Guest Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 I wil keep it short and simple. My girlfriend and I were dating for over 3 years, and it was basically the perfect movie-story relationship, until she dumped me for reasons like she was bored and didn't feel the same way, and all that other bull crap. She didn't cheat though, that isn't an issue here. But after a couple of months, she started to realize she made a mistake. By this time, I had gotten through the highest point of hating her guts, and I was getting used to being single. Over the next few months, we talked more and more, and basically I finally decided I was ready to give it a second chance. It's been about a month now, and it isn't going as well as I had hoped. I am still a bit edgy towards her, and sometimes it seems like she doesnt even frigging care about anything but herself (although that's not anything new). Mostly, though, I think I am stuck in "you broke my heart and ruined alot of things in my life for those few months" mode. Every time i talk to her, I try really hard to be in a good mood but I never am. I'm just still bitter, I think. Especially lately, since I have been stressed. I could use her comforting me, but she doesn't care at all, mostly because I'm such an a-hole now. It's not all the time, but it's most of the time. I still feel the same way for her, but it's just way down deep inside me and locked up, as I tried so hard to do after she left me. I can't get it back out now. I don't know if there is any way to fix that, and I'm basically screwed, but I thought I would share and see what people think... Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Sit her down and tell her how you feel. Be prepared to break up again though. Bottom line is that if you aren't happy and things aren't going the way you'd like them to, you can be miserable with her or slightly less without her. I was in a similar situation. We broke up, got back together and she still wasn't putting much into the relationship. When I had a talk with her she basically said "See ya!" But, it was more painful to me to be in the relationship and miserable than out of it and less miserable. At least I don't think about the relationship constantly anymore, have more time for hobbies and hanging out with friends, etc. If you can't relax and just hang out with her then why be with her at all? Why date? Just go solo again. She might have missed being with you but given the way she is acting it doesn't sound like she really wants a relationship. Is she acting more like a FWB or what? Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 My girlfriend and I were dating for over 3 years, and it was basically the perfect movie-story relationship, until she dumped me for reasons like she was bored and didn't feel the same way, and all that other bull crap. You should have cut off all contact with her right then and there. Over the next few months, we talked more and more, and basically I finally decided I was ready to give it a second chance. mistake. It's been about a month now, and it isn't going as well as I had hoped. It never does. Once you're out, you're out. Now, you can do what you should've done the first time.......say goodbye and disappear. Link to post Share on other sites
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