GoingDownSwinging Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 He called last night. I answered. I had been thinking and praying about what to do and I felt like I really wanted to hear what he had to say. After all he was the dumper and was the one who initiated the NC so if he called then I should answer, right? Wrong! He called about 1:30 this AM and was obviously drunk. He appeared to be nice and then began to insult me again just as he has everytime we have talked for the last month. We talked for about 2 min and I then heard his freinds laughing in the background, so I hung up. He called and called and called. He sent me several vulgar text messages and even sent one that said "You are doing a great job, keep it up", as if him calling was supposed to be a test. He then called and left me a voicemail and I though I was going to lose it. He said: "Hi (my name), I'm sorry about calling you. I meant to call (the name of the new girl he is supposedly seeing). I hope everything is going horrible for you." I didn't respond and he continued to call. I am past the point where I feel like I need to talk to him or that I even want to talk to him. I don'tk know honestly why I answered the phone the first time. It felt like the right thing to do at the time. Is it all about control? Yes. Does he care about me? Probably not. Will he call again? I'm sure. I think I have a pretty good hold on the situation but I would like to see what you guys think... Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 I think he's an immature jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
destination_unknown Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 I agree with CaliGuy. I was the "bad one" in a relationship but the kind of behaviour this guy is carrying on with is completely childish, actually most kids i know wouldnt even be that cruel. I hope you dont feel too terrible, I imagine I would be in bits if somebody I thought cared about me spoke to me and tried to humiliate me in that way. Is there anyway that you could block his number? Nobody needs that kind of treatment in their life. I hope things start to get better for you soon. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 Exactly. Be the bigger person here. Just forget this guy. If he calls or text, ignore it. His behavior is exactly why you should be glad you are broken up. Do you want to deal with an immature jerk like him for the rest of your life? Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoingDownSwinging Posted March 3, 2006 Author Share Posted March 3, 2006 Thanks for your input all! Ya'll see the situation just like I do. He has been calling again today and acting like he doesn't remember last night. I haven't answered. He even had the audacity to send me a text message saying that he would pick me up from the airport today (I had purchased tickets to go see him this weekend but canceled them when this mess started...at his request). He seriously has issues. My cell phone provider won't allow me to block his number. I figure I will just continue to not answer and maybe he will quit calling soon. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 Thanks for your input all! Ya'll see the situation just like I do. He has been calling again today and acting like he doesn't remember last night. I haven't answered. He even had the audacity to send me a text message saying that he would pick me up from the airport today (I had purchased tickets to go see him this weekend but canceled them when this mess started...at his request). He seriously has issues. My cell phone provider won't allow me to block his number. I figure I will just continue to not answer and maybe he will quit calling soon. Ignore, ignore, ignore. You are doing the right thing. To say he has issues, madam, would be a serious understatement. Link to post Share on other sites
In Sync Posted March 4, 2006 Share Posted March 4, 2006 This guy sound incredibly pathetic...Not only is his behavior reveal that he's low grade in being like a man department but he's clearly disrespectful to you. This is NOT love in any way shape or form. A man who loves you does not want to disrespect you, humiliate you or harass you. But what's sadder is the fact that you even have to ask "does he care about me?" Now is the time to reexamine why you would even want to have anything to do with him. Don't you think you deserve better? Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoingDownSwinging Posted March 4, 2006 Author Share Posted March 4, 2006 So he kept calling and sending TM yesterday. And you know what? Just like a fool, I answered. My plan was to answer and tell him to please stop calling. Well I told him just that. Did he stop calling? No! I think he had called so many times that it wore me down. After calling back several more times he sent me a very nasty TM and stated that I would never see his number on my caller ID again. I am hoping he is being serious, but I know he probably isn't. Link to post Share on other sites
In Sync Posted March 4, 2006 Share Posted March 4, 2006 So he kept calling and sending TM yesterday. And you know what? Just like a fool, I answered. My plan was to answer and tell him to please stop calling. Well I told him just that. Did he stop calling? No! I think he had called so many times that it wore me down. After calling back several more times he sent me a very nasty TM and stated that I would never see his number on my caller ID again. I am hoping he is being serious, but I know he probably isn't. At this point you know that he's a loose cannon, who is basically trying to intimidate you. And you wanted to be with this guy? Stop inviting this negativity into your life and leaving it to chance that it will stop. Take responsibility and cease all communication with him. If it means changing you cell number..do it. Your peace of mind is more important at this stage than waiting around and wondering if he's going to call you again. BTW, this waiting and hoping he won't call is a form of breaking NC, because you are at his mercy to decide if he's not going to call you, instead of YOU making the decision and taking action to cutting this loser out of your life... Link to post Share on other sites
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