MeLlOwDrUmMeR Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 Hello, I am new here. I can usually talk to girls fine depending on the atmosphere, like work or school. But, approaching girls and starting up conversations with a girl that I don't know is what I am lost about. I started college and in one of my classes one girl that I want to get to know sits sort of in the corner of the room at a computer doing her work. She doesn't socialize with the lot of all the others in the class. Should I just walk up and sit right next to her? Or what? Thanks for any help you all give. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2006 Share Posted March 13, 2006 bring her a flower, give it to her and introduce yourself ! Link to post Share on other sites
babbah Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 oh yeah! or maybe ask her out on a lunch or dinner perhaps. in that way, you can introduce yourself and get to know her better as well.... im sure when you accomplishedb that, asking her out the next time will be very easy. goodluck and go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
prfrogkisser Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 Try to look for something she might have that can start a conversation. For example a book or a pretty purse. Something that can help you get her undivided attention. From there on, it should be easy and of course you will stand out for noticing something about her that is not related to her appearance. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeLlOwDrUmMeR Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 Thanks yall, I have yet to see her in class. I don't know what the big deal is why she hasn't showed up...oh well when and if I ever see her again I will tell you what happened. Bring her a flower? Are you serious? Would that really work or wouldn't that seem really cheesy. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 i would like it if some guy introduced himself to me with a flower....i think it's nice Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeLlOwDrUmMeR Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 What kind of flower would be best? Color, type, which would you prefer? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 like a single rose -not red- or a pretty exotic looking one from a florist but just one...don't go overboard... Link to post Share on other sites
qnmc Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 The flower seems a bit bold to me. While on its surface it sounds like a great idea, the problem here is that the harder a guy chases the harder a girl will play to get. And you run the risk of coming on too strong. How many classes per week do you have with her? I'll assume you have 2 between now and this weekend. Class 1: If she's not very social and sits off by herself, I'd start by sitting near her next class and trying to strike up a conversation. Start by talking about something you have in common - in this case the easiest thing to start with is class. See how the conversation goes. After class walk out of class with her and in the same direction she's going (assuming it's a natural thing to do). The key here is keep any conversation light, funny, and as natural as possible. You're just someone trying to make a pal at this point, but be somewhat flirty. Class 2: Assuming class 1's conversation was decent, sit next to her again. Assuming it's close to the weekend, since you're in college this is an easy one. Casually say you're psyched it's finally the weekend and can't wait to go out. See how she responds - hopefully she agrees and can't wait to go out too. Again, casually, ask her what she's up to. If she answers with a bar, your reply is, funny, I'll probably be in that part of town too. That night: show up at the bar with your buddies looking good and "run into her." At this point you'll have had enough conversation time with her that you're no longer a stranger. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MeLlOwDrUmMeR Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 As much as I would love it to be that easy I know it won't. I only have one class and that's basicully what would happen. I would just literally sit next to her, cause there is no other place to sit, and just start up a conversation. But would I want to sit and talk to her for the whole class period? I suppose if some sort of bad vibe came between us that would ruin it and I would have to leave. If that happened I would go look for a fight:mad: Would you say the key is to get her to laugh? After class I could walk with her, I believe she goes out to her car because so do I. I saw her but I don't know if she leaves or something. Would asking her to lunch or a date on the first contact be okay? I hope she doesn't have a bf. I am assuming she will be in class on wednesday, ladeeda Maybe I can charm her with my British accent, even though I am not British nor have I ever been there. It sounds ligit though and I can even throw in some stupid slang. Link to post Share on other sites
qnmc Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 Because she has a class with you it means you'll see her regularly, this gives you the opportunity to build up things a little more slowly over the course of a couple weeks. Don't try to impress her, your mindset should be at this point that you're just trying to make a friend. So next class, I'd sit next to her. The beauty of being in class is that you don't have to talk to her b/c you're in class and have a legit excuse not to talk to her. Make sure you chat her a up a bit before the your professor starts talking. While he/she's talking, maybe add a side comment here and there to what the professor says that you think will get a laugh - but don't do this too much. Remember - you're not trying to impress her, girls pick up on that really quickly and they play harder to get as a result. The class after this one, you should be a bit more familiar with one another. Take it up a level, but only slightly. Walk out to the parking lot with her after class. Then try the weekend thing that I said earlier. Remember- you're not asking her out, just what she's up to, and... funny you'll be in the same place too. I wouldn't wait more than 3 classes before trying to meet up with her outside, though. Otherwise you're liable to enter the friend-zone. Link to post Share on other sites
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