make-it>LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP>break-it

[anthony]

My girlfriend of 3 years has just moved to the East Coast to finish college (by the way, I'm on the West). We've decided long before she moved that we wanted to stay together and that the bigger picture was that our love is strong enough to manage the distance.

 

It's only been one month, and I'm already miserable for the following reasons:

 

1. I'm used to seeing her every weekend (we used to live 1 ½ hours from each other).

 

2. I'm lonely as *&@# without her

 

3. I must admit, I'm a lil worried if she's going to go outside the bounds of our relationship while in away from me.

 

4. LET'S NOT FORGET THE NEW ABSENCE OF INTIMACY

 

We talk every day and 2-way each other throughout, but I'm just sick without her. I even thought/think about moving out there with her, but am not sure if that's a good idea. Since this is the first time she's lived on her own, I think the experience will mature her as a person and give her a sense of greater independence before we get married. If I moved out there with her, I'm worried that she would feel that I'm pressuring her and that we might as well get married... to that I don't think we're both quite ready(but we're close).

 

However, I've heard, and know of countless relationships where one or both parties, used that new found freedom and distance from each other to utterly screw (no pun intended) up their relationship. I'm not worried about myself as far as staying committed to her. This may sound strange, but I'm around me all the time and see what I do... I don't know what she's doing in my absence.

 

I guess I'm looking for a way to keep from going crazy, avoid making her crazy with my worries, and when it's all said and done, look at everyone who has said, "Are you crazy? You know she'll eventually start doing..... a,b,c,d,e,g & !"

 

????ANY SUGGESTIONS?????

[Peaches]

If you two were meant to be, than things will work out for the best. There will probably be bumps along the way. Don't worry so much. If you two are committed to each other as you say you are, I think you have nothing to worry about. Trust in her, as you would want her to trust in you. You both lived through a medium distance relationship...maybe you can do the same with the long distance one.

 

Peaches

[Tony T]

You sound like a really cool, rational, head-together, considerate, thoughtful kind of guy and this gal should feel very lucky to have you. If she's the same, I know this will last and get better with time as long as you talk often and visit her as often as you can.

 

You are right. She does need some time to live alone and see the ways of the world. Yes, time and distance can dull our feelings for someone but if it's the real thing, those dormant feelings can come back instantly when you are once again together geographically.

 

If your lady is as sharp as you, I think you'll make a great couple.

 

The next time you see her, propose to her...give her a ring...lock this deal down...and when you feel ready, reserve the church, the reception hall and the caterer.

 

This sounds like the real thing to me!!!

[d]

My girlfriend of 3 years has just moved to the East Coast to finish college (by the way, I'm on the West). We've decided long before she moved that we wanted to stay together and that the bigger picture was that our love is strong enough to manage the distance. It's only been one month, and I'm already miserable for the following reasons: 1. I'm used to seeing her every weekend (we used to live 1 ½ hours from each other). 2. I'm lonely as *&@# without her 3. I must admit, I'm a lil worried if she's going to go outside the bounds of our relationship while in away from me. 4. LET'S NOT FORGET THE NEW ABSENCE OF INTIMACY

 

We talk every day and 2-way each other throughout, but I'm just sick without her. I even thought/think about moving out there with her, but am not sure if that's a good idea. Since this is the first time she's lived on her own, I think the experience will mature her as a person and give her a sense of greater independence before we get married. If I moved out there with her, I'm worried that she would feel that I'm pressuring her and that we might as well get married... to that I don't think we're both quite ready(but we're close).

 

However, I've heard, and know of countless relationships where one or both parties, used that new found freedom and distance from each other to utterly screw (no pun intended) up their relationship. I'm not worried about myself as far as staying committed to her. This may sound strange, but I'm around me all the time and see what I do... I don't know what she's doing in my absence. I guess I'm looking for a way to keep from going crazy, avoid making her crazy with my worries, and when it's all said and done, look at everyone who has said, "Are you crazy? You know she'll eventually start doing..... a,b,c,d,e,g!" and say back to them, I TOLD YOU WE LOVE EACH OTHER ????ANY SUGGESTIONS?????