she's afraid to show she likes me, especially since the rest of the time she tends to stare at me and stuff when I'm completely aware of what she's doing. And she knows it. I'd just like to figure out why she does this every once in awhile. It just doesn't make sense to me.

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