Bogun Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Everyone knows the classic cliched body movements that are associated with women showing an interest in a man eg crossing legs towards the man, opening their palms towards him, touching his arm/hand while talking, etc, but what are the chances that these kinds of signs really suggest that the woman likes the man? Do some women just naturally do these things when their being friendly, or are they actually genuine signs that at least on a subconscious level the woman sees the man as a potential partner? Link to post Share on other sites
PlentyLV007 Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Okay...um...don't think too much through this.....you just know when a woman is interested and if your not just ask. I don't understand why the opposite sex just doesn't ask.....rejection is not a bad thing....sometimes it's a good thing....everything happens for a reason....people may happen in your life for a season or a reason..... You can tell by a look, a touch on the leg, arm, body posture towards you w/ her legs crossed> The list can go on and on.... if you don't want to aks her if she's interested then let her know you are and you'd like to take her out for dinner or coffee. =) Always say it with confidence too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bogun Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 Okay...um...don't think too much through this.....you just know when a woman is interested and if your not just ask. I don't understand why the opposite sex just doesn't ask.....rejection is not a bad thing....sometimes it's a good thing....everything happens for a reason....people may happen in your life for a season or a reason..... You can tell by a look, a touch on the leg, arm, body posture towards you w/ her legs crossed> The list can go on and on.... if you don't want to aks her if she's interested then let her know you are and you'd like to take her out for dinner or coffee. =) Always say it with confidence too. Umm "wowser"??? Was that directed at me or referring to yourself plenty? I guess my post was misinterpreted. I asked because I personally dont think these signals mean anything concrete. The girl in question was doing all these things while I was talking to her, and it was afterwards that a mate listed all these movements and came to the conclusion that "that chick wants you" as though it was a scientific fact. My view was that she's just a natural flirt and was being friendly. I was just wondering what other peoples view on this body language is. As for fearing rejection, , trust me Ive done far more embarrassing things than making a fool of myself by getting turned down by a girl. Link to post Share on other sites
PlentyLV007 Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Does this relate to me???....The reason I'm telling you is because the description of the female you mention sounds a lot like what I do. Not indicating that I'm interested, just flirty. You could be right, she might just be flirty, fun and outgoing.... Sometimes when I get vibes of a guy being intrested, he really isn't. He's just out having a good time. Trust me I get confused a lot too when it comes to vibes from a guy. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I asked because I personally dont think these signals mean anything concrete. Me neither. They're just an indication that someone just might be interested in you. But the lack of them doesn't necessarily mean they're not either. Some people are touchy-feely & affectionate right off the bat with practically everyone they meet (these folks tend to creep me out somewhat). And some people are shy & reserved & you're floored to later discover that they were really interested in you all along. The only sure way to know is in the follow through. I think it'd be pretty stupid not to hit on someone just because they weren't sending the right body signals that were picked up in a book or on the internet somewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I asked because I personally dont think these signals mean anything concrete. Me neither. They're just an indication that someone just might be interested in you. But the lack of them doesn't necessarily mean they're not either. Some people are touchy-feely & affectionate right off the bat with practically everyone they meet (these folks tend to creep me out somewhat). And some people are shy & reserved & you're floored to later discover that they were really interested in you all along. That's very true. Sometimes you're just in a more "open" mood generally than other times. Friendly body language doesn't really tell you anything more than "maybe". I don't think there's any way of circumventing all of the rituals surrounding the courtship process...and really, it's not until you're engaged in the act of fornication that you can be sure of the other person's interest. And even then, they might not be as interested as you want them to be. Oh, the agonies and the uncertainties of it all. A lot of gaze holding and plenty of giggling is a surer sign of interest than the direction someone's inner wrists and feet are pointing in. I think, anyway. If she starts touching herself a lot, it could be a good time for you to also cop a quick feel of one of her non sexual body parts (arm, shoulder etc) to check the state of play. Ideally she'll find an excuse to touch you back - or will move fractionally closer to encourage a bit more touching. Then you can move to slightly more sexualised areas such as lower back or waist. If she reacts by tensing up, it's too early/not happening. Link to post Share on other sites
PlentyLV007 Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Lin is right.....the last guy that I was seeing ....He did this whole, "I can read your palm" thing....he started touch my hand and got closer..... I couldn't help but laugh...he said...sorry I just wanted to touch your hand. I thought that was the cutest thing.....especially when it came out of no where... Then his hat was on wrong so I fixed it for him.....so I leaned in a little bit but, not too close....it was hot.....we talked about silly things and it was fun for about a good hour. Then when I had to leave....he walked me out and gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek. funny thing....he didn't ask me for my number. All the signals were there, the flirting, the touching and yet he didn't ask me for my number which I thought what the hell? So I asked him for it....next day I text him letting him know I had a great time...he called....I asked him why he didn't ask me for my number and he said....a cool chick like you had to have a boyfriend. Long story short....a little touch here and there might help.... Link to post Share on other sites
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