My ex loves me then hates me.

[figgurinoutlife]

Well me and my ex are not speaking again. We got in a huge fight on the 27th of last month and I told her I am done with her. She was nasty to me the night before and started blaming me for all her problems, saying I ruined her life cause I called the cops on her last Nov. for a domestic situation her and her boyfriend were in, she didn't want to talk to the cops and started going nuts on them and she got herself arrested.

 

She was mad at me for calling the cops but said she understood why, now she brought it up again and said she doesnt forgive me and never will. She says because that happened she's going to have to go to jail at her court date, and I told her it wouldn't happen (and I was right). She also says she is jealous of my life and everything that I have she has wanted, like my job, car, etc. Also that she is running out of money because of court costs, and attourney fees because that whole situation happened.

 

I never wanted to spite her with what I have, I only wanted her to be proud of what I accomplished, not jealous. Well I listened calmly for awhile and let her vent. Next day I texted her "good morning" and she went off on the same **it again. Well I completely snapped at her, called her everyname in the book, and told her I am done with her, walked over to her apt. to get my radio and said goodbye.

 

She tried to call, 2 days later 5 times in a row, so I had my friend answer to see what the emergency was, and she just wanted a phone # to somewhere so my friend gave it to her. The day after that she called once with no voicemail. The next day she texted me wanting to know the last name of one of my friends, so I texted her back what it was (shouldn't have done that). She said "thanks" and I didn't reply after that. 5 more days pass then she sends me a text saying "I just wanted to say hi and let you know at the end of next month I am moving. So you don't have to see me again. Thanks for being in my life and having part in it. I will miss you."

 

I didn't respond to that, or haven't yet. Don't know whether I should.

 

This girl was very close to wanting to get back together a week before all this happened, she asked me if I would ever get back with her and I said "I don't know." I asked her the same and she said "yes." She said all her weird behavior over the last few months have been sexual tension between us. When we first broke up it was mutual, then a year ago last april I tried to get back with her and she said, no. She knows she would have to ask me back, cause it wouldn't be from me, cause I've already been rejected once from her. She was always very in love with me, and told me she was in love with me still last October. She knows I have changed for the better, but she acts like she hates me from her outburst above and says I've made her life hell from that damn call to the cops.

 

I just snapped and said I was sick of her **it. Frankly she acts like she loves me, and hates me. I didn't respond to her last text, should I? Do you think if I don't respond she'll try again to contact me again? What do you think of her last text? I do love her still and thought we could of had a shot at a 2nd chance. Just don't get her behavior and feel sad cause I've been in her life for 2 years. Think she'll forget me if I don't respond to her and stay away or pine for me more?

[amaysngrace]

i would ask her if she needs help moving...and then i'd say good-bye

[batesal]

I just snapped and said I was sick of her **it. Frankly she acts like she loves me, and hates me. I didn't respond to her last text, should I? Do you think if I don't respond she'll try again to contact me again? What do you think of her last text? I do love her still and thought we could of had a shot at a 2nd chance.

 

I am going through this, just like you. She treated me like S**t for a whole month, then when she cracked, I was the only person that she could call, becuase I was the only person that ever listened, and comforted her when she cried. Although I had to do it over the phone, I talked to her. You know I still love my ex and I dont think that it will change anytime soon, but it will. I SO DO want that second chance, but as days go by it gets slimmer and smaller. We are talking again, in my opinion, more than we should, but for right now, I am OK with it. (You might want to read my thread to understand why I say that)

 

What you need to do is give her some time. Try very very hard not to talk to her, cause right now, she is emotionally unstable. She is using you to make herself feel better for what she did, and to rid the guilt. If you are tired of her, but still love her, just tell yourself, "How do I feel after she yells and blames me for stuff?" Then you need to act on that. After my ex called me a drama queen, and cared less when a ferret we rasied together died, I told myself that I am not going to call her at all. I didn't talk to her for a whole week, then out of nowhere she called me and I helped her, but I did all that as I friend and not as a way of getting her back.. YOU ARE NOT GOING to get her back. She has to want you back. You need to heal 1st. Then pursue a friendship with her 2nd. Not backwards, cause you will never heal. I Promise you, that once you get back yourself esteem, or your feelings, you will talk to her like you just met her. IT is VERY VERY HARD not to call someone that hurt you, but you have to understand that right now, she is showing you that being her friend will suck, cause look at what you 2 do when you are together. I do beleive that you don't want that. But whatever you do... DO IT FOR YOU

 

GOOD LUCK.