my best friend is asking my ex-gf out...

[Billy]

One of my best friends told me that he has been calling my ex-gf recently and hinted that he would like to go out with her. Then, my ex-gf called me and told me that they have had a few "dates" already. Of course, I did not say anything about it. I told her it's none of my business and if she likes him, she is free to go and pursue.

 

I understand that this is entirely not my business. Now, i am feeling a bit weird and I can not describe it, maybe just a bit uncomfortable. Had there been someone else I do not know at all at all who asks my ex gf out, the situation would have been completely different.

 

Am I weird?

[Tony T]

You are not weird.

 

Sorry, but you are wrong...this guy is not your friend at all. A friend would talk to you before asking one of your ex girlfriends on a date.

 

It's a weird situation and your "friend" was dead wrong in doing this. Now, if he's retarded and has no insight in knowing how you would feel about this just let it go.

 

But I certainly understand how you feel. Write off this friend immediately. He's a jerk.

[Billy]

Being nice and taken advantaged of thing is I have a lot of spare time and dont mind using it to help people but my friends all say that I am being taken advantage of. Now having conflicting feelings of being helpful and being used.

 

Anyone in the same boat??

[Paulie]

Agree with Tony, write them both off. They both have absolutely no consideration for your feelings. Furthermore, it's pathetic that each of them can't go find their own people to date, and have to rely on sneaking around your personal life in order to be happy.

 

Find some refuge in this thought. How pathetic (of them).

 

You're certainly not the weird one.

 

Paulie

[Billy]

The problem is that my ex is still very much waiting for me to return despite the fact that I already told her this is impossible. My best friend is currently going out with a girl but he told me that the relationship is not going anyway after 4 years. He also told me that he can pick up any secretaries in his office anytime he wants to because of his postion in the company. I am not sure if he is serious about my ex. But again, this is none of my business.

You are not weird. Sorry, but you are wrong...this guy is not your friend at all. A friend would talk to you before asking one of your ex girlfriends on a date. It's a weird situation and your "friend" was dead wrong in doing this. Now, if he's retarded and has no insight in knowing how you would feel about this just let it go. But I certainly understand how you feel. Write off this friend immediately. He's a jerk.

 

[arthropod]

hey, billy . . . sounds like it might be time for a little "friendship re-evaluation" here.

 

if you feel strange about a situation, you don't need to try and explain yourself to anyone. now, that doesn't necessarily mean that you're RIGHT, but these are YOUR FEELINGS here!

 

this is an awkward situation, and based on the other things you posted, these 2 need to GO!! friends are supposed to be an enhancement to your life, they're not supposed to cause you grief and bad feelings . . . if that's the case, then they just might need to be GONE from your life. it's about QUALITY, not QUANTITY!!

One of my best friends told me that he has been calling my ex-gf recently and hinted that he would like to go out with her. Then, my ex-gf called me and told me that they have had a few "dates" already. Of course, I did not say anything about it. I told her it's none of my business and if she likes him, she is free to go and pursue. I understand that this is entirely not my business. Now, i am feeling a bit weird and I can not describe it, maybe just a bit uncomfortable. Had there been someone else I do not know at all at all who asks my ex gf out, the situation would have been completely different. Am I weird?