educational background differences

[just curious]

do you think that educational backgrounds make a difference on how people relate to each other or get along? my boyfriend just brought all his stuff over and i was going through it all to put it away and found several ribbons/awards since elementary school. i also found fhi theta kappa honor roll things. i never knew all this about him, i know he is smart and all, but i never realised he had accomplished so much in his life. all i have is a ged and now i see why i always feel so stupid around him. i feel like i can't contribute much if anything to a conversation to keep it going, and that i am so boring to him and that is why we don't have too many conversations. i feel like i need to take a course on being or at least acting smarter. i'm not that stupid, i'm just not very educated or alot of things that he is. also he had four years of college and he is really smart in business senses and things that come up. he is different from anyone that i know and maybe it is because he is so smart from anyone else i've known who was just alcoholics. what do you think, do you someone can be too smart for someone else and not be smart enough to keep them interested? i see him talking to people like he never does with me and i think it is because they are more up on what to talk about, sometimes i feel so dumb.

[witchbreed]

Sure, it does make a difference, but dont put yourself down. One can be uneducated and still be smart or there is the very educated one who lack common sense or are all mind and no heart. If your boyfriend thought you to be dumb, he wouldnt be with you. I am sure there is other areas where you have more knowledge, more wisdom then he does. Education is a good thing, dont get me wrong, but personality counts far more. If you do feel insecure because of your education, educate yourself some more, but dont belittle yourself. I am sure you have other qualities and resources. And I guess he appreciates you and your ressources.

 

I myself come from an academic family and I seem not to get along with academic men at all. My boyfriend is a blue collar worker (construction) with little formal education, but he is smart, has his own kind of wisdom and I would never change him for any academic. He has a big heart, loads of common sense, we enjoy the same things in life - so who gives a f... about the educational differences.

 

Maybe sometimes your bf will like to be together with mates of his own background, have discussions you might not be interested in, but show me one couple, where both like all the same things. There will always be something one rather shares with other friends and that is good for a relationsship too. Just dont feel bad about those discussions, would you feel the same if he was a passionate fisher or hunter and would like to talk about this with some others? I guess there you wouldnt mind, or would you?

 

Give yourself credit for your own merits, they might not be in the education departement but I am damn sure you have your very own points of excellence and I think it is ignorant and arrogant only to credit intellectual achievements and to forget about others.

 

You seem to be a caring loving person and thats worth a hell of a lot. Keep your head up and count your own merits.

[just curious]

THANK YOU~!!for the pep talk i really needed that!

Sure, it does make a difference, but dont put yourself down. One can be uneducated and still be smart or there is the very educated one who lack common sense or are all mind and no heart. If your boyfriend thought you to be dumb, he wouldnt be with you. I am sure there is other areas where you have more knowledge, more wisdom then he does. Education is a good thing, dont get me wrong, but personality counts far more. If you do feel insecure because of your education, educate yourself some more, but dont belittle yourself. I am sure you have other qualities and resources. And I guess he appreciates you and your ressources.

 

I myself come from an academic family and I seem not to get along with academic men at all. My boyfriend is a blue collar worker (construction) with little formal education, but he is smart, has his own kind of wisdom and I would never change him for any academic. He has a big heart, loads of common sense, we enjoy the same things in life - so who gives a f... about the educational differences.

 

Maybe sometimes your bf will like to be together with mates of his own background, have discussions you might not be interested in, but show me one couple, where both like all the same things. There will always be something one rather shares with other friends and that is good for a relationsship too. Just dont feel bad about those discussions, would you feel the same if he was a passionate fisher or hunter and would like to talk about this with some others? I guess there you wouldnt mind, or would you? Give yourself credit for your own merits, they might not be in the education departement but I am damn sure you have your very own points of excellence and I think it is ignorant and arrogant only to credit intellectual achievements and to forget about others. You seem to be a caring loving person and thats worth a hell of a lot. Keep your head up and count your own merits.