Do women want to be chased? Why?

[riobikini]

RE:

 

amerikajin: " Face it, ladies: you want men to lead. It ain't logical, it's bio-logical."

 

This particular lady does want a man who can lead.

 

I have had the fortunate/unfortunate appointment to have to act as leader for my family most of my lifetime.

 

I have had only one person, my second husband, who was the so-called leader.

 

I was so thankful for the break.

 

Just knowing that someone was there overseeing things, who was as strong or stronger than I, was such a welcome (and needed) relief.

 

Since then, there has been no one to fill that role.

 

I don't resent the role, itself, -as a genetically-passed-on trait from my father- I am actually happy to fulfill whatever responsibilities that lie on my shoulders, and I carry them very well, -but I do get tired.

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio

[Dinnj1]

Start runnin'!

 

To or from??? Cause she's in the middle of a divorce... and I'm currently 'cut off' from communication.

[Yamaha]

I love to chase and be chased. Flirting is exciting and fun for both sexes.

It also gives you an ego boost when someone chases you ( that you are interested in ). It is generally a win/win situation.

[riobikini]

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Yamaha: " I love to chase and be chased. Flirting is exciting and fun for both sexes. It also gives you an ego boost when someone chases you ( that you are interested in ). It is generally a win/win situation. "

 

I agree it's an ego boost, but (Smile), -as the old comparison goes about dogs not knowing what to do with the car once they've chased it and caught it: make sure that , if you're a spiffy young Cocker, that the thing you're chasing is also a sweet female Cocker, -not a Chevrolet.

 

-Rio

[jerbear]

RE:

I agree it's an ego boost, but (Smile), -as the old comparison goes about dogs not knowing what to do with the car once they've chased it and caught it: make sure that , if you're a spiffy young Cocker, that the thing you're chasing is also a sweet female Cocker, -not a Chevrolet.

 

-Rio

 

What would the young cocker do when the Chevrolet hits the breaks???

 

It helps when both parties are interested, when one is being chased it is an ego booster however the other may not know it. The chasee can have an ego boost, feel young, excited, desired, etc... but when it comes down to it. The prey will need to be caught or let loose. The chaser may oneday just give up and don't care; which no matter what the prey does, doesn't get the time of day.

 

I've chased only to have another girl catch by side swipping me, the prey got so upset that my attentions were redirected. When it did break up and during my dating; she was wondering where I was & what happened.

 

I know what to do when I get her, get giggy with her!, date her, dance with her, marry her, get giggy with her, date her more, dance with her, get her pregnant, date her more, retire and die.

[riobikini]

Jerbear, (laughing) -'Animal House' has nothing on you!

 

-Rio

[riobikini]

Originally Posted by riobikini

 

RE:

I agree it's an ego boost, but (Smile), -as the old comparison goes about dogs not knowing what to do with the car once they've chased it and caught it: make sure that , if you're a spiffy young Cocker, that the thing you're chasing is also a sweet female Cocker, -not a Chevrolet.

-Rio

 

Jerbear: "What would the young cocker do when the Chevrolet hits the breaks??? "

 

Answer: Sniff it. Lose interest. Then, most likely, wait for another.... Chevrolet.

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio

[jerbear]

Answer: Sniff it. Lose interest. Then, most likely, wait for another.... Chevrolet.

 

(Smile)

 

-Rio

 

I like yours better. I was thinking of the cocker running into the chevy with a thump.

 

Never thought of the sniffit part, brings up the tail pipe which would really lose interest; and if that is not enough wait for another chevy or maybe ford this time.

[qnmc]

Personally I believe in a balanced chase. As a guy, sure it's usually up to us to initiate the chase, but it's got to be a back and forth deal for me. I'll get the first couple dates going, but I want her asking me to get together as well after those first two meet ups. If I don't feel like I'm being chased as well I move on. I've found the harder you chase, females tend to play harder to get. I keep my perspective when in the dating pool by always keeping my options open, by trying to date as many different people as I can. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

[riobikini]

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gnmc: "..females tend to play harder to get."

 

Agreed.

 

Plus, -they chase differently than a male.

 

-Rio

[TheSwordfish]

I think its all so strange. Some girls put high prices on themselves. This girl was all over me at first, I figured it would be easy... but she is really busy. She responds to my emails, and we talk on MSN. Send her a valentine, she liked it a lot. So I decided to go and ask her phone number on MSN (only asked her MSN) to ask her out, but because I can hardly get on MSN, and she has the same problem I never get a chance. I am not going to ask her number or ask her out via E-mail. Want a direct reply. The only time we spoke I was in a complete rush, kids were coming into class while I was on MSN

 

She initiated things, but I acted too slow I guess.... According to all the girls I know a guy needs to ask the girl for the first date (though I had quite a few other exeriences). And many girls love it when a guy struggles to get her. Like John Lennon said, she beleives a man must break his bone to earn his day of leisure......

[monkey00]

Personally I believe in a balanced chase. As a guy, sure it's usually up to us to initiate the chase, but it's got to be a back and forth deal for me. I'll get the first couple dates going, but I want her asking me to get together as well after those first two meet ups. If I don't feel like I'm being chased as well I move on. I've found the harder you chase, females tend to play harder to get. I keep my perspective when in the dating pool by always keeping my options open, by trying to date as many different people as I can. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

i agree. Im the type of guy that wouldnt mind if a girl put some effort into chasing me, or if i chased her. Even if i hadnt noticed her, her efforts and interest in me ... can get my attention...hey i dont mind getting caught by a girl that chooses to chase me compared to all the other guys she chose not to chase...but only if there's chemistry. if i like the girl ill make things easy for her, but not entirely, yet let her know she has a good chance.

 

but if i chase a girl, i do expect to know that she's interested in countinuing to see me. like telling me she had a great time or suggesting another get together or upcoming event to go to.

if it doesnt seem like she's interested then i move on.

 

The dating game is like a dance, push-pull. if you're not getting what u expect u back off a little and let him/her to make the initiative.

 

It is fun and all, even rejection can be fun too as long as you dont put your ego on the line...just my opinion. But it's even more fun if you see your efforts pay off by them accepting your date.

However some people just like their ego rubbed and have no intention of dating you and just like to flirt for the hell of it....such as those in relationships.

 

But it's a game...trial and error, accept your losses and move on.

[PlentyLV007]

It is fun and all, even rejection can be fun too as long as you dont put your ego on the line...just my opinion.

But it's a game...trial and error, accept your losses and move on.

 

YESS!!!!!! That's key....Rejection....don't let it put your ego down!!! GOOD ONE!!!

[basscatcher]

OK so for example: my situation:

 

I waited for him to contact me. He did. We went out and I let him be the initiater to call me and to make plans to meet up.

 

He made a comment one time that he noticed he made most of the phone calls to me. I told him. His life is busier then mine so its easier for him to call me when he has the time. He had nothing to say on that.

 

Then when I did make a few calls to him mid-day (my lunch break) when he hasn't been working due to lack of business this time of year; he seemed a little annoyed and later during a conversation said he felt suffocated. (I thought it was because of me calling him a couple times during a two week period instead of waiting for him to call me.)

 

So if this is the case; WTH am I suppose to do on my part to recipricate his chase of me? I like to be a bit of an agressor also. I typically am the one to be the agressive one in a relationship. So how do I get to express myself to him in chasing him? Do I not get too with this kind of man??

 

Do I have to always wait to be chased?? I can't turn and chase him?

 

His last gf he was constantly chasing. She was constantly running and then when he gave up the chase she stalked him until she got him back then she ran away from him again once she caught him....

 

Is this what I need to do?? How the hell do I run from a man when I'm in love with him?? How to I give him the chase effect to keep him interested in me and not destracted by her constant chase to get him?? Maybe this is one of our problems I am too easy for him when he is use to the challenge of the chase....

 

I wonder if anyone understands what I am trying to say?

[jerbear]

As Rio bought up about a cocker chasing a chevy and my comments.

 

Sometimes it is just not worth it to chase, give up, get chased, start chasing, etc... after awhile it gets old and boring.

 

At some point the prey has to be caught or let go.

 

I personally like a short chase to say she is interested. I'm a guy and sometimes I'm just plain oblivious to signs when I'm (chaser) is content. Fed, fat, and content sorta speaking.