napervillepeach Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Last week I was trying to plan a trip to the kentucky derby for my boyfriend, myself and his two friends as a surprise. I went downstairs to turn on his phone while he was in the shower one morning to get the cell phone number and ended up in his inbox to see text messages from his ex girlfriend whom he has told me that they really do not talk much. So of course when I saw 15 plus text messages I did what i shouldnt and read them. What sparked me the most was that I saw two pictures swapped between the two of them and then asking when he was going to be coming over, with his response of tomorrow. So I confronted him about and he got defensive saying I had no right to be in his phone which i didnt. I then said what was going on. I understand one cannot control what people send to you but in those pictures it is her sending one of her crotch and him sending a pic to her also..I know it migh be friendly flirting and I know that he is not physcially cheating on me because franly he is ALWAYS with me. I know that he does not want to be back with her because he has had so many opporitunities to go back to her and doesnt. And they too lived together before we did. We have worked thru things with major major talks and now I am trying to build my trust with him and hope that he trusts me not to look at his phone. We both know where we are wrong and have discussed it. The funny thing is that now I think after he talked to her to inform her that he is really moving on she is driving by the house. I came back from the gym on sunday and saw her and her car turning out of our neighboorhood and I know he was not home because he plays basketball downtown. I dont know what to do because I trust he was not physcially doing anything whether he was flirting to far or letting the demons get the best of him. I have been cheated on before and dont want to get hurt but also dont want to be guarded or double cheking on him...i need some advise..... Link to post Share on other sites
justhavetoletgo Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Last week I was trying to plan a trip to the kentucky derby for my boyfriend, myself and his two friends as a surprise. I went downstairs to turn on his phone while he was in the shower one morning to get the cell phone number and ended up in his inbox to see text messages from his ex girlfriend whom he has told me that they really do not talk much. So of course when I saw 15 plus text messages I did what i shouldnt and read them. What sparked me the most was that I saw two pictures swapped between the two of them and then asking when he was going to be coming over, with his response of tomorrow. So I confronted him about and he got defensive saying I had no right to be in his phone which i didnt. I then said what was going on. I understand one cannot control what people send to you but in those pictures it is her sending one of her crotch and him sending a pic to her also..I know it migh be friendly flirting and I know that he is not physcially cheating on me because franly he is ALWAYS with me. I know that he does not want to be back with her because he has had so many opporitunities to go back to her and doesnt. And they too lived together before we did. We have worked thru things with major major talks and now I am trying to build my trust with him and hope that he trusts me not to look at his phone. We both know where we are wrong and have discussed it. The funny thing is that now I think after he talked to her to inform her that he is really moving on she is driving by the house. I came back from the gym on sunday and saw her and her car turning out of our neighboorhood and I know he was not home because he plays basketball downtown. I dont know what to do because I trust he was not physcially doing anything whether he was flirting to far or letting the demons get the best of him. I have been cheated on before and dont want to get hurt but also dont want to be guarded or double cheking on him...i need some advise..... wow! I think its safe to say that taking pictures of what they were is not friendly flirting........I mean come on going through someones phone is not that bad if he had nothing to hide he shouldn't have got so upset........I think you need to get far away from this guy imo Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 I agree that is far more then friendly flirting I think its time to find a new boyfriend that isn't hungup on his ex Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Friendly flirting is saying, "You look great today." NOT swapping crotch shots. Dump this player pronto! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 he is either cheating on you or going to cheat on you.. there is no middle ground here Link to post Share on other sites
orpheus Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Now I have had several cell phones over the years and there is a big difference in processes between finding the cell number and ending up in the inbox. It would appear that you suspected something and waited until he was not around to snoop. Do yourself and him a favour, if you don't trust him tell him that and get the discussion going. You say that you are trying to build trust with him. I wonder what he would say about trusting you after finding out what you did. Sorry, he may be a pr1ck for doing what he did but when it comes to trust I am not sure you can take a higher road here. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Excuse me? What she did? HUH? Her boyfriend was exchanging crotch shots with another chick. She's not in the wrong here. But she should get the hell out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 What he's done is completely disrespectful to you is it not? Swapping crotch shots with his ex? Would he be happy with you doing that? Does that sound like friendly flirting to you?! It sounds to me like something has been going on. Also if he's ALWAYS with you and hasn't actually seen her, then why was he arranging to see her? Was the 'tomorrow' message he sent her from that day or before? If so, is it possible he actually did visit her? Link to post Share on other sites
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