salmagundi Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 Hey everybody, I need a bit of help here. On the plus side, this is my first time out of the "Breaking Up" forum, so things are at least looking up...except... I met a girl at the university last november. I work at the student cafe. She came up and started talking to me one day and I was charmed. I was also freshly broken up. But she kept coming around, making small talk and a few weeks later I asked her if she wanted to meet me for a coffee or something (very hard thing to do in french, btw). Anyway, she said she was too busy with finals and was going away for xmas and yadder yadder maybe in january when she gets back. So in other words no, I figure. The next day I run into my ex and she says "so, you know Rosée?" Turns out there both on the environmental comittee. I had no idea they knew each other. And obviously, they got to talking about me. I dont know what was said but whatever it was might explain why she went cold on me... But whatever. weeks go by. In january I see her sporadically and we talk and shes friendly as usual but she doesnt come around the cafe anymore. Until last thursday. I bring up coffee again and she says sure...we'll make a date real soon. So no, again. Until one day she shows up out of nowhere at the cafe and we talk and she asks how I've been etc.. She wants to know what I'm doing that weekend and I tell her its my birthday so I'm going out with friends saturday but otherwise nothing...but if she wants to buy me that coffee for my birthday...? And she says sure and we make a date for sunday. It goes great, she suggests we upgrade it to a afternoon snowshoing trip and that goes great to. We get along famously, we talk nonstop, shes touching me all the time and doesnt seem to want the day to end. And we have more in common than me and my ex ever had. We make a pile of plans to do stuff together soon. I drop her off at her place, she says we'll get together again soon and to drop by her place anytime I want to visit and etc. The next night she finds me at the monday night film deal at the university and we hang afterwards again and again its great. OK this is getting long,sorry. Today I see her at school and I ask her what shes doing this weekend and...shes busy. REALLY busy. So we're back to where we were before where she seems to have gone cold again. Its weird, I thought we were off and running Now heres the problem. She has never in 3 months of talking brought up being with anyone, but there is a guy (her roomate) that I havent been able to figure out if she's with or not. If yes, you would think she would have mentioned it by now. Last semester me and my then gf went to the monday movie and they would always be there together, arm in arm, you know? But one of my roomates knows her friends and asked last december if she had a bf and they said no. Hmmm... Maybe they're just really close friends... It would explain all this hot and cold weirdness but we never broached the subject of our relationship status when we met up...so I dont know. If she's with someone and just looking for a friend, why not say so? Or is it my ex? She's sabotaged things for me before (like the girl from Strasbourg-caliguy...) Shes still territorial about me...its weird. And she knows we we're hanging out last sunday... Anyway, this girl is the first girl I've gotten seriously bothered about since my ex and really would like this to work out, but I'm no longer sure what to do, if anything... advice? thanks, salmagundi Link to post Share on other sites
whats wrong with me Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 you make me glad i'm not dating!!! seriously thats weird... have you thought about looking for a totally different girl? Link to post Share on other sites
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