he wants to see me again?

[love2love]

So this guy I was dating for a month and half and I got into our first big fight and he broke up with me. Basically he said something to the extent of sometimes I think you act fake and I got mad at him and blew up and walked out on him and he said he was sorry he doesn't know why he said that but that he was sorry. Well when I walked out on him he said it hurt him and he doesn't want to continue with the relationship....well we've been IMing almost everyday after that.

 

Some of it flirty and racy and lately he's like I want to see you before I leave for a week for a business trip. To that I ignore and chat with him like I didn't read what he wrote. He's constantly asking me what I'm doing and I make sure to tell him about all the exciting things happening in my life. Is he stringing me along or do you think a person after time apart from another can want the other person again and he's too scared to say it. He will be having a crazy work schedule where he will be travelling about 70 % of the time and working 12 hour days . I think he freaked out because he doesn't want to be involved in a relationship during this time but wants to hold onto me still because he does like me.

 

Any thoughts as to what I should do? Play coi and not allow him to see me or see him. I was considering having a friends with benefits thing with him as I enjoy his company and such and be able to date others until I find someone better than him. Any advice on this? How do I win him back and is it true that you have to allow the man to chase you in these situations or else he won't even cherish you like he should? Like do I have to play hard to get? guys you can help me with this situation.Thanks!

[GB111]

Ok, the fact of the matter is that no matter what happens, you're going to behave in a way that you believe is best for you. Human nature, nothing you can do about it.

 

Do you WANT a friend with benefits? Keeping in mind that unless he feels the same thing, at some point you'll break his heart. If your concious allows you to do this, then go forward. If not, don't bother. Hardly a long term relationship, so I doubt either of you can be too terribly involved at this point. Doesn't seem to be any animosity. Maybe he wants the same thing.

 

This really isn't a difficult situation. At this point, do what you want. People have petty fights like this all the time. It's not whether or not your going to have them, it's how you handle them. If you really love each other, you'll talk through it and be done. If not, maybe you can just be sex partners. Maybe nothing at all. The fact that you're already considering keeping him on the back burner until you find someone else leads me to believe he's not your dream guy. You're probably not his dream girl either, or he'd be reaching out to you. Go ahead and have a few rolls in the bed. I really doubt this is going anywhere meaningful.