Guest Posted March 14, 2006 Share Posted March 14, 2006 Hi all, I'm new here and could use some advice. I hope this all seems obvious to you because I'm totally confused. I was on and off with a girl last year. Long story there but basically we were together, I broke it off but we remained really close for 6 months. She then went to law school and found another guy. She told me we couldn't talk and be friends anymore because she wanted to be fair in her new relationship. I begged her not to go but she did, and I can't blame her. She had wanted to be with me for so long after we broke up but I never let it happen. So 3 months had passed and I've never missed a person more. You're so quick to point out the phrase "You don't know what you have until its gone." but when you realize it happened to you, your heartbroken. I never let her know how important she was to me and when I finally stopped being an idiot, I knew that I loved her and wanted her back so much...... And then she calls. About a month ago. Her and her boyfriend broke up because he was cheating on her the whole time they were together. Sparing you those details, he was a bad guy and she thought she loved him. So now I'm back in the picture. She calls all the time, sometimes to talk about the breakup, other times to bring up 'our' past and how she was hurt by me. She knows I have feelings for her as I told her I still did from the beginning. At first she said she's not calling to get back with me but was sorry to have goven me up as a friend. But she invited me over to watch movies, calls me every night before she goes to sleep, and seems to want to pick up from where we last left it before she started seeing this other guy. I'm confused guys. I want to be with this girl. I love her so much. But I don't want to get my hopes up and fall victim to just "filling her void" while she recovers and then watching her go to someone else again. I've hurt her in the past by not being ready to be with her but I've apologized 1000 times over and she must know I still have feelings. Why do you think she's calling again? Does it sound like there is still something there on her end? I've been trying to just be her friend. Be there for her and slip in little signs that I'm interested. I would do anything for her and that puts me in a weak spot. But if I knew I had that one chance left, it would make everything worth it. I never know how to read the signs, can any of you help?? Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 I'm confused guys. I want to be with this girl. I love her so much. Then, why did you dump her?! I'm the one who's confused here!! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 You dumped her, dude. If you want her back, take things slow. Don't be in a rush. If over time she comes to love you then you don't have to worry about her leaving you. Why did you dump her in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 Sounds like you were the unsure, unready to commit partner, so you dumped her, she did a rebound with whoever was available, it failed, she still hasn't settled with her emotions regarding the break-up with you, -plus she's confused and hurt about her most recent break-up, she doesn't know where to turn, so she's back to you now -very vulnerable- and, again, searching for someone to, not only soothe her, -but someone to love her. I hope, for her sake, she doesn't receive another dose of heartache. Be kind to her; be truthful to her. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
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