Does she really want me back?

[figgurinoutlife]

I cannot figure my ex out! We have been broken for over a year by mutual choice so I could get my self straightened out. I tried to get back with her last march but she didn't want too so I did NC for 2 mos. after that. Then she called and we got the friendship rolling again. She has dated and now has a on again off again boyfriend that she's been dating for a year. I am currently single. She has always had a huge space in her heart for me and told me last october that she is still in love with me.

 

She would do that, ever since October tell me sometimes that she still loves me, and misses me then nothing for awhile, then 2 weeks to a month later she'll bring it up again. She wrote me some I miss you notes for a couple weeks then that stopped. When she says those things I don't say much but maybe say I miss her too, and I have said I love her back a couple times, but I absolutely never bring up getting back together cause I don't want to get rejected again. Basically I just live my life and try to talk like we are friends.

 

Well, a month ago she told me her boyfriend and her were broken up, but still living together. A week ago she said her boyfriend didn't want to break up and she told him she could never date him again. About 3 days ago we were on the phone and she said once again that she missses me, and misses being with me and asked me if I would date her again and I said "I don't know." I asked her if she would date me again and she said "yes." Then she asked if there was anything that I would change about her if we were to date again and I said "not really."

 

Well she hasn't brought it up again since about us getting back together. 2 days ago she called me and was bawling saying her now ex boyfriend was packing his stuff and moving out of state, and I said "why do you care?" She said "cause I love him." I asked her if she wanted him back and she said she did not.

 

Well I am just about fed up with her back and forth behavior so I texted her last night saying you can tell me a thousand times you love me and miss me, but ultimately actions speak louder than words. She replied with yeah, no sh**.

 

She said she has been trying to lead up to something between us for quite a while and that is why her behavior has been so weird.

 

So can someone say they would date you again, and just change their mind the next day? Do you think she is serious and will want to date me again? I do want her back, how do I go about this?

[Still_In_Love]

IMO...I think she misses certain aspects of what you were. When anyone dates someome else, they will always compare their ex with the new person...it's human nature. I think she realized that her latest boyfriend isn't what she hoped he would be and is looking for a comfort zone. She probably figured she had you in her back pocket. The question is if she does or not.

Funny, I always hoped that my ex would realize what she had with me and come back...now...not a chance!

However, you seem to have control over what could happen...good luck!

[Dinnj1]

I cannot figure my ex out!

Big surprise here.... good luck trying, but it'll never happen.

 

tell me sometimes that she still loves me, and misses me then nothing for awhile, then 2 weeks to a month later she'll bring it up again.

like deja' vu for me... been there/done that.

 

her boyfriend and her were broken up, but still living together.

and still having sex... sorry.

 

I said "why do you care?" She said "cause I love him."

hmmm, wonder why you can't figure her out... BIG RED FLAG HERE!

 

but ultimately actions speak louder than words.

True that! now keep that in the back of your mind.

 

She said she has been trying to lead up to something between us for quite a while and that is why her behavior has been so weird.

translated = I'm keeping you on the back burner till I decide what I wanna do.

 

So can someone say they would date you again, and just change their mind the next day?

Proof is in the puddin'... stated and proved in your thread to us. You and her already answered this question.

 

Do you think she is serious and will want to date me again?

answer-

but ultimately actions speak louder than words.

 

IMO, if she was serious... you'd be back in the sack again with her, but instead, she's crying over him moving. Think about it.

 

I do want her back, how do I go about this?

Most likely, if you had her back.... you probably wouldn't want her. In the mean time, it's outta your hands... honestly. Go about your life... if she wants you back.... her 'actions' will show it.