trone Posted March 4, 2006 Share Posted March 4, 2006 Well... I also broke the no contact after 4 months... I sent a text saying " Angel, I was at ... (the place that we went for our first date) and it reminded me our fun dinner. Life is too short for pride and hatred. I hope all is well with you because we both deserve the best. Take care" Of course nothing from her, Dont know how I am feeling right now, but I think I should not be home tonite. Link to post Share on other sites
ashley83 Posted March 4, 2006 Share Posted March 4, 2006 awwwww that was so sweet. Don't feel to bad about it. I kept breaking NC. just don't beat yourself up about it. What's done is done. I am 2 months of NC, and still want to call him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 5, 2006 Author Share Posted March 5, 2006 Thanks Ashley. But a little advice from me, please do not break NC although I do not regret it. I wanted her to know really what I think and I said that. But it still hurts to not to be able to even talk to her. NC is definetly a good tool to hold on to. Link to post Share on other sites
UT_longhorn Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 trone... i think your message was nice and im sure she appreciates the message in her own way. i hope you dont agonize over if she responds or not. I know I wont be breaking NC for a long while after my last lapse. it shook me up some good. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 6, 2006 Author Share Posted March 6, 2006 UT, I am not really too much in pain, but of course it led me to think more about her. I intentionally wrote the message in a way that she does not need to respond although I know that she would not respond anyways. It is hard to see her car and office everyday and maintain NC. You are a strong guy and I am sure you will keep NC. Time will help both of us to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Of course nothing from her, How do you know that she wasn't with someone new when the text came in.. 4 months and you send a text.. If my ex sent me a text after 4 months I wouldn't reply to it either.. Next time if your going to break NC do it with a bang.. and call her. or don't break NC. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 6, 2006 Author Share Posted March 6, 2006 AC, Probably you havent read my previous posts... I know that she is not dating, if it was the case, I would not break NC. Actually, I wish I hadn't sent it anyways but it is too late to say that Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 That sucks that she didn't answer Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Mydish1 Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 AC, Probably you havent read my previous posts... I know that she is not dating, if it was the case, I would not break NC. Actually, I wish I hadn't sent it anyways but it is too late to say that As long as you meant what you said to her and you dont expect her to contact you back....there's nothing wrong with it. IT IS a problem if you build expectations coming from it, like fantasizing how she will contact you. A lot of times 'giving closure' or getting the last word out is often a good way of verbally & mentally ACCEPTING moving on iwth your life. It's another way of saying goodbye and closing the book on a chapter in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 6, 2006 Author Share Posted March 6, 2006 I was sure that she would not reply so it was not a surprise at all. I would not mind her to answer though. I wish I could talk to her to understand what makes her to freak out when she sees me, or what is the reason for her not even be able to say hi when we see each other at work. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Trone, some people are just WEIRD! Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 Trone, some people are just WEIRD! That is right Cali and unfortunately one of those people is my ex! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I wish I could talk to her to understand what makes her to freak out when she sees me, or what is the reason for her not even be able to say hi when we see each other at work. it's just the awkwardness between 2 people that settles in after a breakup. it's kind of like there's someone at work you know is totally into you, however you're on a completely different page. it's freaky to just be in the presence of the person. Dont want to be mean, but you're that other person. That is why NC exists for a reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 Monkey, I respect your comment but that is an interesting comment as well. many people around me and at work believe that the problem is actually she is still into me but thinks that things can not be sorted out. If you read my previous posts, you will see what I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 it's just the awkwardness between 2 people that settles in after a breakup. it's kind of like there's someone at work you know is totally into you, however you're on a completely different page. it's freaky to just be in the presence of the person. Dont want to be mean, but you're that other person. That is why NC exists for a reason. Monkey, This comment will made me feel even worse since yesterday. I think in a way it catalized all the feeling i had especially after breaking NC. I am kinda lost now and if she is really feeling the way you said, it is going to be hard for me to digest. I call my counselor this morning. I had couple sessions back in the past right after the breakup but she had told me that I should not be seeing her since I do not have any problems. I am going to see her again next week, I hope I can hang on till then. Link to post Share on other sites
Author trone Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 though really though! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 25, 2006 Share Posted March 25, 2006 wow, i can't believe that ur counsellor told u that u didn't need her. Breakups are some of the most painful things to deal with and can really mess with your head and emotions. i think you should get a different therapist. Link to post Share on other sites
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