Simons Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I gave my ex gf everything she ever needed. I am a good looking guy, nice car, with good sence of humor, a master degree in Computer Eng from prestigious college,good job, a family man, social, Christian, don't smoke, don't drink, no major illness, nice to people, always willing to help others....endless list. Despite all the things that i thought she could find attractive in me, she still left me to another dude who works in a nursing home (don't mean to disrespect those who work in nursing homes). I am left here wondering. Women what do you find attractive in a man???? Men ,what do you think women find attractive in us??? Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 So you're asking why if you have no faults did she leave you for someone else? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I gave my ex gf everything she ever needed. why in gods name would any man give a woman everything she needed....why not just slit your own throat, it would be easier! Christian, don't smoke, don't drink, no major illness, nice to people, always willing to help others....endless list. she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females. Really? I thought it was because of his huge ego and lack of self-awareness. In reality it's hard for us to tell why she left you based on two sentences about yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females. sad to admit, but this is true. Yes we want a good man ... but still "bad" enough to be appeal to us because most gals want to be "the one" to reform their bad boy. Not sure if it's a fixit-gene or because it appeals to our motherly instincts or it just poses a challenge. a lot of it also has to do with chemistry. Regardless of who the guy is, there has to be some inexplicable hook that keeps us interested in a particular guy. Link to post Share on other sites
scipio Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I gave my ex gf everything she ever needed. I am a good looking guy, nice car, with good sence of humor, a master degree in Computer Eng from prestigious college,good job, a family man, social, Christian, don't smoke, don't drink, no major illness, nice to people, always willing to help others....endless list. Despite all the things that i thought she could find attractive in me, she still left me to another dude who works in a nursing home (don't mean to disrespect those who work in nursing homes). I am left here wondering. Women what do you find attractive in a man???? Men ,what do you think women find attractive in us??? Firstly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder man,..sure you think you're a great guy (and you probably are),..but perhaps her definition is a little different. It varies from woman to woman which is why nobody can PIN it down. It doesn't matter what you do you'll never fit the bill for some women,...and you'll fit the bill for others. No choice but to be yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 she saw BORING...BORING....BORING. oh, and predictable and non-exciting. all are the kiss of death with females. A man's job does not matter to her if she is not in the market for a serious relationship. When she is thinking about marriage then she might look you up but when she wants fun and sex you are not her type. Age has something to do with it as well so as you get older more women will appreciate your nice guy qualities. Link to post Share on other sites
scipio Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 A man's job does not matter to her if she is not in the market for a serious relationship. When she is thinking about marriage then she might look you up but when she wants fun and sex you are not her type. Age has something to do with it as well so as you get older more women will appreciate your nice guy qualities. Thats not entirely true Yamaha. Scientists have found out that what attracts human beings to other can be directly related to survival/living needs. e.g. women like broad shouldered men because that ties back to needing a physically strong mate that can hunt/gather and protect the female. Similiary, men like nice figured hips on women because that indicates child bearing capacities. Likewise, subliminally, a nice car and a good job can attract females regardless of whether they want to settle down or not. Link to post Share on other sites
helena abadi Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 broad shoulders do it for me...seriously. also, someone who is playful, adventurous, open-minded, has a sense of humour, is trustworthy, and takes care of their health. the fabulous job doesn't matter to me at all. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Women what do you find attractive in a man???? A mischievous smile, a sarcastic (sometimes) and insightful (always) sense of humour, an underlying kindness and the sense that he finds me attractive. Those are the starting points for pure attraction. Relationship wise - those initial attractive traits, plus principles and values that are similar to mine. Link to post Share on other sites
destination_unknown Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 e.g. women like broad shouldered men because that ties back to needing a physically strong mate that can hunt/gather and protect the female. Similiary, men like nice figured hips on women because that indicates child bearing capacities. There may be a strong statistical relationship between being female and liking broad shouldered men, being male and liking nice figured hips but the reasons science gives us for WHY we like these things cannot currently be proven, they can only be theorized about. Attraction is influenced by too many variables. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 A mischievous smile, a sarcastic (sometimes) and insightful (always) sense of humour, an underlying kindness and the sense that he finds me attractive. Those are the starting points for pure attraction. Relationship wise - those initial attractive traits, plus principles and values that are similar to mine. I love your posts. I want to add intellectual depth. Lynda, I think we could design the perfect man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simons Posted March 8, 2006 Author Share Posted March 8, 2006 in summary, women DO NOT KNOW what they are attracted to period. they have no idea what they want!!! Link to post Share on other sites
destination_unknown Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 in summary, women DO NOT KNOW what they are attracted to period. they have no idea what they want!!! I think you might be feeling a little bitter towards all women when its really your ex that you have bitterness towards, i dont mean that in an offensive way. If you look at all women in this light then you will probably have difficulty having healthy relationships with them. Every woman is different, different women want different things. Most women (with self respect ) do not want to be with someone who makes statements similar to above. Link to post Share on other sites
scipio Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 There may be a strong statistical relationship between being female and liking broad shouldered men, being male and liking nice figured hips but the reasons science gives us for WHY we like these things cannot currently be proven, they can only be theorized about. Attraction is influenced by too many variables. Many things we now accept as FACT are infact only theories. Some things can never be proven,...but it must suffice that these "conclusions" have some solid basis and they have been and should be accepted,... in my humble opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I love your posts. I want to add intellectual depth. Lynda, I think we could design the perfect man. Let's not delay then! Weird Science 2....or Edward Scissorhands with a more tanned complexion and with proper hands. The intellectual depth is related to the insightful humour...but we could programme ID in separately just to make sure. in summary, women DO NOT KNOW what they are attracted to period. They have no idea what they want!!! Add to the list...a man who actually listens, rather than asks questions then closes his ears and replaces any responses he gets with his own preconceptions about women. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 in summary, women DO NOT KNOW what they are attracted to period. they have no idea what they want!!! What they say they want and what they really want are not the same things. They will tell you the qualities they like but then you see them with a guy and he has none of the qualities that they told you they were looking for. If you reek of "sexy" you will attract them but that varies from women to women. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 What they say they want and what they really want are not the same things. They will tell you the qualities they like but then you see them with a guy and he has none of the qualities that they told you they were looking for. I believe that the technical term for that is "making do". Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I believe that the technical term for that is "making do". Standing ovation Link to post Share on other sites
Author Simons Posted March 8, 2006 Author Share Posted March 8, 2006 probably they are attracted to a tall guy with good education and huge salary, wait, may be not. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I believe that the technical term for that is "making do". Bravo!!! I guess us men "make do" with big titted, air heads that can suck like a hoover. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Bravo!!! I guess us men "make do" with big titted, air heads that can suck like a hoover. OMG Thank you for the spewage you caused!! :lmao: Love it!!! I make do with hot dumb guys with big dicks and fat wallets :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Bravo!!! I guess us men "make do" with big titted, air heads that can suck like a hoover. Well - there's always a brisk market in inflatable dolls....so yes, there must be a lot of men out there busily "making do". Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 I love and adore my husband, but he can't meet ALL my needs. That is unfair of me to ask of him, just as I can't fullfill all his needs. Friends fill in where he can't and life just goes on. You can love someone and make them happy, but they can't be the ONLY thing in your life. Each couple STILL has to have their own friends, own interests and alone time. You can't make that person IT! It's too much pressure and obligation to put on anybody. Spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever...Don't put ALL your needs in one basket. That basket WILL break. Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted March 8, 2006 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Bravo!!! I guess us men "make do" with big titted, air heads that can suck like a hoover. Your posts never cease to amaze me YAMAHA. Perhaps you should stop hanging around strip clubs. Link to post Share on other sites
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