PlentyLV007 Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 I'm curious as a woman!!! LADIES....and....guys let me know what you think too!!! Why do most women perfer to be chased? Is it because you want to feel wanted? Why would you prefer him to call you, or him to tell you what he wants all the time, or how he feels? If the woman chases after a man, does she seem desperate or just forward? Would it be wrong for the woman to chase? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladylay Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 It's great to be chased:D Vain as I am it does my ego good. My opinion of course:D Link to post Share on other sites
Dinnj1 Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 *sits back with a cup of coffee... listens and learns* Link to post Share on other sites
clynn Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Mostly cuz it just takes the pressure off of me. I don't want to be harassed or pursued overly. But, yah, if a guy tracks me down. Asks me out and courts me - it lets me know that he is defeinitely interested. Otherwise, I'm questioning his level of interest (if I've been the main pursuer). Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I'm curious as a woman!!! LADIES....and....guys let me know what you think too!!! Why do most women perfer to be chased? Is it because you want to feel wanted? Why would you prefer him to call you, or him to tell you what he wants all the time, or how he feels? If the woman chases after a man, does she seem desperate or just forward? Would it be wrong for the woman to chase? Yes, some woman do like to be chased to a certain extent. But as for asking a woman out, they prefer to let the man be the initiator. But i think there's always a point in a woman's life where there's a guy they want to chase. it depends how strong you come on... Nowadays most guys are alright if a woman takes some initiative and chases the guy...but in the end it just depends on the one being chased. but you're a woman..you should be able to answer your own questions. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 For me (guy), I prefer to chase than to be chased by women. I don't mind the "taunt", flirt, or short short chase from a woman. If I was interested, I would then chase; otherwise tell her flat out NO. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 If the woman chases after a man, does she seem desperate or just forward? Would it be wrong for the woman to chase? When it became known that I was divorcing, a number of women seemed to come out of the woodwork letting me know, in various ways, that they wouldn't be adverse to some attention from me. I found it very off-putting and thought they seemed hungry and needy. That might have been partially a function of age. I was 48 and there were decidedly more single/divorced women near my age, give or take some years, than there were available men. As for whether or not women like to be chased, being the age I am, I think it incumbent upon the man to call, extend the invitations and foot the bill. Interesting enough, there was one woman I knew who would have been appalled if I had noticeably chased her or any man had. She'd been divorced and single for 18 years and was the epitomy of the "Ice Maiden." I'm happy to say that we've now been married for almost 10 years and there's nothing chilly about her. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 *sits back with a cup of coffee... listens and learns* Ralphy! Get that OUT of your mouth! You're going to choke! :lmao: I love your avatar!! IF I was single and really liking a guy, I would chase abit but I would back off and let him chase me too. I think it's human nature to want to be desired and caught by someone. It's fun to be chased and to do the chasing. As long as it isn't stalkerish, I'm all for it! Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 There is something about the dance of courtship that makes this woman look twice. I'll admit it's that bit of the romantic still left in me (and that's surprising, given the length and events of my life, so far). But it's really nice to get a shred of the noble romantic every now and then. Some men simply do not 'get it', -some do it as kind of a hobby (spare me!), -but some know how to give it just the 'right touch', -never smothering you or turning it into an embarrassingly gooey affair. They do it with gentlemanly panache and flair, -while knowing how to keep it 'real', in hopes that, if she takes the bait, so to speak, they actually have a pretty good platform from which they might just turn out a genuine, honest-to-God relationship. The reason chasing and courting ranks so high, I guess, is simply because of how special it can make us feel, -and we all want to feel good- and know that someone is going out of his/her way to make us their focus. Courtship and chasing isn't a necessarily negative thing, -it seems to me, to be part of the natural human attraction/mating ritual. And I happen to like it, -as long as it's not delivered by someone totally off his rocker -or needs therapy. (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 And I happen to like it, -as long as it's not delivered by someone totally off his rocker -or needs therapy. Well, that decidedly leaves me out. Oh, wait! I'm "out" anyway. I'm married. I love courtship, when it's sincere, which is the only kind I can ever remember indulging in. My wife says I swept her off her feet (after we'd been just friends for five years) but I was decidedly sincere and IT WORKED! Guess I'm just an irrepressible, incurable romantic after all! Guess our "platform" was solid as well. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Curmudgeon, your wife is lucky to have you, -you're a gem! (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Aaaaah. Thanks. Actually, I think I'm the lucky one and she's a jewel. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 'Ditto' on that, -you're both lucky, -just look around at these boards! (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Curmudgeon, your wife is lucky to have you, -you're a gem! Aaaaah. Thanks. Actually, I think I'm the lucky one and she's a jewel. You know, they can actually do that. You know.. with a person's ashes. Tons of pressure and heat, and voila! You can be a gem, and she can be a jewel. For real. You won't need metaphors anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 However, it's first necessary to assume room temperature and I'll pass on that for both of us. I much prefer the metaphors to that particular alternative. Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I think the reason why a majority of the time the guys do the chasing is as follows: By having a guy do the chasing, the woman feels desirable while he simultaneously has to display some confidence. It's ok if the girl shows interest in a guy as long as it's not too much. Too much effort on the girl's part and the guy's left wondering why she tries so hard (e.g. "What's wrong with her? Is she psycho?") MD Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 And I happen to like it, -as long as it's not delivered by someone totally off his rocker -or needs therapy. :lmao: Or clingy, needy, on a search path (those looking to latch on) Had a chasee (I was chaser, if chasee is a word) on a search path call me over a month ago telling me about her divorce and that I came up on her mind because I chased her 10 years ago. I almost became the godfather of her 1st kid. That is a chase I don't want! Link to post Share on other sites
ms_jnj Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I wish I would get "chased." Seems like all the guys I date are into the woman take charge philosophy. Sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I think it's just a product of evolution, honestly. Traditionally, men have been molded into the more aggressive sex. In the caveman era, men would go out, hunt, fight to defend their families and possessions; women would nurture and occasionally forage for supplies that could be used by the family. Point being, men evolved into the more aggressive gender, the pursuers. The actual duties performed by men and women changed with the times, but the basic gender-based characteristics remained relatively unchanged. Men went out, started operating heavy machinery, started their own businesses...in short, they took the lead. They were the implicit leaders of the clan. That's the expectation women have of men. Maybe not consciously, but it's there on some level. The expectation is that men will initiate; that our natural aggression will be controlled but ever present. Men who aren't aggressive are less likely to fit the profile of what a woman is looking for. Face it, ladies: you want men to lead. It ain't logical, it's bio-logical. Link to post Share on other sites
Dinnj1 Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Here's my example... I was chased for a couple of years by a woman. Then she stopped... THAT'S when I realized I was in love with her. Now I've been chasing her for years... guess what? My legs and feet are exhausted. Time to give up. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Hmmm...chasing is often a limited time offer. At some point you must catch your prey, or they must catch you. After a while, even the chase can get old if nothing comes of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Dinnj1 Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Oh it's gotten quite old... I just wonder if she'll start chasing again, when she realizes I've stopped. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Start runnin'! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Start runnin'! Toward each other? Like what they do in the movies! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 That can work too! It's the slow motion that's difficult, not to mention having to hire all those violinists. Link to post Share on other sites
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