Meaplus3 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 The MM that I have been having an emotional affair (in my opinon not his )told me tonight that he talks to all the ladies and gives them advice, that's just who he is? He made me break down and cry to him realizing that there is something missing in my marriage or with myself, very good at shelling out the Dr. Phil advice here! I told him to end this I wanted to see him in person. About 30 minutes after we hung up he was at my door, as he lives next door. He told his wife I needed help with something since my H is away. He gave me the 5 minutes I asked for. I am so ticked by his innocent behavior cause in my opinion if he so enjoyed talking to me and all these ladies then something must be missing in his marriage dont' you think so??? He say's not! He enjoyed all of our sexual chat's and we almost took thing's a step further. I will admit that I am the one that pursued him, but only after month's of signal's that were a major two way street. He also told me that sex is pretty much all biological thing for men. I think this guy get's off on talking to woman behind his wife's back but feels he is safe as long as he does not have sexual encounter with them. In my opnion this is cheating on his wife. What do you think? To understand this more see my Emotional affair post from yesterday. Thanks had to share! Link to post Share on other sites
scarletletter Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Wow...sounds like he's a real mess! From what I have read it appears that he likes to turn women on, get them to the point of hitting on him to see how far he can take it without actually cheating sexually. He may just get his thrills out of doing this. I would back off from him because he sounds like trouble. Men get cheap thrills out of doing the sickest things. Who knows, maybe he got scared because he realized that it just might go somewhere that he wasn't quite ready to go? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 Wow...sounds like he's a real mess! From what I have read it appears that he likes to turn women on, get them to the point of hitting on him to see how far he can take it without actually cheating sexually. He may just get his thrills out of doing this. I would back off from him because he sounds like trouble. Men get cheap thrills out of doing the sickest things. Who knows, maybe he got scared because he realized that it just might go somewhere that he wasn't quite ready to go? Thank's for your imput. I know I am a mess right now and need to work on my marriage and myself. I am just so darn mad that he made it sound tonight like I was the only one with the "issues" I clearly think he has many of his own! Link to post Share on other sites
scarletletter Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Certainly sounds that way. Men and their egos!!! I'm sure you are very mad at him right now but just be glad it didn't go any further. Sounds like it may have backfired on you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 Certainly sounds that way. Men and their egos!!! I'm sure you are very mad at him right now but just be glad it didn't go any further. Sounds like it may have backfired on you. I agree with the ego thing as I sit here crying.I am not crying over him, I am crying over the fact that he had the power over me to make me realize that I need to fix what's missing with H. Why should he be the saint here, but in a way I am greatful! Link to post Share on other sites
scarletletter Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Don't be so hard on yourself, you were weak and he was an idiot. Consider yourself lucky now that he has shown you a side of him that you didn't know before. You are clearly the better person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Meaplus3 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 Don't be so hard on yourself, you were weak and he was an idiot. Consider yourself lucky now that he has shown you a side of him that you didn't know before. You are clearly the better person. Thanks for saying that! I was weak and still am. Ya know all this time I thought he was so attractive and now, I am not so sure. I feel like I have been used in a way for him to get his cheap thrill's, cause it seems to be he is good at that. I thought his wife was so lucky and I admit I was a bit jealous of her for landing what I thought was The Perfect Man. Well now I feel sorry for her. If he talks with lady friends all the time then he is not the perfect husband, something is lacking with dear wife! Link to post Share on other sites
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