Friend Posted September 3, 2001 Share Posted September 3, 2001 Well, another weekend past..and I'm still guessing. Although, this weekend seemed to clear up a few things for me. My "friend" seems rather possessive! He saw me talking to a few guys and..if looks could kill!! One guy put his hand on my shoulder and I was teasing him and told him to get his hands off me..Well, my "friend" looked him square in the eye and said, very seriously, "you have been warned". Also, last night, he mentioned 2 or 3 times that he really didn't want to go home, but, he had nothing else to do...Then he got real quiet. Was I suppose to come up with something? I swear, I am so confused! Why so jealous and possessive, yet so reluctant to say anything or make any kind of move? Is it one of things, he don't want me but, don't want anybody else to have me either? This man is not a child, he is a 55 year old man. Why are we playing these games? Any clue? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted September 3, 2001 Share Posted September 3, 2001 My god, he's 55? that's funny. did u ever make any moves? like invite him over or something? i have a similar no-moves-but-seeming-interest deal, but with a 21 year old guy so ... it's fun if they keep us guessing eh good luck Well, another weekend past..and I'm still guessing. Although, this weekend seemed to clear up a few things for me. My "friend" seems rather possessive! He saw me talking to a few guys and..if looks could kill!! One guy put his hand on my shoulder and I was teasing him and told him to get his hands off me..Well, my "friend" looked him square in the eye and said, very seriously, "you have been warned". Also, last night, he mentioned 2 or 3 times that he really didn't want to go home, but, he had nothing else to do...Then he got real quiet. Was I suppose to come up with something? I swear, I am so confused! Why so jealous and possessive, yet so reluctant to say anything or make any kind of move? Is it one of things, he don't want me but, don't want anybody else to have me either? This man is not a child, he is a 55 year old man. Why are we playing these games? Any clue? Link to post Share on other sites
Friend Posted September 3, 2001 Share Posted September 3, 2001 Well, yeah, I did..last weekend. He said he was tired and didn't feel like it! I guess 55 does sound kinda old huh? Well, I'm not so young myself, thats why this is so crazy! My god, he's 55? that's funny. did u ever make any moves? like invite him over or something? i have a similar no-moves-but-seeming-interest deal, but with a 21 year old guy so ... it's fun if they keep us guessing eh good luck Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted September 4, 2001 Share Posted September 4, 2001 he said that?? whoa ... and never suggested an alternative day? i feel for u though - i'm getting tons of mixed signals too. hmm, maybe you should try again ... maybe something more neutral - like going for ice cream ... good luck! men are weird eh Well, yeah, I did..last weekend. He said he was tired and didn't feel like it! I guess 55 does sound kinda old huh? Well, I'm not so young myself, thats why this is so crazy! Link to post Share on other sites
sparkle Posted September 4, 2001 Share Posted September 4, 2001 Ask him one time if he wants to have dinner with you or go watch a movie. You can even tell him that you're interested in him if you like. If he declines, he is pretty confused and you don't need to put up with his jealousy. At this point, you need to be upfront with him. Tell him that since he is just your friend, he has no right to act possessive and get upset if some guy puts his hands on you. That is NONE of his business. You have to be firm about this and make sure he understands clearly. Link to post Share on other sites
LaRue Posted September 4, 2001 Share Posted September 4, 2001 If you make the move then he can't blame his encounter with you on himself. I wouldn't doubt there is someone else in his life and he is really confused himself. So if you jump his bones, he can blame it on you and not take any responsibility himself for being unfaithful to another woman. Men at 55 are never that tired. Well, another weekend past..and I'm still guessing. Although, this weekend seemed to clear up a few things for me. My "friend" seems rather possessive! He saw me talking to a few guys and..if looks could kill!! One guy put his hand on my shoulder and I was teasing him and told him to get his hands off me..Well, my "friend" looked him square in the eye and said, very seriously, "you have been warned". Also, last night, he mentioned 2 or 3 times that he really didn't want to go home, but, he had nothing else to do...Then he got real quiet. Was I suppose to come up with something? I swear, I am so confused! Why so jealous and possessive, yet so reluctant to say anything or make any kind of move? Is it one of things, he don't want me but, don't want anybody else to have me either? This man is not a child, he is a 55 year old man. Why are we playing these games? Any clue? Link to post Share on other sites
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