SadHatter Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 Hi guys, My ex-gf dumped me about three months ago (at Xmas) and two days later had a new bf who I believe she is still with. We've had no contact since - she treated me horrible after and so I broke all contact - it seemed like that is what she wanted anyway from her behaviour. Haven't heard a thing from her since. Tonight I recieved two texts from her...the first saying, "soz i aint text back till now ive just got in but its 315333! i think ur startin at 10 coz i think im trainin ya again! well cya sat xx" The second saying, "sorry it wasnt meant for you" She wrote it as though she was replying to a text...so how did she end up sending it to me?! Not like she would have texts from me in her inbox. The only other way is if she has more than one person with my name on her phone. In which case, considering we had a very volatile break-up and she also has a new bf, I would be surprised if she didn't make certain she wasn't sending it to the wrong person! If I had two people with her name on my phone, I would be sure to make sure I didn't send it to her. So...genuine mistake or deliberate? It's confused me that's for sure, I haven't been thinking about her lately, now I am again Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 She is messing with your head.. Flat out she did it on purpose... Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadHatter Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 Why though? What was she hoping to achieve? Did she want me to reply? Even if I did, all that anyone would say was, "No problem" or something similar so what is the point? I don't understand it, I really don't. I didn't reply to her message. I posted that it happened tonight by accident, it was actually Sunday night, so it's been three days now and I haven't heard anything else from her. I still personally feel it was deliberate, but then on the other hand, a little part of me thinks if it wasn't, she'd have sent me another message by now. Oh I just don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 She was just being mean.. it was no accident.. she wanted to make sure you haven't forgotten about her.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadHatter Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 So she did want me to reply?! Or didn't?! I find the whole thing confusing and very immature. If she wanted to get in touch or make sure I hadn't forgotten her, why not just say, "Hi, how are you?"!?!?! She doesn't want to be with me, and has a new boyfriend of three months, yet still doesn't want me to forget her? Link to post Share on other sites
Summerday Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 It was an accident. She told you it wasn't mean't for you, and you should leave it at that. Stop beating yourself up over what could be an honest mistake. I've done it. Link to post Share on other sites
justhavetoletgo Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 bottomline she shouldn't have ur number in her phone at all.......thats the best way to make sure it doesn't happen.................you should send her one in a couple months saying hey I will be over in an hour, and can't wait to see you honey oops sorry that wasn't for you BITC% that will set her straight Link to post Share on other sites
justhavetoletgo Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 She was just being mean.. it was no accident.. she wanted to make sure you haven't forgotten about her.. exactly shes probalbly having troubles and wants to see if you still no shes alive heartless bitc% Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 15, 2006 Share Posted March 15, 2006 bottomline she shouldn't have ur number in her phone at all EXACTLY chances are that she did delete it because she is dating someone new.. but she had to put it back to send the text.. Not an accident.. I'll bet that she then deleted your number so the guy she is dating doesn't see your number in her phone. She is just f***ing with your head.. Let it go.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadHatter Posted March 15, 2006 Author Share Posted March 15, 2006 Thanks so much for your replies guys, I really do appreciate it. I feel a bit better after getting your opinions. The general consensus seems to be that it wasn't done by accident and was in fact deliberate. Maybe she realised the grass wasn't greener on the other side, or maybe she is just bothered because I haven't been begging her to get back with me and she needs an ego boost and wanted to see if I replied straight away and was still hanging on her every word. Who knows...I am just so glad that I ignored her text - and believe me I was so tempted to reply - but I didn't. I guess if it wasn't an accident, she will text me again soon? Well, maybe anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
sexyLMC Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 i think shes looking for a responce out of u hunny.. i.e messing with your head.. for get it hun. your doing really well.. good luck x lisa x Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 "soz i aint text back till now ive just got in but its 315333! i think ur startin at 10 coz i think im trainin ya again! well cya sat xx" Why would she send you that bs? Nah, she messed it up, happens, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I think it was an accident. She probably went to her contact list and chose the person then typed. Which explains how it went to the wrong person. Did you reply to the message? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I think it was an accident. She probably went to her contact list and chose the person then typed. Which explains how it went to the wrong person. Did you reply to the message? I myself have done this game many years ago.. So I'm speaking from experience.. I'll bet ya 100-1 that she deleted his number when she started dating the new guy Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I'm far from Bitter thank you.. I myself have done this game many years ago.. So I'm speaking from experience.. I'll bet ya 100-1 that she deleted his number when she started dating the new guy Definetely. It is a closure thing and most females do it, It shows that we are over them. There is no way that after that amount of time your number would still be in her phpne. Sounds too sus to me! Link to post Share on other sites
climbergirl Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 Definetely. It is a closure thing and most females do it, It shows that we are over them. There is no way that after that amount of time your number would still be in her phpne. Sounds too sus to me! Yep. Spot on. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I only bother to delete people from my contacts in loads every 6 months or more. I just deleted an ex a month or two ago who is from 2003. Link to post Share on other sites
climbergirl Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I guess I didn't take AC's replies to be bitter because I've had this happen to me......... "where are you" "Oops, not you"......is what I got. I'm not going to go into details (too long), but this was no accident......... and he knew I just started dating someone else. I didn't reply to either. But if you had the foresight to check after.......why not before. I don't think it's an unreasonable assumption. However, she could have been drinking. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 The thing is, the message is about some new co-worker that she is training and includes some kind of passcode. Why bother to send something like that to your ex? There are better msgs to use to mess with someone's head. I just don't think this situation warrants the assumption that she was out to get him. Link to post Share on other sites
justhavetoletgo Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 The thing is, the message is about some new co-worker that she is training and includes some kind of passcode. Why bother to send something like that to your ex? There are better msgs to use to mess with someone's head. I just don't think this situation warrants the assumption that she was out to get him. exactly it was stuff he wouldn't understand so as to pass it oon as an accident more believable..................she was waiting for his reply which would have been............what? i don't understand...............it was a test to see how quick he would respond if at all Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadHatter Posted March 16, 2006 Author Share Posted March 16, 2006 A test to see how quick I would respond for what reason? Why did it matter if I responded or how quickly? She has a new bf, why does she care if I respond? Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 The thing is, the message is about some new co-worker that she is training and includes some kind of passcode. Why bother to send something like that to your ex? There are better msgs to use to mess with someone's head. I just don't think this situation warrants the assumption that she was out to get him. Some people send text messages to mess with the head, I know that for sure. My SO's ex still does it and it's pathetically, blatantly clear. He'll get on saying "Hey darling, so glad you're coming over later. Can't wait to see you, I've had a little wine and you know what that does to me...!" However, I have also sent text BY ACCIDENT to people I didn't mean to. A slip of the finger. I've also managed to text my boyfriend with a message I meant for my best friend because I was thinking about him as I typed it!! It could be meant to mess with his head, but I think probably not. The message could have been much better if was on purpose. And I too have old numbers in my phone. I only clear them out every now and then. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadHatter Posted March 16, 2006 Author Share Posted March 16, 2006 I don't really find it that weird that she still has my number...we only broke up three months ago, it's not exactly a long time ago. I just deleted her number a couple weeks ago just to stop me making any stupid drunken phone calls/texts. I guess we're really never going to know whether it was an accident or not unless she does it again. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 I totally agree with Art . She is messing with your head and making sure she can still push your buttons. There are people that might not want you but don't at the same time not want you to have anybody as well. She purposely texted you and played it off that it wasn't meant for you. Maybe she wanted you to know that she had someone else as to rub it in . Link to post Share on other sites
Author SadHatter Posted March 16, 2006 Author Share Posted March 16, 2006 She knows I know she has someone else - that is why we stopped speaking three months ago! I went to her house, confronted her, she admitted it, and said she still loved me but it was over and she has to see what happens with this new guy basically. Then I said no contact anymore - didn't expect her to do it - but she has and we haven't spoken since. Apart from that text. She *thinks* I am seeing someone else now as I saw her friend out a couple weeks ago and she asked me how I am and if I am seeing anyone and I said I was (I lied lol). Maybe this has something to do with it, I don't know, but I doubt it seeing as this was two weeks ago. The whole thing is very strange to me. I am not really sure what darlin_coco meant when saying it is a closure thing for females. It doesn't really show she is over me, it just shows she is training someone at work?! Bizarre! But then says it sounds too sus - what sounds sus? I might be reading it totally wrong, but it seems to contradict - most females do it, but then says it sounds sus?! I think I am thinking about this way too much. I just don't like her to think she has the upper hand and is in control of me - hopefully by not replying to her text it proved she isn't/doesn't? Link to post Share on other sites
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