Pls give me some ...not sure

[WorriedPete]

Thanks for your advice in advance, think it would be really helpful to know what others think as well as I'm really not sure what to do...

 

I have been with my gf for two years now and its a LDR, I live in US in Chicago and shes lives in the US in NY. Im 23 and shes 22. I really think shes the greatest person I have ever met and do love her very much. However, there are some things that worry me...

 

Even though I'm not normally the jealous type theres some things that have worried me recently. First, she has a friend who studies in another part of the US who shes very close with. Im comfortable with this, met him and think its great she has other close male friends as well. However, when I went to visit her last I came across her msg history after she asked me to look for a link he sent us to help us search for somewhere to stay when we were going travelling somewhere. I dont like to read the conversation but couldnt help notice some bits she said, so I read some more (know its bad...) but I saw she had said to him i really miss you so much and dont know why but really missed you so much...and im making something really special for your b'day, just matches you and he said i love you so much (even though he has gf to her) and she replied and you...i mean these are all the things she say to me as well so of course I'd feel a bit worried. Especially when she said making the special gift for you as she told me she only makes them for me...

 

Anyway, as I try not to worry about things too much I just decided to put it to the back of my mind and enjoy the rest of the time we could spend together when I went to visit her then. Also, I trust her so thought it would just be shes just saying that to a close friend and nothing more. However, although I hadnt told this to anyone a friend told me what was happening with his gf and it was kind of the same as what I found out (only he'd been told by the others). It start to make me think a bit more if maybe I should be more worried. I then told my gf about what happened with my friend and asked for her views on it...she said if shes saying those things to another guy and doing that for him she must have feelings on him and she said she'd never do those things to me...when she told me that I feel shocked because I then thought does she have feelings for this close friend and did she really lie to me then? I'm not sure what to think as I do trust her but just when I know what shes done and then tells me her views what should I think from that? Please give me some advice, am I worrying too much because its just a close friend or am I being too naive and she really care more than just friends for him as well?

 

Also, a couple of months ago, she said she met a guy who said he met her once and then they exchange phone numbers just when they are on the bus. He said he want to ask her for lunch (not really date as they study in same place) at the canteen their college and I didnt mind at all about this. She even said they didnt talk much during the dinner and then she never met or spoke to him again. However, she told me she got a message from him saying I love you. Of course I was thankful to her she told me but then when I say I cant understand why he say he love you if you just meet once she got a bit defensive and said I that she think I dont trust her and sent me messages to say she felt so bad for what she done to me. But then she keep asking me why I dont trust her. I only asked her this question and nothing else. But once she said I just met him once and once he said that she told him she had a bf. I just said ok I trust you and sorry for making you upset...don't know why I ended up feeling bad but I trust her so dont want to question what she says. But again was I being too naive here? I mean who would say I love you after just meeting once and then not even talking much when they did meet?! Thats what she told me.

 

Anyway, I trusted her on that so never bring it up or think about it but just when I hear her views on before, it make me start to worry a bit I guess. Just wanna ask your opinion if I'm being stupid and should just be happy as things are normally great and I see she does care me so much, she even make the effort to call me nearly every day and when we're toegther the time is amazing. Also, like I said shes the greatest girl I have met. Or am I being too naive and even if its great something may be wrong? My friends say they would be upset if they were me but maybe I just don't get that worried too often. But just dont know how I could carry on if she really meant those things to the guy...

 

Thanks again for your advice. Really need to know what to do as shes moving to Chicago at the end of the year.

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