Delicaterose00 Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I have thought about it.. but... spending hundreds of dollars on someone to tell you why you shoudlnt be jelous??? lmao Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I have thought about it.. but... spending hundreds of dollars on someone to tell you why you shoudlnt be jelous??? lmao Well that would be a moronic thing to do. Thank god counseling isn't actually like that. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I have thought about it.. but... spending hundreds of dollars on someone to tell you why you shoudlnt be jelous??? lmao Thats an issue for me too. I come from a practical family/background,...we've been taught that counseling/therapy are just money making schemes. But this IS 2006, and even religious leaders are starting to recommend counseling,...so i say there must be something to it. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Thanks man. Oh, and by the way, I took a gander at your thread earlier. I'm sorry you have to be going through that pain man, really am, I don't have to tell you I know what if feels like. Its also big of you to give advice to others while going through s*** yourself. Thanks, but the pile of dung I'm wallowing in now is due to the simple fact I had the warning signs at the beginning of the relationship and chose to ignore them. Basically, it's my own fault I'm in this mess. I got myself into it, I can get myself out. But if there is any advice I can give,..it is that being strong all the time ain't good either, and plus, it seems like you have atleast somewhat of a relationship with this girl to end things more neatly. I mean her Mom likes you for God sakes!! All i'm saying is if i were you,..i'd maybe try to use that to resolve the issue,...toughing it out isn't always the answer. I wish it was that simple, but it's not. Her entire family loves me and we get along like we've always been family. The problem is she doesn't want to be with me and really she never did. So whether her family likes me or not is irrelevant. She doesn't communicate with her mom about her relationships and if her mom does, she will clam up and say nothing. Her family will not push her to be with me and if they tried, it would only make things worse. She's dating someone else now. Moved 1 hour and 15 minutes away from her job (one way!) just to be closer to him. That's a big dose of reality to me telling me I need to get on with my life and forget her. That's why I am here. Garnering the support of the really cool LS people who, whenever I stumble, are there to catch me and keep me going in the right direction. It's just going to take a little time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author scipio Posted March 7, 2006 Author Share Posted March 7, 2006 She's dating someone else now. Moved 1 hour and 15 minutes away from her job (one way!) just to be closer to him. That's a big dose of reality to me telling me I need to get on with my life and forget her. That's why I am here. Garnering the support of the really cool LS people who, whenever I stumble, are there to catch me and keep me going in the right direction. It's just going to take a little time. Yes, time it will take. You know what though, Perhaps it could have been worse if she actually loved you at one point and then stopped loving you,...what makes me feel better is that however sad i think my situation is I thank God for it because it really could be worse,...there are people whose hearts are broken much worse. Imagine catching someone you love being unfaithful,..or something else etc etc. So things could always be worse,..and we must always be grateful that they aren't. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Yes, time it will take. You know what though, Perhaps it could have been worse if she actually loved you at one point and then stopped loving you,...what makes me feel better is that however sad i think my situation is I thank God for it because it really could be worse,...there are people whose hearts are broken much worse. Imagine catching someone you love being unfaithful,..or something else etc etc. So things could always be worse,..and we must always be grateful that they aren't. Read No Foolin's thread on No Contact (in my signature) where he talks about people taking a dirt nap. That seems to put things into perspective for me. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Pssst: CaliGuy, Blind Otter: Superb. (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
In Sync Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I think getting to the root cause of our actions that is a self destructive pattern is going to benefit you and help you move on. It's not unususal to think about a past love that didn't work out...but if this is eatting at you and you are continuing to ask why's seeking help in the form of a therapist or counselor or dare I say it spiritual guidance. Look, our thoughts create our feelings and that leads to our actions or inactions. Not letting this go in your mind, is creating discomfort, and so is actually hurting you. the self esteem diminishes because you replay a failed situation over and over. That's no uplifting but holds you back.. emotionally. Maybe you can't see it overtly but this is you causing your own setback..or your dreagding up disappointment again and again...talk to someone in the meanwhile even a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
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