jmmm Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Hi, My boyfriend and i have been together for a year. I am a jealous type of person and sometimes do not know if i am being paranoid or rational. My b/f works for the telephone company so i know he uses his cell phone sometimes for work. I sometimes snoop through his phone to see who he is calling or calling him etc. and i saw a missed cell phone number in his cell which i thought was odd because i didnt think a customer would be calling him. I copied the cell number down and a voice mail of a girl comes up. I do not know what to think or if it or if i should believe he is cheating. I posted something similiar to this but now i can't stop thinking of this cell number. I haven't seen it in his phone since but i have only checked one time after that. We do not live close to one another--about an hour apart so we only see each other 2-3 days out of the week but talk a few times a day usually. I just think its weird that a girl i don't know of called him and i don't think it was a mistake(like she dialed his cell by accident). Do i jump to conclusions or trust that whoever it is--its just talking and nothing i should be overly concerned about especially if i dont notice other signs such as him losing interest in me etc. Please help Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Stop snooping in your bf's phone.. that is childish and leads to the things/feelings you are dealing with now.. If he uses the phone for work then someone from work might have called him. For you to be calling numbers on his phone without a reason or distrust is crazy... Sorry to be so forward and harsh but this type of destructive behavior is not a nice trait to have and I most certainly wouldn't want someone I was dating to be doing this to me. Please stop it and throw the number in the trash.. Link to post Share on other sites
checker Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Give him some advice from me. Tell him he needs to dump the crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Don't snoop, don't distrust. The number could be from anyone, a work collegue, a school friend, his sister. You say you do not notice any other signs than this number, but you jump to the conclussion that he is cheating or whatever else. GET A GRIP!! I would suggest going and seeing some help to sort out some of your obvious issues regarding trust/insecurity. P.S. I was dating a guy for over one year who could not bring himself to trust me. He was constantly looking in my phone, and suspicious about what I was doing. In the end I couldn't stand it anymore, and I gave him the flick.... Link to post Share on other sites
blah1234 Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 it was probably a wrong number, relax. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Give him some advice from me. Tell him he needs to dump the crazy. I think you're totally paranoid. 1. The fact that a female voice is recorded on the answering machine absolutelty does NOT mean that he spoke to a woman! Women have husbands, brothers, fathers living with them too. 2. Even if he spoke to a woman, it doesn't mean she is his mistress. 3. The phone call was missed and you never saw it in his cell phone again. 4. If he hasn't given you any reasons to believe that he might be unfaithful, you have nothing to worry about. 5. I can't believe you freaked out over one missed call and even dialed it yourself. My husband's phone is full of numbers I don't know and I don't assume that they are some women's phone numbers nor do I dial them to check. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I think you need to look at why you are so paranoid and jealous. Also you need to stop snooping through your boyfriends stuff. I agree with RP, there are tons of names and numbers in my husbands address book on the computer (which is what he lives on) and I can't even name more then half of who those people are Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I think another thing you need to to do, is ask your self why it is that you keep posting over and over again the same type of thing. This is not the first time you have posted on this cell issue. You basically keep getting the same responses from people, and I doubt no matter how many times you post, you will get a different response, becasue people have already told you to back off on the cell issue. I have replied to ypur post on this before, and stated that you need to relax because I didn't see any indication that hes doing something he shouldn't right now. I'm thinking maybe you keep posting the same thing thinking, someone will give you a different response and up and say, "you know what, yes he is cheating. Those numbers are from women hes having a fling with. " I'm not trying to be harsh, but right now thats not what it sounds like. Are you wanting him to be? The best thing, might be for you to seek individual counseling for your insecurity. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
touchtherapy Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Everyone feels insecure in their relationship now and then, but it seems that you are unwilling to admit it, probably because you think that it will make you look weak. So, you'd rather sneak around. Give it up! You're so obvious! So, now that we all know that you're insecure, what are you going to do about it? Try this: "Hon, I'm feeling insecure. I don't know who called you on your phone, and I would like to know, so that way I can feel included. It's making me a little insecure, for whatever reason. Sometimes, I just want to be reminded that you love me, and care for me. Because, you're really important to me, and I love you." Be emotionally honest. And if you can't, you will always encounter situations like this. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts