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Would you think its a turn off if a 26 year old guy still lives with his parents, even though he had a good job and could afford to live on his own?

What if he had a crappy job and lived with his parents?

Would you think more highly of him if he lived on his own or with housemates? Thanks!:p

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I think it depends on the specific situation. I dated someone who moved back in with his parents for a while at around your age but his reasons were highly valid and even noble. It got annoying at times but he mostly stayed at my place and I rarely was at his.

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Would you think its a turn off if a 26 year old guy still lives with his parents, even though he had a good job and could afford to live on his own?

What if he had a crappy job and lived with his parents?

Would you think more highly of him if he lived on his own or with housemates? Thanks!:p

It depends on the reasons, but it is a tiny bit creepy. Momma's boy? If you have a good job and can afford living on your own, do it. Living with parents looks cheap and codependent.

Crappy job and parents make you look lazy.

I don't know if that would be a turn off for me, but it would NOT be a turn on at all!

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If your parents owned a luxurious home, but were rarely there due to lengthy international trips, that would be a turn-on.

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If your parents owned a luxurious home, but were rarely there due to lengthy international trips, that would be a turn-on.

Yep!

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If a guy has the financial stability to live on his own (or with roommmates) He should absolutely do it. I was supposed to marry a guy who was 24 and still living at home with mom & dad... had a great job, but also a brand new car, motorbike & snowmobile... he had no sense of responsibility or priorities. I asked him if he'd move out on his own for at least a year while I was away at school, he refused, so I ended the relationship.

 

I, personally will never get into a serious relationship with a guy who has never lived on his own. I am not going to let him run straight from mommy's tit onto mine!

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It depends on the person really. For some non-western cultures a lot of men in their 20s-30s still live with their parents. However most people would admit if someone made enough money (3000-4000 a month) to move out on their own, they would and should. It's usually looked down upon even if the person says "yeah I give money here and there." If you're a student and a struggling part timer then the girl might cut you slack. But won't if you're making money and still sticking around the house.

 

This opinion refers to guys staying at home, I think people tend to be okay with woman living with their folks. Double standards, I guess.

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Thanks for the help, girls. Well I am 26 and live with my parents, but I am working on an internship which could lead to a good career that can allow me to live on my own. So heres hoping ;)

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Would you think its a turn off if a 26 year old guy still lives with his parents, even though he had a good job and could afford to live on his own?

What if he had a crappy job and lived with his parents?

Would you think more highly of him if he lived on his own or with housemates? Thanks!:p

 

It's not a turn off but it can be inconvinient. I will leave that to your imagination.

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I've encountered some views, turn off and indifferent.

 

I want to grad school and worked full time. Living at home from 25-30 was a good financial option. Grad school is not cheap ($20k+) and is akin to a full time job.

 

I've dated a girl who was older and didn't like it but understood the situation. I wouldn't rent because why spend the rent when I can own. She worried and then she looked at a place with me. I explained to her why buy the furniture only to have most of the furniture removed with "mutual" stuff later on. I'm not cheap but frugal for a good reason. After that she understood.

 

So I guess true issues are, in no particual order:

 

1) is the guy worth it

2) home situation reasons

3) financial

4) cultural

5) perpetual momma's boy

 

For me it was the ability to move out but I have a reasons as in 2 months in and the relationship is moving along; I'll move out and buy a place. I guess she was concerned about the perpetual "momma's boy", codependenc and laziness.

 

If I was a girl, it would be turn off but my reasons are grad school and why spend the money on others when you can "keep it in the family." I would also ask why and keep the communications open.

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