Dreamer084 Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Well..heres my little view on things and how stuff is playing out in my life. Gf broke up with me in late november..early december...I was on these forums man posting my story..caliguy and some other people gave me REAL GOOD ADVICE. Took it to heart. Worked on myself and realized I didn't need anyone in my life. I love myself. I bring happiness to myself..Now its the end of February ok..and guess what..who calls and texts me all the time? My ex..thats right. She misses the past..she misses me. In december I would of killed and mamed to be with her. Now I dont even want to be with her. Funny how things change huh? I met a new girl and she absolutely adores me. Things are going really well with her. It's not a rebound by any means because I wasn't even looking and it was pure consequedence that we ran into each other. I was in love with my ex gf and then I realized why would I give someone a second chance that hurt me that bad and put me through all that pain? They will do it again..maybe I'm bitter..idk..point is a break up..is a BREAK UP. I've learned so much about myself and about relationships in the past 4 months. Their is a light at the end of the tunnel. No women wants a guy whos a sap..who doesn't have confidence..who doesn't love himself..believe me..I know. Just thought I would share this. Link to post Share on other sites
Onwards Posted February 26, 2006 Share Posted February 26, 2006 Thanks for that post bro, brilliant to hear. I think that alot of heartache is caused because we don't know what to do after a break-up. We try all manner of 'plans' to get exes back which ultimately end up hurting us more without realising that we should be working on healing ourselves. The break-up that I have just gone through has been the least traumatic, NOT because of the strength of my feelings for my ex but because of my past experiences. From the past I have learnt what has prolonged my pain and what has ended it...ending it was always the same...No Contact. This time, I took things into my own hands and implemented no contact as soon as I could. Usually if I tried this I would weaken and break it....but this time it's been alot easier to do - because I know it is the RIGHT thing to do. Thanks again for the post - I'm sure alot here will appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
sick of it Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 how did you "work" on yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Good to hear it. Again, it's all about assessing what went wrong, how you can improve and getting on with your life. No looking back once you've healed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted February 28, 2006 Author Share Posted February 28, 2006 How did I work on myself? Kept myself busy..Through time realized that I should not depend on anyone for my happiness. No one likes someone that is dependent upon them. Women or Men want someone who is compatible. People depend on their partners for happiness. In the long run..that really isn't attractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Mariella43 Posted February 28, 2006 Share Posted February 28, 2006 Dreamer - great news - congrats! What helped you was finding someone else quickly after your breakup who has helped you forget! The rest of us haven't been so lucky. We're still trying to recover while gather the strength to get back into dating. I haven't had any luck meeting anyone new and exciting. Most of the guys that cross my path look like cast members from the movie "Deliverance". Link to post Share on other sites
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