Meaplus3 Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 Hi, I posted back in early march about my EA with a MM, I am a MW! We have a strong attraction to one another. After realizing that I was in the middle of an EA I took a good hard look at my marriage. What I found was that I have a GREAT marriage, so why am I in lust with this man and he with me? After trying to end the whole attraction thing between us he came over and gave me a hug. The next day my Husband was away and I called him over to help me with something in the house. We were all alone. Something sexual happend but is was not actual SEX. The next day we talked and I apologized beacuse I was the more aggressive one if you know what I mean. Now I am feeling like we should just go for it! I have to live next door to this man and this is simply driving me crazy! I can hardly believe I have these feeling's just don't know what to do?? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 If you're confused as to why a committed partner can have sexual urges toward another person, just be aware it is common. The point is, if you're truly committed and you get a hint of this happening, you nip it in the bud. Stop spending time with him and focus on your partner. Proximity and fantasy are the gasoline thrown on the spark of lust. I hope you like my metaphor. Link to post Share on other sites
scarletletter Posted March 16, 2006 Share Posted March 16, 2006 It's probably the excitement of the whole thing. Someone new paying attention to you in a way that you enjoy. If you don't want it to ruin your marriage, then you should stop it now before it ever really starts. Link to post Share on other sites
Luver53 Posted March 17, 2006 Share Posted March 17, 2006 I am a BS. When I found out, (no, he didnt tell me) that he was having an EA, I was obviously devestated. Just the thought of him being close to another woman, especially intimately, made me almost vomit. Now, I think about it, and all though I dont feel sick, I wonder. What did they do? I will never know, and he will NEVER convince me that he never slept with her. Too many lies, too much betrayel, too much pain. Unfortunatly, my marriage, as I knew it, will NEVER be the same. I have to go through life looking at my spouse and wonder will he cheat on me? It sadens me that he would risk our family for someone he hardly knew. All for LUST? Do you want to damage your husband the way that my husband damaged me? I will tell you this.....If you really love him, you will do the right thing, and YOU know what that is! Link to post Share on other sites
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