my story - sent into cyberspace

[chelbell5]

me and my boyfriend have been going out for going on a year and a half.. for a while now, his a**h*** father, ( more into that later) has been talking about moving to Arkansas, Wisconsin, even Bermuda. Lemme tell you, it's a surefire way to keep your son and his girlfriend on their toes and to really never take for granted the time the spent together.

 

A series of events led up to my situation.

 

Both of my parents have cheated on each other recently, both within the past 2 years? So theres some definate trust issues there; While my boyfriend's father has cheated on his mother SEVERAL times, with SEVERAL different women - he travels across the world, so you can just imagine, and i dunno if this would make a difference or not, but he has also posted a profile on Yahoo! Personals, using a alias.. all the while being married to one of the most pretty women i have ever seen - my boyfriend's mother.

 

Previously, my boyfriend's father has tried moving down south, but didn't get the job. Then he tried moving across state, but didn't get the house. So as you can imagine, me and my boyfriend, who lives less than 5 miles away, were more than relieved.

 

Now here's the low point. Brace yourselves, it gets sticky.

 

Our parents started to get close, until Super Bowl sunday, when his father tried to feel up MY mother, after my dad stormed out after a fight between him and mom. To make things worse, he tried doing it RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIS WIFE..

 

my mom, who was more than intoxicated wound up taking us home after 1 in the morning, and told my dad about it, who of course, blamed it on me, who in turn, blamed in on him. If he never would have left us there, selfishly, this never would have happened. And my parents proceed to get into the biggest fight of their entire relationship.

 

And I was told I was forbidden to see my boyfriend ever again. ( Which is kinda inevitable since we go to school together, at least for now.)

I bawled, and I moved in with my Aunt to get away from my parents, who I told I hated them and never wanted to see them. And they told me it wasn't their fault that this happened, I could blame myself and in the end, I would see this was for my own good.

 

I called my boyfriend in tears and he cried too, told his mom and his mom flipped out on the a**h*** he calls his father. Later on, his father called my mom and apologized for everything, even went as far as to apologize to me. So that got straightened out.

 

Fast Forward to Valentines Day. I have this joke with my boyfriend, saying that every single holiday goes wrong, cuz we always get bad news. (FORESHADOWING!) For example, on my 16th birthday, I found out he was moving to Arkansas. On Thanksgiving, I was told by his dad that 'I'm only 16, a long distance relationship will never work out, no matter how committed we are." On Christmas, I was hospitallized for stomach damage due to an infection in my lympnodes (sp?) and his father refused to let my boyfriend come visit me, but his mother insisted on it. On New Year's Day, his father told me I better enjoy this New Years, cuz I won't be more than a memory by the next one. But soon after new years, we found out that he wasn't moving. YAY!

 

So I was pretty certain valentines day was going to be a bomb. but no, it went very very well. Probably one of the happiest days of my life. Let me just say, there is nothing better than just enjoying the day with the person you love most in the world. NOTHING better.

 

But little did I know, the day before Valentines Day, my boyfriend found out that they would be moving to Lousiana, his father had already given his workplace 2 weeks notice, and they were putting his home up for sale. But he didn't wanna tell me on valentines day, because of my resentment for holidays.

 

...So I found out the day after.

 

Currently, his parents are having a wee bit of troubles, due to his father's wondering penis. But his dad insists that nothing has ever happened with the multiple number of girls he's been seeing. And the personals site? 'I dunno how that got there.."

 

But his mom is being bought out, just like every other time this has happened, And my boyfriend insists that it's still uncertain that they will be moving.

 

I'll admit it, some people may call me pessimistic, but I believe I'm more cynical and realistic, which i happen to think, in todays world is a good trait. But my boyfriend seems to be losing his grip on reality and he's completely optimistic. Maybe thats why we feel we're so meant to be, we keep each other balanced.

 

I don't seem to have a question in this post, just sending my situation out into cyberspace, maybe someone will read it and actually care. It's hard to find someone around here willing to listen and actually care.

 

I told my boyfriend, as much as I love him, that I don't want to "try" to carry on a long distance relationship. If we're gonna do it, we're gonna do it. I don't wanna wake up one morning, 6 months or a year down the road and be dumped. Then all I'm left with is memories and a waste of time.

 

I dunno what to do anymore.. And that scares me. If you intend to reply to this post as 'well, you're still young.. you don't know what real love is.. etc.' don't bother posting.

 

Saying someone to too young to love is like saying someone is too young to cry.

 

Any advice or similar stories is more welcome.

[whichwayisup]

Don't give up! You and your boyfriend have something special, despite alll the bulls*** both sets of folks (nice role models btw) are doing around you.

 

I think you should give the LD relationship a chance, just to see what happens. IF it is too difficult to maintain then atleast you tried. If you end it now, you'll always wonder if you did the right thing.

 

Who knows what the future holds. Live in the now and enjoy life as it is. The rest will happen as it will...

 

Good luck and I have to say, I'm really sorry that each of you have cheating parents. That really SUCKS and I wish they could see what it's doing to you. Trust issues, insecurities...They need to s*** or get off the pot. Staying in a marriage and still cheating opening is just plain stupid and selfish.

 

Hang in there and keep posting! I'd like to know how things go with you two in the future.