konfuzd Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 It's been a crazy long week at work, stressed out to the max..... all I want is to go out for a beer, specifically with this guy who's been stringing me along for a while..... Here's the deal... I start the txt conversation wishing him a Happy St Patrick's day... he replies, "and a good one to you too, time to get wasted!" me: "do you have plans, or do you think maybe you and I could go for a pint or a few?" him: "no, I'm not going out tonight, went out last night and am soooo hurting!" me: "well, I just kinda feel like doing something, doesn't have to involve drinking, you in?" No reply. I know it's not a big deal, but I'm just not in a good frame of mind, and having issues with the rejection, again. No real question just needed somewhere to vent, as friends seem to be in very short supply lately.... hope everyone else has a good weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 he replies, "and a good one to you too, time to get wasted!" me: "do you have plans, or do you think maybe you and I could go for a pint or a few?" him: "no, I'm not going out tonight, went out last night and am soooo hurting!" me: "well, I just kinda feel like doing something, doesn't have to involve drinking, you in?" Sounds like he isn't in.. he also IS going out and getting wasted.. Your wasting your time here... He is all about the drink... Link to post Share on other sites
Author konfuzd Posted March 18, 2006 Author Share Posted March 18, 2006 Oh, I'm fully aware that I've been rejected, and in all probability he will be out drinking tonight. I just wish I was the one he was out drinking with. I have been so stressed out lately, and would love to have a night to just let loose and have fun. Guess it will be another night of me and my playstation.... bummer. Thanks for the reply though, Art Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 next time you see him i would ask him if his battery died during your conversation. let him explain his rude behavior. don't get mad. be indifferent. no matter what he says give him a simple "oh" answer and walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 The part you are missing is that the reason he stopped texting you is that you were cornering him to get him to go out with you.. He is going out with someone else and didn't want you to know.. It is plain as day... You might want to talk to him about that.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author konfuzd Posted March 18, 2006 Author Share Posted March 18, 2006 Art: the reason he stopped texting you is that you were cornering him to get him to go out with you 'cornering' sounds a bit harsh, I think. I just thought maybe after a night of drinking, he might not want to go for a pint as I suggested, might want to just chill with a movie or something, wanted him to know I wasn't stuck on the idea of going out for a drink... easy enough to say, "no thanks, I'm just gonna take time to recover" or the like... kind of rude to just leave a question unanswered, in my opinion... He is going out with someone else and didn't want you to know.. I don't really think this is the case. He usually tells me when he's going out, even if it's with another girl. We are not in an exclusive relationship, and we have always been open about talking about other dates we go on. Besides, he knows I wouldn't grill him, all he had to say, was "yeah, I have plans" and I would have left it at that. No big deal. Amay: Thanks for the advice, I like it! Lets him know I noticed his rudeness without putting him on the spot! I think I'll try that. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 cornering' sounds a bit harsh, I said corning because I am a guy and have been in his place before.. I felt like anything I was going to say would've been met with her trying to be with me.. and that isn't what I wanted.. ( cornered ) I wanted to be with someone else.. Take care.. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 He's using the silence and advoidance speak for itself. Read between the lines. Look, if he wanted to spend time with you and see you - He would make that effort. He hasn't, I'm sorry...So, back off, leave him alone and see what happens. Who knows if there is someone else or not, but his actions are saying he's not into you. Sorry to come off harsh, but don't let your feelings cloud your judgement. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 18, 2006 Share Posted March 18, 2006 Amay: Thanks for the advice, I like it! Lets him know I noticed his rudeness without putting him on the spot! I think I'll try that. you're welcome. don't be either defensive or weak when you approach him. just casually ask him. like you can live or die without him, it makes no difference to you. if you can do this successfully, you will have taken back your power and choose from there what you'd like to do with it. i think you'll do fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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