yawhatever Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 My ex cheated on me when we had a fight and after a while I realized I still loved her. I decided to go back to see her, and we walked her dog and talked in positive ways, we were togehter till about 1:30am, and I met her at 9pm so we ate together, then we connected emotionally, kissed, cuddled, whatever.. The next day I called her and she was not at all the same as the day before, very cold and distant, so I knew any plans we made the night before were not gonna happen, she actually said she wants to be home alone tonight so I said OK, but then I find out from her mom she went out with the guy she cheated on me with, and they stayed up till 2am, not to mention she had work at 9 in the morning. Grr that pissed me off, What are her intentions? Whatever they are its really toying with my feelings so I told her I think we should stop all communications.. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 The next day I called her and she was not at all the same as the day before, very cold and distant, so I knew any plans we made the night before were not gonna happen, she actually said she wants to be home alone tonight so I said OK, but then I find out from her mom she went out with the guy she cheated on me with, and they stayed up till 2am, not to mention she had work at 9 in the morning. Grr that pissed me off, What are her intentions? Whatever they are its really toying with my feelings so I told her I think we should stop all communications.. Any advice? Her intentions are to treat you like crap and see how much you'll take. Apparently you'll take as much as she'll dish out at this point. My advice would be to grow a spine and tell her to F off. It'll do wonders for you, I guarantee it. MD Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 13, 2006 Author Share Posted March 13, 2006 so she dosn't really care for me and there isn't no hope in seeing her? I was thinking of just ignoring her, but thought she would realize soon enough that her feelings are strong for me too.. not sure tho if this happens but incase it does, what do I do then? I have these feelings but I dont wanna be a wuss. Link to post Share on other sites
MadDog Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 so she dosn't really care for me and there isn't no hope in seeing her? I was thinking of just ignoring her, but thought she would realize soon enough that her feelings are strong for me too.. not sure tho if this happens but incase it does, what do I do then? I have these feelings but I dont wanna be a wuss. Be a man and stand up for yourself! You're seriously letting her walk all over you. No she doesn't care about you. If she's seeing another guy, she's obviously moved on so it's time you do too. When I told you to tell her to f*ck off, I meant it. Don't talk to her anymore. Realize that she's a bitch and you'd be much better off being alone. Have a random drunken hook up or two if that's what it takes for you to move on. For god's sake man, don't let this continue! MD Link to post Share on other sites
prfrogkisser Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Honestly it seems she is not interested in you as much as you are. She might be playing both guys to see with one is better. You shouldnt allowed her to treat you this way. Noone should be second best. My advice is to move on. You deserve so much better. Look for someone that will value your feelings and treat you with respect. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Seriously, man, this girl is doing to you what girls ALWAYS do to nice guys and then they act like jerks to all us nice girls. Get away from her poison. You'll find a nice girl and she'll be good to you, like you DESERVE. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 14, 2006 Author Share Posted March 14, 2006 I just felt she was so right for me and now this. Its like everything I belived in, the world I lived in all took a bad turn. Well she wants her stuff back now, shes asking for it back and she said she has some of my stuff but I told her I dont care, not to talk to me, and for god sakes to remove me from her msn contacts like I have a long time ago. I told her that I dont want to talk to her anymore, and that what she did / is doing is only making things worse for herself.. and that shes loosing about. Shes like ok I'll get the stuff from you whenever, and I said i'll just drop it in ur mailbox or something cuz I dont want to see you right now.. or ever. What do you guys think? From my observations when we had fights and I really didn't want to deal with it anymore I told her off and she always came back to me, but now that I love her I didn't want to do this. I noticed when I met her I didn't really care for her much, didn't treat her well, pointed out her flaws, and she would complain but love me more.. now that I became a nicer guy towards her, the tables have turned and she cheated on me.. messed up and now I just need to make myself feel better. Let me know about what I should do if she does come to get her stuff back, maybe what I should say, how I should act, body language, who should I be with, maybe what I am wearing.. anything to make her want me, and make me not want her. P.s plz comment on what I said to her through my IM's. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 14, 2006 Author Share Posted March 14, 2006 Heres one way I thought of doing it: She comes over and I just give her stuff fast, without even paying attention to her, take my stuff, dont say anything, then just slam the door on her face.. Too harsh? I think it will make her think like why I did that and she wont be able to focus on the part that she shouldn't care. Its an attack and I think eventually she might break down and want me back if I show her I'm strong without her and she means nothing to me. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 When it comes to her stuff, throw it in a hefty bag and then leave it in front of her house. Never see her again, she is playing you like a well tuned fiddle Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 It really sounds like this relationship was never that great. Maybe you should have treated her better from the beginning, because I know that after a while when you're treated really badly that "I'm-so-sorry-I'll-change-now" crap doesn't fly. You really need to let this go. You treated her badly, she treated you badly. I'm guessing you don't love her so much as are used to her, and it might have something to do with the fact that now you suddenly can't have her and you're used to being in control. It's over, give her her stuff however you want, it really doesn't matter because there's nothing to save or ruin by your actions now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 14, 2006 Author Share Posted March 14, 2006 It really sounds like this relationship was never that great. Maybe you should have treated her better from the beginning, because I know that after a while when you're treated really badly that "I'm-so-sorry-I'll-change-now" crap doesn't fly. You really need to let this go. You treated her badly, she treated you badly. I'm guessing you don't love her so much as are used to her, and it might have something to do with the fact that now you suddenly can't have her and you're used to being in control. It's over, give her her stuff however you want, it really doesn't matter because there's nothing to save or ruin by your actions now. What a load of crap! The typical femenistic view hahahahaa. No when I treated her worse she liked it, kept thing interesting, but when I was nice she just was bitter back to me.. thats how it is !! I dont think you can read ppl very well gezz ofcourse I love her, and right now I am getting my power, why should I give my power back to her? Shes using me, playing with me so I will give her some of her medicine ..Good idea.. leave her stuff on the porch I will do that but I'm not in a hurry to do so.. if she comes i'll give it to her Shes calling me like a crazy woman now, but I hang up dont pick up, like she called me approx 10 times today.. makes one feel better to get the attention instead of giving attention n not getting it back. Would I take her back? NO. Why? Because of what she did, and I dont want to give in so easily to make her think that I think what she did is OK! When its not. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 "femenistic"??? What is that? I think you mean "feminist", which in your world probably means "smart girl." Since you can't spell at all, I am of course not insulted by your ignorance. It's what I expect. You are all about games and nonsense. This is not a serious relationship because you are not a serious person. And if you can't take a dissenting viewpoint, don't ask for opinions. Link to post Share on other sites
onlyhuman Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 Catgirl. This is the same guy who who broke up with his girlfriend, accused her of cheating, then loves her so much he was going to screw her to hurt her. Don't waste your time with this guy.i've followed his threads for awhile and your right ,its all about games, this guy's veiw of reality is distorted. He is vengefull and a control fiend. This is my opinion of you yawwhatever.Your call name says it all.Keeping things civil which I'm finding difficult with your behaviour, get some counselling,it won't hurt.Your really messed up and have no idea what a relationship is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 My gf did cheat on me and this was my attempt on making things better with her. Ofcourse I was pissed off when she did it, anyone would, its not abnormal. She feels bad for what she did and she contacts me every once in a while stating that she still feels strongly .. blah blah blah that we should have never fought and she slept w/ someone else. Shes been telling me that she sometimes misses me alot and wants to get back, and other times she dosn't. I told her well either you do or you don't, but if your confused then better not, I think you should know 100%. OnlyHuman I dont think you ever been in a 4 yr relationship have u? Stuipid ppl n their negative feedback. If you have no good advice then dont say anything at all, didn't ur pearents teach u that? Only human YRAFM! Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 PS I followed your posts and your a pretty messed up guy yourself. Who needs the councelling there? Think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
onlyhuman Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 If you call several months of counseling, my wife finally getting control over her depression and both of us saving a marriage I'm, guilty. I never in my life have tried to intentionally hurt someone I love and can honestly say I have never done the vengenence thing. The fact that you think I'm messed up is the best compliment I could get and I thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 19, 2006 Author Share Posted March 19, 2006 I was not being vengeful I was talking crap cuz I really just wanted to hold her etc etc..but had to putit that way in my mind to stay strong. Well I did what someone else suggested to me in my previous posts, I slept with someone else and it was the worst experience ever. I really just wanted to sleep with my ex, cuz sex was good with her for me, very fulfilling, but I slept with some stupid girl instead.. first of all I couldn't get it up for 3 hours and went through a pack of condoms, finally by watching lots n lots of porn I got it up and did it, now I feel really bad cuz this didn't change the way I feel about my ex and it just made me want her more.. she is so much better in every way and we connect. I really hope she feels the same way about me. Link to post Share on other sites
onlyhuman Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Classy! No other comments needed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 20, 2006 Author Share Posted March 20, 2006 Yea and the next night I had sex with my ex, we spent the whole day together it was awsome. I just think shes going to get wierd when she goes to work and sees the guy that she slept with since she works with him. I talked about it with her n told her not to get wierd.. if we can get past that we will be 100% ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yawhatever Posted March 20, 2006 Author Share Posted March 20, 2006 Oh yea I didn't have a problem getting turned on by my ex.. so so hot & sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
onlyhuman Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I'm speechless! Give someone enough rope.............. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I'm speechless! Give someone enough rope.............. I kind of wonder if this guy is real. It's too ridiculous... Link to post Share on other sites
onlyhuman Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Either way its quite pathetic and sad. Link to post Share on other sites
Delectable Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 sad & Pathetic... but he should hook up with JMMM or Flower183 (Same insanely obsessed person that posts under two names). They would make a great couple. Yawhatever - do not use a suggestion on here to justify you sleeping with another. You clearly stated you wanted to do that for revenge. The relationship with your ex is irreversably damaged. And ifyou take advice from this board to heart like that. Hook up with JMMM or Flower183 - you two are PERFECT for each other. :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
onlyhuman Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I would be laughing if this all wasn't so sick. I took some heat last year in calling out some of the trolls.I think its safe to say we have one here. Link to post Share on other sites
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