Lil_mama0613 Posted September 10, 2001 Share Posted September 10, 2001 I've been with this guy for a year and 3 months and i love for real. We just argue alot. Specially, when we are around other people. When we are alone he is the person I want to be with forever!!! But when are with his friends i don't want to be with him. But I honestly love him. Okay now this other guy I met him about 1 month ago and he is the most sweetest person all around. When i am with him i am happy even when his friends are around he always has me by his side.The guy I've been with for 1 year doesn't really let me know how he feels in other words he can't show me his feelings. The guy i meet a month ago he tells me how he feels. But I'm scared to let the one I been with for a year go!! But what if I'm passing something up that might be good. Please help!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Daisy Posted September 10, 2001 Share Posted September 10, 2001 Alright, well let me ask you something. What was your relationship like at the beginning with your boyfriend? Did you guys argue all the time, even at the 3 week mark? Probably not. He was probably very attentive and very sweet, just as this new one is. That's probably one of the things that attracted you to him. All relationships go through changes. It sounds like you've reached a point in your current relationship where things have tapered off. That's normal though. But if you really loved your boyfriend like you say you do, you would have no desire to be with any other man. Sure, there will be times when you wish he could change. If only he would hold your hand more. Or kiss you more. But the good would far outweigh the bad, and you could never imagine yourself with anyone else, no matter what his flaws are. And believe me, everybody has flaws. Even this new hot stud. It all boils down to whether or not you want to take the chance. If you decide to take the chance, then dump your boyfriend before you do it. Let him move on with his life. And definitely don't pull that crap about "Well let me see if I like this guy, and if I don't, then you're the one I want to be with". I think that is SO wrong (not meaning that you would, but I've had friends do it before). UGH. Oh, and if you decide to stay with your boyfriend, you should cut off contact with the new guy. It wouldn't be fair to you or your boyfriend to have this new guy hanging around, knowing that you have been tempted to go out with him. That will just cause problems. I've been with this guy for a year and 3 months and i love for real. We just argue alot. Specially, when we are around other people. When we are alone he is the person I want to be with forever!!! But when are with his friends i don't want to be with him. But I honestly love him. Okay now this other guy I met him about 1 month ago and he is the most sweetest person all around. When i am with him i am happy even when his friends are around he always has me by his side.The guy I've been with for 1 year doesn't really let me know how he feels in other words he can't show me his feelings. The guy i meet a month ago he tells me how he feels. But I'm scared to let the one I been with for a year go!! But what if I'm passing something up that might be good. Please help!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lost Jeffy Posted September 11, 2001 Share Posted September 11, 2001 Daisy that was well said! I've been with this guy for a year and 3 months and i love for real. We just argue alot. Specially, when we are around other people. When we are alone he is the person I want to be with forever!!! But when are with his friends i don't want to be with him. But I honestly love him. Okay now this other guy I met him about 1 month ago and he is the most sweetest person all around. When i am with him i am happy even when his friends are around he always has me by his side.The guy I've been with for 1 year doesn't really let me know how he feels in other words he can't show me his feelings. The guy i meet a month ago he tells me how he feels. But I'm scared to let the one I been with for a year go!! But what if I'm passing something up that might be good. Please help!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
arthropod Posted September 11, 2001 Share Posted September 11, 2001 have you TALKED to your current boyfriend about your issues with the relationship -- wait, which guy is that?!! you don't "honestly love him" . . . you've been "dating" someone else . . . how can you say that?!! i'm sorry, this is WRONG. why doesn't anyone TALK to anyone anymore?!! you're going out and exploring new avenues, and this dude's thinking everything's just fine . . . that's TOTALLY unfair. regardless of what you THINK you're feeling about the guy you're with, you should let him go. I've been with this guy for a year and 3 months and i love for real. We just argue alot. Specially, when we are around other people. When we are alone he is the person I want to be with forever!!! But when are with his friends i don't want to be with him. But I honestly love him. Okay now this other guy I met him about 1 month ago and he is the most sweetest person all around. When i am with him i am happy even when his friends are around he always has me by his side.The guy I've been with for 1 year doesn't really let me know how he feels in other words he can't show me his feelings. The guy i meet a month ago he tells me how he feels. But I'm scared to let the one I been with for a year go!! But what if I'm passing something up that might be good. Please help!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lil_mama0613 Posted September 11, 2001 Share Posted September 11, 2001 I understand where your coming from. But have you ever been in a relationship Where in the first minute he (she) tells you your the only person he (she) wants to be with and how much they LOVE you. And then the next out of no where your thinking everything is ok and they say they don't love you anymore.And the next day they love With their entire heart. I've never cheated on him. This other guy we are just friends no hugging no kissing nothin like that. When me and my boyfriend argue he comes out and says stuff like " Thats why I'm cheating on you" and then when I do leave him alone for a couple of days he calls me and says he just said that cause he was mad.I don't know wether to beleive or not. I do have love for him cause if I didn't I wouldn't be putting up with none of this. I don't want to let him go but I don't want to look stupid either. If someone understands me PLEASE RESPOND!! have you TALKED to your current boyfriend about your issues with the relationship -- wait, which guy is that?!! you don't "honestly love him" . . . you've been "dating" someone else . . . how can you say that?!! i'm sorry, this is WRONG. why doesn't anyone TALK to anyone anymore?!! you're going out and exploring new avenues, and this dude's thinking everything's just fine . . . that's TOTALLY unfair. regardless of what you THINK you're feeling about the guy you're with, you should let him go. Link to post Share on other sites
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