Daisy Posted September 12, 2001 Posted September 12, 2001 I have been seeing my b/f for awhile. We dated for a yr & moved in together 2 yrs ago. We used to be sex fanatics and since we had a long distance relationship the 1st yr, we saw each other on the weekends and did it twice every weekend. After we moved in together we fought all the time. 2 months later he admitted he wanted to cheat on me. A month after that he f***ed another girl in our apt while I was back home visiting my family who lives across the state. I have forgiven him, but everyday I still live with it even though it happened awhile ago now. After it happened I wanted sex all the time, which is no different than normal, but he was turning me down. Even now, I'm lucky if I get it once a week and guys ITS NOT ME DENYING IT! I'm the one who wants it but he turns me down. Is there a problem? He tells me he is too tired from his classes and work. That doesnt stop me. Is it normal for a man to lose his libido and NOT the woman? I mean sure sometimes I'm tired too but I always give in when he wants it and enjoy it anyway. If he gives in to me I'm pushy and he gets pissed at me. I am doing something wrong? I know he likes it when I'm assertive but I ALWAYS have to initiate sex with him. Even if he wants it. He doesnt because he thinks I'll get mad at him and because he prefers a woman chase him but god-d##nit I would like to feel like I'm still attractive, sexy and appealing to him. Is it my fault he's like this?
midori Posted September 12, 2001 Posted September 12, 2001 Is it normal for a man to lose his libido and NOT the woman? Yeah, I've been wondering the same question myself lately. A friend of mine has been dating a guy for nearly two months. He had a fantastic sex life with his ex girlfriend (we know this because the ex is a friend of mine who moved to the opposite coast half a year ago for work, thus the break-up. She used to regale me with tales of the nature & frequency of their bedroom explorations). But he is actually UNABLE (not unwilling, apparently) to have sex with his new girl. They've tried, he just can't. I don't really know what to say to her except to just have patience and not make a big deal about it with him. They seem to get along well enough, I've met them for drinks a couple of times. He seems quite eager to pursue the relationship but somehow it seems strange given the lack of sex, his known proclivities and her eagerness -- doesn't it? I don't know. Guys? Is it normal to pursue a girl you're not particularly aroused by?
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