Author Simons Posted March 8, 2006 Author Share Posted March 8, 2006 RE: (Laughing) Of course, you are certainly free fight for whatever you feel is worthwhile. And, I doubt that you will die single. (Smile) You seem very aggressive in pursuing what (who) you want, -but remember: she doesn't seem to want you with the same verve, judging only by the information you give on the matter in your posts. Still, I am all for heroic attempts at love, now and then, -however, I like rooting for those romantics who have all the necessary ingredients for it, before wasting my breath and getting my hopes all up. I'm sure there is information missing that would probably enlighten us further about your story, -but, as for me, I keep bearing down on that one bit of info that, to me, is so important when it comes to fighting for love: the estranged object of affection must have a deeply-rooted speck of love embedded somewhere inside them which becomes the basis for all the effort. If that speck doesn't exist, all is for nought. You seem to think it may be there, -we do not have that info to feedback and sanction your efforts. But, I'm sure that, despite our reserved and urged caution, and -er, experience, -everyone hopes you are correct. Good Luck! (Smile) -Rio So the reason of not contacting her is to do with the fact that i will be hurt after that???, lowering my dignity and stuff??. What if i don't care about that? What if i think i feel stronger now than 4 months ago and i can stand the outcome?. Well, i am gonna call her this weekend and set a date with her. I hope i 'll get answers to my questions and hopefully it will be done with. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Whatever you need to do to let go, do it. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I 'Ditto' CaliGuy... P.S. Good Luck. And the following LS links might be helpful. -Rio The Links: About Getting Closure... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=731120#post731120 Protecting Your Self-Respect http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=730975#post730975 Handling Possible Reconciliation http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=723280#post723280 If You Choose To Try Again... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=722679#post722679 What We Mean When We Say 'Time Is A Healer' http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t83635/ Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 So the reason of not contacting her is to do with the fact that i will be hurt after that???, lowering my dignity and stuff??. What if i don't care about that? What if i think i feel stronger now than 4 months ago and i can stand the outcome?. Well, i am gonna call her this weekend and set a date with her. I hope i 'll get answers to my questions and hopefully it will be done with. You don't care about *lowering your dignity*? Good god, man, where the hell is your self-respect?! Every time I was dumped I never looked back. Right from the very day I was dumped. Why would I even entertain the thought of giving them any sort of satisfaction? You should be thinking that way as well. Ah... *beep* it. Go ahead and call her... set your *date* with her... and expect to come out of it even more angry and bitter than before cuz she will tell you all sorts of things to REALLY piss you off. Good luck... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simons Posted March 8, 2006 Author Share Posted March 8, 2006 You don't care about *lowering your dignity*? Good god, man, where the hell is your self-respect?! Every time I was dumped I never looked back. Right from the very day I was dumped. Why would I even entertain the thought of giving them any sort of satisfaction? You should be thinking that way as well. Ah... *beep* it. Go ahead and call her... set your *date* with her... and expect to come out of it even more angry and bitter than before cuz she will tell you all sorts of things to REALLY piss you off. Good luck... if you check my posts, i am really trying to understand what it is with women. Jumping on to the next relationship will not make it better either. If it means lowering my dignity but i get to know whats up, i think that would be a score. Right now i have nothing...i don't know why she ended the relationship. I have no clue what i did wrong. Out of no where she tells me she has a bf. Don't you think it could have been ok then, if she could tell me why she opted out? I am scared to go out there and repeat the same mistakes. ???? Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 if you check my posts, i am really trying to understand what it is with women. Jumping on to the next relationship will not make it better either. If it means lowering my dignity but i get to know whats up, i think that would be a score. Right now i have nothing...i don't know why she ended the relationship. I have no clue what i did wrong. Out of no where she tells me she has a bf. Don't you think it could have been ok then, if she could tell me why she opted out? I am scared to go out there and repeat the same mistakes. ???? Are you sure you're the one who made the mistakes? And the hell with *whassup* - she left you, she now has a new beau, AND she frigging tells you too! All she wants is a reaction out of you - and you are preparing to give her exactly what she wants. Don't do it. Who cares why she ended the relationship anyway - not ALL women are the same so her *beep* reasons won't mean jack. You do not need to change... just go on being who you are and you will find the right woman for you (or maybe she will find you). Bottom line - she left you, she ended the relationship, it's over. You need to move on and never look back. Act as if she is *dead* to you because she IS. Link to post Share on other sites
qnmc Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I hope for all the best for you. But be prepared for her to "let you down easy," which means she'll try to say it was her and not you or something along those lines and leave you even more confused. She'll feel like she's being nice, but all it does is dangle false hope. Like I said, I really hope this works out for you, but if she isn't interested hopefully she'll do you a favor and tell you plainly that she just wasn't interested anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simons Posted March 8, 2006 Author Share Posted March 8, 2006 I hope for all the best for you. But be prepared for her to "let you down easy," which means she'll try to say it was her and not you or something along those lines and leave you even more confused. She'll feel like she's being nice, but all it does is dangle false hope. Like I said, I really hope this works out for you, but if she isn't interested hopefully she'll do you a favor and tell you plainly that she just wasn't interested anymore. well WTF!, to hell with her. 4 months i have known nothing but pain, if contacting her will only bring more pain, better prevention that cure. Good riddance,i say. Lets see whats rolls out of this. thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 well WTF!, to hell with her. 4 months i have known nothing but pain, if contacting her will only bring more pain, better prevention that cure. Good riddance,i say. Lets see whats rolls out of this. thanks guys Good man... now stick to it! Link to post Share on other sites
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