Lost Posted September 11, 2001 Share Posted September 11, 2001 My boyfriend of one year masturbates often using porn as a stimulant, almost daily as I find evidence. We have sex less than once a week and when I make advances and he does not act interested but when I confront him he says he is attracted to me. He has some issues with sex saying you should not plan it, it should just happen.. I am not sure why he would masturbate and then not be with me? He always has an excuse why it is like this. It has been like this since we started being sexual together. Is this normal? Any suggestions?? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted September 11, 2001 Share Posted September 11, 2001 No, this is a very serious matter, it is not normal and it has nothing to do with you. Your guy has a sexual addiction to masturbation and pornography. Masturbation in and of itself is pretty harmless but when a person prefers it over intercourse, then it becomes problematic. If he doesn't want to seek help for his problem, you are the one who will have to make the decision to put up with it or leave. My recommendation to you is that this matter will create far more problems for you as time goes on. Cut your losses now and find a guy who prefers you over his hand. A man who masturbates on a regular basis will not want sex with you very often, simply because he doesn't have the energy, desire, or the drive. Remaining with him will be very hurtful and you will grow to resent him strongly...unless, as I said, he gets help and HE HAS A DESIRE to heal himself of this. Link to post Share on other sites
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