Why do i want to get married and he doesn't?

[sweetjess1205]

Okay here's the thing my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years and 3 months. we have been together for part of high school and part of college. this past summer we bought a house moved in, and it was rocky at first getting use to everything but now were closer than ever. we talk about getting engaged and getting married, about children and how we want raise them. we have talked about everything. i just don't understand why he hasn't asked yet, am i too pushy or is this understandable to want to get engaged after this long of being together. how do i get him to undersand this is what i want right now, and he should ask.

[Knin]

if he is anything like my BF then don't push the issue, but get ideas in his head. If you push it on him the longer you will wait, or worse, you will get it and he won't want it.

 

I have learned in the 3 years that he will ask when he is ready to. If you have talked about future issues, (and obviously with a house you have), then talk about wedding ideas..ie..time of year you like...this way he might think the best time to propose would be...

 

But if you love him then stick with it cause it will be so worth it in the end. I know that it is hard to hear when i am sure that people ask when you think it will happen. Enjoy what you have with him and give hints...because anything more might lead to a fight.

 

Happy Hinting!

[starlight2025]

The reason he won't propose is probably because he's getting the best of both worlds. The best of both worlds is to date exclusively long term without marriage & without even living together. If he already has a sleep over relationship with you--that is he spends the night with you on weekends or what have you then he'll have no real motivation to propose unless he senses that he's losing you.