i need he needs

[sad girl mad girl]

i feel so bad about my relationship i'm ashamed to talk to anyone about this

i have before and my friend made me feel worse

what she can't understand is that i love my boyfriend and i need help with communication

i have tried to talk to him about it but he feels it's what guys do and what i don't understand is why he looks so ashamed of it when i bring it up

i don't think guilt is healthy, it only can bring him down so i feel stuck

how can i say what i need to say without making him feel bad.

[jandy girl]

try using "i "statements so your man does not feel you are attacking him and rather focusing on how you feel, eg: I feel lonely/hurt/rejected when you dont return my calls. remember to label your feelings and state why you feel this way, stay away from, statments like ;yeah but you always ...... it will put him on the defensive, and perhaps if you have a suggestion about how to fix it pose it to him and ask him an open ended question to try and get him to open up, he will at least need to respond with more than a simple yes or no which is a start

 

good luck chicky, love is hard, and wonderful and sucky and beautiful all at once ;-)