sophiak Posted March 12, 2006 Share Posted March 12, 2006 Have been with my boyfriend for three years, and i know in the past before i got with him he took drugs and had a coke habit. Now when i got with him i made him aware that i didnt want to be with someone who took drugs, and he told me that he stopped. I believed him, and apart from one time when i found out he smoked some weed, i thought he was telling me the truth. I have however been highly suspicious of whether he has taken drugs since being with me- a number of things, many hard to name, but things like the fact most of his friends take drugs, he has disappeared for weekends and spent all his wages in two days, and i recently discovered that his best friend is a drug dealer. I asked him straight whether he has taken drugs these last three years and he smiles and laughs, but when i push him for an answer he gets cross. The main thing is he doesnt say no. This is such a big issue for me, and i have really strong anti-drug feelings. Not only that i cant stand not knowing if he is lying to me or not. I cant trust him. What can i do to find the truth? I am so naive to all this. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 As a former state narcotics agent, I'd say, "Yes!" He's still using. You'd be well served to cut him loose before you get dragged down with him. I'm surprised you had to ask. I think you already knew the answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Honey, if he won't give you a straight answer than that in itself gives you the truth! If you have such strong anti-drug feelings and don't trust him anymore than my question to you is why are you still with him? Link to post Share on other sites
KOTG Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 As someone who hid pot use from my spouse for three years, i would say yes, he is hiding it from you. Nowadays you can buy home test kits for pot and other drugs relatively inexpensively. Ask him to submit to a test, if he is not lying he will be glad to put it to rest, if he refuses or blames you for not trusting him, and tries to turn it around on you; you can be pretty confident he is using. Take it from someone who responded in very similar ways, the anger he replies with when you press him is the telling tale! Link to post Share on other sites
confused6925 Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 honey, i'm pretty much in the same situation you are (read my thread my boyfriend does coke). i kept trying to deny it to myself and wanting to believe his lies up until last night. i decided to meet w/one of his friends (who stopped messing w/drugs 5 years ago, when his daughter was born). He basically told me that my bf is out of control and needs help bad. Even though i had a pretty good feeling he was using, i didn't want to believe it. So, now i have no idea how the whole confrontation thing is going to go. i'm super nervous. Link to post Share on other sites
confused6925 Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Now that I know for sure what my bf is doing, does anybody know anything about using drugs and a rash appearing on their body. about 2 weeks ago he started to get this rash that spread all over his body (except genitals). I was wondering if it is possible for that happen w/drug use???? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Now that I know for sure what my bf is doing, does anybody know anything about using drugs and a rash appearing on their body. about 2 weeks ago he started to get this rash that spread all over his body (except genitals). I was wondering if it is possible for that happen w/drug use???? I once went on a week long coke binge and got a weird red itchy rash all over my torso, but not on my genitals. You get all sorts of weird stuff like that if you stay up for days not eating and drinking alcohol and snorting/smoking coke. I feel bad for you ladies. I know from experience that you'll probably try to "get" your BF sober and will go through months/years of heartache before/if you ever realize that you can't "get" him to do anything. The best thing to do for YOU would be to get the hell away from your BF. But I know you guys prolly won't do that so I feel very sad for you because I know what you're in for. Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 meth can cause a rash especially on the face Link to post Share on other sites
Poconobob Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I once went on a week long coke binge and got a weird red itchy rash all over my torso, but not on my genitals. You get all sorts of weird stuff like that if you stay up for days not eating and drinking alcohol and snorting/smoking coke. I feel bad for you ladies. I know from experience that you'll probably try to "get" your BF sober and will go through months/years of heartache before/if you ever realize that you can't "get" him to do anything. The best thing to do for YOU would be to get the hell away from your BF. But I know you guys prolly won't do that so I feel very sad for you because I know what you're in for. In this case, I agree... get out if you can, a boyfriend/girlfriend can leave much easier than a long term relationship. It is hard to leave, I couldn't leave and ended up plop right in the middle using and all.. Good post b_o bob Link to post Share on other sites
Poconobob Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 Now that I know for sure what my bf is doing, does anybody know anything about using drugs and a rash appearing on their body. about 2 weeks ago he started to get this rash that spread all over his body (except genitals). I was wondering if it is possible for that happen w/drug use???? That "crap" comes out the pores and impurities can be so many... also a heat rash from sweating! I actually took too many showers while using and got a rash in the belly... bob Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 He's definitely using, please don't waste your time or money testing his urine etc. Like Curmudgeon said, you already knew the answer, you're just asking us for help in accepting the reality that is as plain as day. I'm so sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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