Dreamer084 Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Well here it goes...I am dating a new woman, and me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for 3 months..we were in a 2 year relationship.....and getting over her was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my entire life...she hurt me really really bad, I'm talking lack of sleep, heartache...the whole thing..I have had so many people on this forum help me get through it including my personal friends home here. I told her these words..I was like one day you are going to miss me and its going to eat you up inside knowing you messed up....and I will have moved on..because time made me stronger...Endless Text Messages, phone calls from my ex in the past couple of weeks..I told my new gf what the problem was..and at first she was really upset, but then she tells me its ok, because she says I trust you, and I know you wouldn't hurt me..and shes right...I wouldn't...So last night I am on the phone with her and hear a knock on my window and I hear my name being yelled and it is my ex..She came over to my house at 3 in the morning..She said she wanted to hear from me that she needed to move on..she gave me my promise ring back, and I know I could get back with her in an instant and the thing is it hurt me so bad to hurt her..see the look on her face..and the pain I gave her..but I remember all the pain she gave me and what she did to me..and I told her this would happen..I f***en told her..and still. This new women I date now makes me very happy and is incredible in so many ways..one of the most gorgeous women I have ever laid my eyes on..LITERALLY people. Shes very very pretty. Very Smart...just awesome..I feel great. Well to get back to last night..she cried right in front of me and on my shoulder saying how she f***ed up and how she didn't want things to be this way. Then she said something particular..I have to deal with the consequences of the decisions that she made. She broke my heart 3 months ago and I just gave her what she gave me and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do..God it was so hard...To dish out pain like that to someone you really do care about, but at the same time tell them you moved on and that they should to. Whats your guys opinions on all this here today? Link to post Share on other sites
qnmc Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 It doesn't sound like you twisted the knife, that you remained composed, and calmly told her you had moved on and that she need to also. You could have very easily been vindictive and left her with false hope, but it sounds like you took the high road. I think you handled this like a gentleman - be proud of yourself! And best of luck with this new lady, she sounds like a keeper. Not that you're going to do this, but just make sure you remain true to yourself and do not lose yourself in this relationship (so easy to do, especially for us guys) - that you remain the independent guy she has fallen for in the first place, that you continue to grow as a person, and especially hang out with your buddies. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 Yeah I am not about twisting the knife..New girl..Well to say is awesome..I told my ex I would be there for her when she needed me...but we are not together what so ever...I told her...It's just tough letting someone go like that you were with for such a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Sunfisher Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 You broke up with your ex just three months ago and already you're in a new relationship? Did you honestly give yourself time to get over your ex before you dove into dating this new girl? Feels pretty good to have two women after you at the same time doesn't it? Sure you're just not basking in your own glory and secretly enjoying having the ex knocking on your window in the middle of the night while you just happen to be talking on the phone with the new girl - at 3:00 AM??? Who are you people to all be up at 3 AM? (just kidding). You're ego is being stroked and that's taking precedence over the fact you did care for your ex and only broke up 3 months ago. You can't possibly be in a "relationship" with this new girl yet - you just started dating her. If she's good to you - do her a favor and cut ties with the ex and focus on her or go back and deal with the ex. Don't juggle both women just to feed your ego. Sometimes you must be mean to get thru to an ex that's it's over and time to move on - that's just the way it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 I said to her she needed to move on last night..I'm pretty sure I said it up there in my post. I think that was sufficient enough. At times I feel like I am over my ex, but then she SHOWS UP at my door. Or calls me...I just want to have peace of mind and move on, and I think I have finally delt the dagger to her. Link to post Share on other sites
justhavetoletgo Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 Well here it goes...I am dating a new woman, and me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for 3 months..we were in a 2 year relationship.....and getting over her was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my entire life...she hurt me really really bad, I'm talking lack of sleep, heartache...the whole thing..I have had so many people on this forum help me get through it including my personal friends home here. I told her these words..I was like one day you are going to miss me and its going to eat you up inside knowing you messed up....and I will have moved on..because time made me stronger...Endless Text Messages, phone calls from my ex in the past couple of weeks..I told my new gf what the problem was..and at first she was really upset, but then she tells me its ok, because she says I trust you, and I know you wouldn't hurt me..and shes right...I wouldn't...So last night I am on the phone with her and hear a knock on my window and I hear my name being yelled and it is my ex..She came over to my house at 3 in the morning..She said she wanted to hear from me that she needed to move on..she gave me my promise ring back, and I know I could get back with her in an instant and the thing is it hurt me so bad to hurt her..see the look on her face..and the pain I gave her..but I remember all the pain she gave me and what she did to me..and I told her this would happen..I f***en told her..and still. This new women I date now makes me very happy and is incredible in so many ways..one of the most gorgeous women I have ever laid my eyes on..LITERALLY people. Shes very very pretty. Very Smart...just awesome..I feel great. Well to get back to last night..she cried right in front of me and on my shoulder saying how she f***ed up and how she didn't want things to be this way. Then she said something particular..I have to deal with the consequences of the decisions that she made. She broke my heart 3 months ago and I just gave her what she gave me and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do..God it was so hard...To dish out pain like that to someone you really do care about, but at the same time tell them you moved on and that they should to. Whats your guys opinions on all this here today? I pray to GOD i get this chance with my ex i would love to do this to her after what she did to me and man don't worry about it she didn't think twice about hurting you and its not like you went out and did this on purpose you should keep your head high you did the honorable thing alot of people would have called the cops and said someone was trying to break into there house LMAO i know i would have but you opened the door cheers Link to post Share on other sites
tweldy Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 You were fair and honest with your ex and you're in a new relationship. Its probably a little too soon for you to be in a new relationship, but pour your emotions and efforts into what you've got going now - its sounds great. If you can have no contact with your ex and have a great time with your new girlfriend, you may be in for some happy time ahead and your new girlfriend will really appreciate how honest and faithful you've been. Good luck, man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dreamer084 Posted March 14, 2006 Author Share Posted March 14, 2006 Thanks a lot guys and she really does appreciate me being faithful with her. CHEERS! Link to post Share on other sites
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