flavius Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I have served some purpose on Earth -- I have demonstrated ugliness so that Catgirl can be her beautiful self! I guess my minority convictions bother some people. The fact is, I actually enjoy it when other people articulate their convictions. That's why I read and write on LoveShack! I know it is unpopular to live by "ancient wisdom," but I actually find it very liberating. And I am happy to advocate a few little things that have given my life excitement, contentment, and fun. Sorry if I "Ugly You Out", Catgirl. I actually like you! Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 It's not your convictions, it's your tone. There is nothing wrong with doing what you believe is right, as long as it doesn't hurt other people, and I'm glad you're happy in your marriage. But you do come across as awfully proud of yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 It's not your convictions, it's your tone. There is nothing wrong with doing what you believe is right, as long as it doesn't hurt other people, and I'm glad you're happy in your marriage. But you do come across as awfully proud of yourself. that's just how flav writes. some of us are more self-deprecating than others. I never saw his posts are self-righteous. He's worked hard to get to the point that he's at with his family. It's something he SHOULD be proud of -- too few men do that work nowadays, and we have a bunch of fatherless children as the result. Link to post Share on other sites
flavius Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Sorry if I sound that way. The real tone in my stuff is the sound of a great big smile. I laugh all the time, I sing loud and crappy, and I love being with people. My idea of heaven is a front porch a thousand miles long, just folks swapping stories. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Sorry if I sound that way. The real tone in my stuff is the sound of a great big smile. I laugh all the time, I sing loud and crappy, and I love being with people. My idea of heaven is a front porch a thousand miles long, just folks swapping stories. I wuvs you, flavalicious. Link to post Share on other sites
catgirl1927 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I shall be more openminded then, I have taken it the wrong way. I am sure with time I will see that is just the way he writes. And he SHOULD be proud. Link to post Share on other sites
flavius Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Not so fast there, Otter! I wasn't done judging you yet................. I have a feeling if we lived in the same swamp we'd be up all night playing cards and swilling Red Bull. Link to post Share on other sites
flavius Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I have done only a few things right in my whole life. Dyslexic, depressive, late-blooming, over-sleeping, twice-bankrupt, washed out ex-preacher who's always in trouble at church for being too wild... I just can't get enough of living! Only God and Otter could love me. I'll be REALLY proud if you love me too. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 Not so fast there, Otter! I wasn't done judging you yet................. I have a feeling if we lived in the same swamp we'd be up all night playing cards and swilling Red Bull. Down here in the South we drink Mountain Dew, goddemmit! Link to post Share on other sites
Author shocked-n-shaken Posted March 21, 2006 Author Share Posted March 21, 2006 Well, we have had numerous talks and have decided to move forward. We have addressed alot of issues that led us to the point in our relationship, that he strayed. This question is for the guys. . . . . Should he start to exhibit some of the attitudes and actions that start to lead us down the same path again, because it is difficult to change, what is the gentlest most no offensive way for me to keep him on course without it being nagging or giving him a hard time etc. Gentle reminders of the common goal and the importance of staying the course. He isn't being punished or in the dog house. He is in the middle of planning a golf trip with friends and he pretty much golfs one day a week starting in April. No penance. But he can get very self important and self absorbed where the only goals that matter are his own and the first thing he does is start to take shots at my activities. FYI: I play hockey 1 night a week and participate in a book club that meets once a month. He goes to the gym twice a week, when his work schedule permits and golfs. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink_Tulip Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So then you guys are going to counselling? I hope so, b/c it sounds like there are a lot of other issues here besides the 'massage' and work a holic stuff... And as far as what he should do... You both should be trying to show eachother that you are putting 200% into the relationship every day. Don't let him think he can go back to his normal self just b/c he thinks you forgave him and all is well. Link to post Share on other sites
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