Ally Posted September 5, 2001 Share Posted September 5, 2001 I'm dating a guy that doesn't go hard. I mean, he'll get ready turned on and everything and always wants sex, but he only gets half hard . This makes it hard for him stay inside me. I then get all discourage from doing it with him, and then he complains and asks why I always back off. I don't have the heart to tell him why I always get discouraged. What to do?? Link to post Share on other sites
d Posted September 5, 2001 Share Posted September 5, 2001 I'd hate to recommend Viagra to anyone who is under 44, but if he is, maybe there's another problem. How's the foreplay? If you can't extend it any futher, perhaps you should ask him if there anything you can do to further stimulate him. Link to post Share on other sites
Dave Posted September 5, 2001 Share Posted September 5, 2001 It could be either physical or psychological. If he is under 45, chances are it is pshychological and he is either being nervous, pressured or under stress. Talk with him and try not to pressure him for a while. He can pleasure you in so many other ways than inserting his penis in you. He has a mouth, fingers....go from there. Masturbate him, see if he can get hard by masturbation.. Also, you have not mentioned, whether he loses his erection when putting a condom on. I used to have a same problem, but my girl-friend was supportive enough and helped me overcome this anxiety. I stopped using a condom for a while, that helped a lot... the most important thing is not to get discouraged. These kind of things are more common than you think... Try to just enjoy each other, and when he feels more comfortable, then try intercourse. Trust me, he probably can give you good orgasms through oral sex alone.. But first make sure whether he gets erections at all. If he can get a good erection when masturbating, then this whole thing is mental, and it can be worked out with time. If he is pshysically impotent, then I suggest he visit a doctor, and get either Viagra, or something else Good luck I'm dating a guy that doesn't go hard. I mean, he'll get ready turned on and everything and always wants sex, but he only gets half hard . This makes it hard for him stay inside me. I then get all discourage from doing it with him, and then he complains and asks why I always back off. I don't have the heart to tell him why I always get discouraged. What to do?? Link to post Share on other sites
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