What should I think?

[ShyGuy]

A couple of weeks ago my girlfriend and I had the worst fight ever. Everthing was blown out of proportion and I was really upset. She decided that we take some time apart to cool ourselves down ( especially me ) and when the time was right to talk things over and resume our relationship. To help you understand the basis of our fight, it began with her going out with this one certain person. She tells me he's just a friend from her work and that he has a girlfriend but somehow I feel otherwise. Anyways she still talks to this person even though she knows how I feel about the situation. Anyways, I called her one day to say that I'm ready to talk things over and continue with our relationship. We talked for a bit to see each others point of view and I told her that I was sorry for what happened and I was ready to come back. But she said I wasn't ready to get back into the relationship because she feels I'll just blow up again. Well we're back together but I feel she's not in it a 100%. Give me your thoughts on this!

[BrianaW]

This all boils down to trust. You did not trust her for some reason. Has she cheated on you in the past or something? If not, unfortunately you have to wait for her to hurt you before the mistrust is founded. Until then, you are being irrational. Your girlfriend probably knows that you don't trust her.. and if unfounded she is probably worried about why you don't trust her. She is probably hurt and angry that she is mistrusted. I know that my now (as of today) ex bf cheated on me. I took him back and I got REALLY angry when he didn't trust me with a male friend. I had NEVER cheated on him... that was his M.O. not mine. But someone how he put his actions on me and thought I would. Have you done something you feel guilty about with a girl? These are just a few things to think about and consider.. no blame here.. but if she hasn't done anything. Let her know you trust her and give it time.. If she sees you trust and love her you will get through this

[arthropod]

a slightly different view from me. what about YOU?!! do you spend alone-time with female friends?? if so, is that an issue for her?? ask her to put herself in YOUR SHOES with this situation.

 

thing is, if this is something that REALLY bothers you, and she's not willing to respect that, there's nothing you can do! also, if she's more willing to sacrifice her relationship with you, than her "friendship" with this guy . . . what's that tell you????

A couple of weeks ago my girlfriend and I had the worst fight ever. Everthing was blown out of proportion and I was really upset. She decided that we take some time apart to cool ourselves down ( especially me ) and when the time was right to talk things over and resume our relationship. To help you understand the basis of our fight, it began with her going out with this one certain person. She tells me he's just a friend from her work and that he has a girlfriend but somehow I feel otherwise. Anyways she still talks to this person even though she knows how I feel about the situation. Anyways, I called her one day to say that I'm ready to talk things over and continue with our relationship. We talked for a bit to see each others point of view and I told her that I was sorry for what happened and I was ready to come back. But she said I wasn't ready to get back into the relationship because she feels I'll just blow up again. Well we're back together but I feel she's not in it a 100%. Give me your thoughts on this!

[BeenThere]

If the friendship with her male friend is more important than her relationship with you than it goes without saying she would use your "lack of trust" as a smoke screen to hide the bigger issue here. Did she tell you that she was going out with this guy before hand to make sure you'd be okay with it? Have you ever spent one-on-one time with a female friend that wasn't a mutual friend of the both of you?

 

Proceed with caution. There's something more going on here. And don't agree to accept this new man in your girlfriends life just for the sake of appeasing her if down deep it truely bothers you. Jealousy will only rear its ugly head again. You have nothing to apologize for. Ask to meet the guy. Invite him and his girlfriend out to dinner with the two of you. THEN make the dicision whether or not you are comfortable with them spending time away from work together. More curious would be her reaction to your proposal...that may tell you all you need to know.

 

Good Luck.

A couple of weeks ago my girlfriend and I had the worst fight ever. Everthing was blown out of proportion and I was really upset. She decided that we take some time apart to cool ourselves down ( especially me ) and when the time was right to talk things over and resume our relationship. To help you understand the basis of our fight, it began with her going out with this one certain person. She tells me he's just a friend from her work and that he has a girlfriend but somehow I feel otherwise. Anyways she still talks to this person even though she knows how I feel about the situation. Anyways, I called her one day to say that I'm ready to talk things over and continue with our relationship. We talked for a bit to see each others point of view and I told her that I was sorry for what happened and I was ready to come back. But she said I wasn't ready to get back into the relationship because she feels I'll just blow up again. Well we're back together but I feel she's not in it a 100%. Give me your thoughts on this!