Guest Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Ok so me and my ex were dating for almost for years. After 2 years of dating she left me for another guy. But during the break up she was still talking to me still coming over n once in a while she'd sleep over n we'd have sex. A couple weeks later she made it official n broke it off with the other guy. We ended up buying a home a month later. Since then everything was fine. We would plan trips to random places go out n just live it up. But in November we hosted a party where some of her friends brought people and she ended up getting attention from one of the guest. Shes 22....he was only 17! So for the next two months I cought on to what they were doing n confronted both of them. They said it was done they wouldnt talk anymore. 3 weeks later we have another party. Its new years eve. So at the party I ended up asking her to marry me. She said yes 2 weeks later I come home to a empty house with all of her stuff gone the engagement ring on my bed saying she couldnt do this and she left. Couple days later I found out it was because she met back up with that kid. So two months went past n just last week me n her began talking again (March 1st) But now shes saying she made a big mistake n she wants us to give it another shot but she just needs time. She says she still loves me when she calls n when we hangout but dont know if its real. Does anyone have any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 7, 2006 Share Posted March 7, 2006 Run away from her, dude. Run hard. Run fast. She has a problem. She can't be in a committed relationship. You have a problem. You don't have any boundaries. You apparently let her mess around with other men and don't have any repercussions for her crossing your boundaries. This pattern of behavior will continue until you put your foot down, start respecting yourself and implement boundaries. Self-respect starts with saying "I'm not going to allow someone to treat me badly, to allow them to come back and to allow them to do this to me repeatedly." Link to post Share on other sites
loveling Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Could not have said that better myself CaliGuy...Run Link to post Share on other sites
BetterKarma Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 All I can say is for you to read your own post and ask yourself what type of advice you would give yourself. Know your own self-worth! Remove yourself from the situation and work on your own self-esteem and respect. Link to post Share on other sites
Dinnj1 Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 ummmm... what Caliguy said works for me... and if that's not enough.... think back to how you felt when you came home to an empty house... and how her AND a seventeen year old punk took that away from you. Like Jenny once said..."Ruuuun Forest Ruuuuuuun!":laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 Don't just run.....SPRINT away from her, as if your life depended on it. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtbeyondwords Posted March 10, 2006 Share Posted March 10, 2006 as much as it hurts to hear that from everyone it's true. Think of yourself for once and walk (or run) away from this situation. Can you honestly convince yourself that she would not go off to be with another guy if you got married? this girl definalty has issues and they arent going away unless she gets help. Show her that she needs help by walking away. If she truley means what she says to you then she will figure it out, if not you will find someone that actually means what they say. Link to post Share on other sites
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