joel. Posted February 27, 2006 Share Posted February 27, 2006 Hey, I'm in high school. And there's this girl that I had a crush on for awhile. She liked me a couple years ago, and as far as I know she still likes me right now, alittle. I never asked her out back then b/c of some stupid reasons I don't want to get into right now... Anyways, A few months ago she broke up w/ her boyfriend. So, I asked her out. But she only thought that I wanted to hangout, so she went out w/ someone else. Eventually she found out I was asking her out, and she didn't really know how to respond. Eventually we just started looking and smiling at eachother in the hall. You know flirting a little, or just being friendly. I kinda chased her for a couple months. But I took some advice from a friend.... He told me just to forget about her, and to move on. That I shouldn't be going after a girl with a boyfriend. And I agreed, I knew that I was pretty much obsessing over her. I never found this out, but she a couple weeks after that she broke up w/ her boyfriend. So now, She's going out w/ someone else again. Now, honestly I feel like $hit. I took some advice, stopped pursuing her and now passed up my chance to go out w/ her. Can anyone give me advice on what I should do? I can't forget about her now, b/c I'm really afraid I might pass up my chance again.... Is there anyway to become her friend, get close to her, or sumthing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel. Posted February 28, 2006 Author Share Posted February 28, 2006 Can someone please give me some advice? Honestly, I feel really bad.... What should I do...? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted March 1, 2006 Share Posted March 1, 2006 well u gave up on her so forget her and seriously do move on. you listened to your friend and not of what you believed and now you paid the price Link to post Share on other sites
hails_storm Posted March 1, 2006 Share Posted March 1, 2006 Now i don't know this girl at all, so i apologise completely if this offends you. If she jumps so quickly between boyfriends ( like she seems to in you speel) than maybe it's best that you don't date her. totaly be her friend, and when she wants a real relationship thats when it's time to make your move. Just don't hang around trying to get your timing right Link to post Share on other sites
no-one Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I think you should just try to be friends with her, for now. Stay with her, and when the timing is right then make your move. I'm sorry if you get upset at this, but I think it's funny how you listen to some advice to get over her and you miss your chance to go out with her, and now your waiting again. Like I said, just try to be a friend to her. She has a boyfriend, so take a backseat for now and see what happens. You're in highschool, odds are she won't marry him.... SO there is still some hope, not much but some.... Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I missed out on the girl I was chasing but couldn't get in reach. I ended up missing out due to some revision of my attraction. The fact she already had a long distance b.f and was flirting with others. She's now with another guy alongside the long distance guy. If I look at it now I probably made the rigth decision. If she's happy to flirt with multiple men and also cheat on her B.F. then maybe shes not the one for me. Now I have to try and move on, only problem is shes in the group of friends I go out with every night Blast! *Dons his sexy clothes and plans to do his best with someone else tonight!* Link to post Share on other sites
kevinab1984 Posted March 4, 2006 Share Posted March 4, 2006 i really need some help. right now i am single and have no one!! i jsut seem to ahve a ahrd time to get girls.. I am very shy and dont know really how to approach one or even what to say. can someone please help e by giving me some advice on how to apporach one , get their attention. What is the best way to open up to a girl that you see in public like estraunts, malls, etc please help me Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted March 5, 2006 Share Posted March 5, 2006 i really need some help. right now i am single and have no one!! i jsut seem to ahve a ahrd time to get girls.. I am very shy and dont know really how to approach one or even what to say. can someone please help e by giving me some advice on how to apporach one , get their attention. What is the best way to open up to a girl that you see in public like estraunts, malls, etc please help me Honestly, if you're the shy type, you're not going to have much success picking up girls at restaurants and malls. Even highly confident guys don't have a very high success rate in those scenarios. I'd stick to talking to girls at school and getting to know them first and then suggesting you two hang out. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 You sound like you're in the same boat as me Kev. Its best if you find some girls in the groups of friends you have. Some things to think about conversations in my opinion: If unsure on what you're gonna talk about then just switch positions and think of how you'd respond to that topic - if you think it may be be a bit boring or may not last long conversation wise try to think of another. Now for a copy + paste of what i'm trying to talk about in convos Keep the focus of the conversation about her. People love to talk about themselves, especially about their ambitions and dreams. Always keep good eye contact, but never stare. Never talk about guy stuff (cars, sports, sex, etc.) unless she brings it up. Try to always ask open-ended questions. Avoid topics about politics or relationships. Always keep the conversation upbeat. Link to post Share on other sites
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