Ladies, Need to Pick Up This Girl..

[mike deason]

I had a love or lust at first sight encounter today at the paint store. Went in and Bang, behind the counter was the most gorgeous creature I had ever laid eyes on. I asked her to show me something in one of the aisles and while she was describing the benefits of a certain paint I blurted out "you're really cute and I love your voice". She said thanks and then finished her spiel about the paint. By this time I was off balance because I could not believe I had said what I did and I made a hasty retreat saying simply "Thanks for your help" .

 

Does she think I'm a wacko now. I will generally chat a girl up and know her name and be on some kind of friendly terms before saying anything like that.

 

If I go back...what to say ? How to gage her reaction.

 

Any advice from the ladies appreciated.

[BenefitOfTheDoubt]

This is all rather cute and endearing, if you don't mind me coo-ing and getting warm fuzzies at your expense! Awww!

 

My 100% honest reaction when I was reading your first paragraph is that my reaction to what you said would be entirely dependent on whether I found you attractive. Sad but true. (Of course, the good news with women is that we find all sorts of crazy things attractive, so there's still hope even if you don't look like Brad Pitt.) But yes. If you were kind of awkward and crazy looking, I'd probably be out for drinks later with my friends telling them that some guy said the craziest thing to me today. But if you were kind of attractive and endearing, I'd be telling my friends that some guy said the cutest thing to me today!!! Seriously.

 

So, what to do, what to do?? Well. When you said what you said, did she at least smile or giggle a little, or did she just keep talking about paint? Smiles and shy giggles are not definitely a good sign, but could be. If she was all straight talk about paint, though, then unfortunately I think there's probably no chance for you. So assuming smiles and giggles, I don't know, maybe go back and tell her that you can't believe what you said earlier, but that it's true, and if she's not seeing someone, maybe she wouldn't mind letting you buy her a cup of coffee or something sometime?

 

I think I'd be straight-forward. I wouldn't waste my time trying to develop a relationship over hardware supplies. She'll know what's going on, and if she's not into you, she'll be rolling her eyes to herself and wishing you'd go away. I suppose some harmless flirting if you really have a legitimate reason to go back there might not be the end of the world, just to test the waters, and then ask her out the next time. But yeah. Sooner rather than later, I think!

 

And FWIW, I'm 30, and I have a feeling that age would definitely impact reactions to this! Like, I'm pretty sure I'd have told you something different when I was 18 and something still different when I was 23, etc. So take what I said with a definite grain of salt if you and the object of your affection are nowhere near my age!!!

[gfto]

I'm not a lady, but you know how many male customers tell this little knockout the same thing you said to her every day? Probably around ten to twelve! It's awfully difficult to get your foot in the door in this situation. Your line probably killed what little chance you had to begin with. (That's not directed at you; just in general.) Like I said, when you hit on a lady in this situation, you almost always go down in flames. All that being said, I suppose you could go back in, ask her for her phone number, and tell her you'd like to meet her for coffee. But, don't compliment her again or anything like that.

[cal gal]

This has happened to me over the years, and as a married gal (or even when I was single) I would acknowledge the compliment and move forward...

 

 

I mean - what are you supposed to say? Thank you seemed appropriate at the time the guy said to me in the drug store that I was the most beautiful gal he had ever seen - yep -with my hair in a ponytail. But I looked at him and said "are you speaking to me?"

 

He followed me out on the street and I told him he was very kind and sweet but that I was married.

 

We exchanged a few words after that and I went on my way.

 

If you have an opportunity to feel appreciated or to give one for that matter... that is all it is.

 

No big deal... not every encounter is made to pick someone up.

[Guest]

First off, I am a reasonably good looking guy in good physical shape and I don't look like a crazy. She stopped talking about paint and said thanks and then started talking about paint again. I would imagine guys don't generally just blurt that out to her so it was probably a bit of a shock as it was to me that I said it.

 

I should be able to tell by her reaction next time I see her what she thinks. I like the "If you're not seeing anyone...coffee" line but w/out the "can't believe what I sad but it's true.." prelude.

 

Thanks.

[jerbear]

I'm a guy and I've done similar things. I would have to say, she is quite used to it and would just brush it off. If you saw her at a bar later, you might as well give up!

 

I think it is ok to go back to the store, just don't buy stuff you dont need because you wanted to say hi.

[Yamaha]

I would go back and ask her for her number. What is there to lose, the cat is out of the bag, so you might as well go for the gold. Women love a confident man and going back and asking for the digits definitely shows confidence.

[gfto]

I like the "If you're not seeing anyone...coffee" line.

 

coffee is good, but drop the bit about "if you're not seeing anyone." It's weak, and more importantly, it doesn't matter. Even if she is seeing someone, she could be bored with him, losing interest, and about to get rid of him anyway.

[mike deason]

Do you ladies prefer the "get a cup of coffee sometime" or the "Can I get your phone #" line from a guy you really don't know ?