coasting Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 After days on end of talking and be open and honest with one another I have decided to give the ex another chance......He was very sincere when we met for the past couple of nights.....showed me the lease to his apartment and even asked me to come meet his landlord......He has been in counseling for 2 months now and has asked me to join him for his next session. I am going to take it very slow and very cautous but I really believve he is intent on making us a couple again....As long as he is honest and able to confide in me I think we will be all right! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Congrats.. go slowwwwww Tippy toes.... Link to post Share on other sites
pandnh4 Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 lucky you... congrats... =) be careful though... my ex and i broke up the 1st time and when we got back together the initial passion was there but so were the same underlying issues... less than a week later we split up again... =( Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I agree that you should take it slowly, -but you are an intelligent woman, and already know that. Keep a written journal of how you feel and how things are going each day. Review the journal at the end of every couple of weeks. One or two extra words of caution: I know you have a lot you want to get out of your system and talk about with this man, and the counseling is certainly going to encourage that, but don't bombard the sessions with everything at once, unless the counselor is indicating it, for some reason. Use words that do not sound so harsh that they scar the emotions, -choose lesser hurtful words, but still get your point across firmly, and with clarity. The damage that can be, will be washed out soon enough if you keep going to the sessions. Secondly, -listen, and watch. You'll use both your mind and your heart to hear him out, let your mind be first. This is your opportunity to learn how to read his body language in relationship to his spoken words. And that's very valuable for your future reference. Good Luck! And my good thoughts are with you! (Smile) Take care. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
Author coasting Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 Thank you Rio.....very wise advise and I will use it....He reallt does mean well, and he really does want it to work this time.....I guess it takes a wrong doind to realize what you have, and to be able to work through the problem it is all about honesty and open communication as well showing one another how you feel. Thanks again! Link to post Share on other sites
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