i threw away the friendship with her, did i make a mistake?

[Mydish1]

well anyway i spoke to this girl before sleeping and ended things with her.

I admit i can and do get along with her on an intellectual level and i enjoy her company.

 

I do like her enough to be friends with her and do care about her enough to be more htan friends. But thinking back at it now, i could be friends with her w/o the thought of getting into her pants...

 

I would have rather done this in person and gone in for a kiss, but doing it over the phone was absolutely horrible cause i suck at expressing myself and i stuttered a bit. and i failed miserably, however she still didnt mind being friends with me. But i hastily said goodbye and it was fun while it lasted.

 

The ironic thing behind all this is we used to date like couples in the past. but only in the last couples weeks did she lose attraction for me cause she met someone else. and thus i fell into the friend spot.

She told me she had lost attraction for me the last time we met up, but considering everything she's done and said and dressed, i thought otherwise.

The thing that bugs me is i know she's into older men (per se), but in actuality she's really into the provider figure, the guy with the car/house...i hate to admit but she's looking to settle down at an early age. and since im the same age as her, i cant give her what she wants in a mate...not yet anyway

 

Perhaps the outcome would have been different if we met in person.

But what's done is done....

 

i can call/text apologize for being hasty, and ask to keep the friendship. or i dont have to do anything at all. considering the fact that i dont have much friends in my life to begin with...it wouldnt hurt to have another friend.

 

All i know is she's going away for 4 months soon.

 

comments?

[gfto]

I'm confused. It's kind of difficult to follow your story.

[Mydish1]

I'm confused. It's kind of difficult to follow your story.

whre do you need clarification?

[gfto]

from what I can piece together.....

 

1. You were in a dating relationship with this girl.

2. She became unattracted to you, and found a new guy.

3. You decided to completely end it, opting to not be friends.

 

Is that it in a nutshell?

 

If so, you did the right thing. Remember, she is basically the one who ended it. Your goodbye phone call really didn't have any effect on her, other than to bruise her ego a little, but that's not your problem. She's no longer into you, and she's with a new guy. You correctly told her bub-bye.

[Mydish1]

from what I can piece together.....

 

1. You were in a dating relationship with this girl.

2. She became unattracted to you, and found a new guy.

3. You decided to completely end it, opting to not be friends.

 

Is that it in a nutshell?

 

If so, you did the right thing. Remember, she is basically the one who ended it. Your goodbye phone call really didn't have any effect on her, other than to bruise her ego a little, but that's not your problem. She's no longer into you, and she's with a new guy. You correctly told her bub-bye.

 

well, it seems you're clear now. she became unattracted to me however would like to remain friends.

 

nope it had no effect on her, there wasnt much struggle on her part to convince me to stay friends. However i should've taken control last time i was out with her and went for a kiss. too late to turn back time now.

 

but i think regardless if i call now or probably down a few months later, things would still remain the same and she would be cool staying friends. i think if i did get the friendship back i think deep down i'd still hope to get with her...but im still debating if i did the right thing.

If i'd ever want to hook up with a girl, she could introduce me to her friends...etc. or perhaps talk about other stuff with her.

 

i think ill just lay low for awhile until i can forget about her. contacting her out of the blue a few months from now after saying this goodbye could just be awkward for her, i want to regain the friends status...or i think im just in denial