A True Drama BreakUp And Second Chance Story!!!

[WiseNitchie]

I was in a relationship for 1 year and 7 months with this girl the relationship was perfect until the last 2 months, we had discussed spending our whole lives together. She stated that I was her first love and she was also my first love. The last couple of months of the relationship started to get bumpy, she started to change towards me, during the time this was in the summer and school was out, me and her relationship was perfect, now i know there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, but not in this case we always agreed on everything and had mild disagreements, me and her fell in love quickly.

 

After while I started to question her on her attitude towards me, and I practically had to beg it out of her, and then she finally said that she felt that the relationship is getting boring, but she didn’t want to break up because she felt that it wasn’t a problem and if it became a problem we could work it out becuz she would rather do that than break up. So the relationship got the big boost and once again the relationship was amazing, and once school started back she began to change again, and when I questioned her about was what going on she said that she just didn’t want a boyfriend and that she would rather be single, and we broke up, I was crushed I couldn’t do nothing but think about her, I couldn’t eat, I was heartbroken, I made a fool out of my self by begging her at school also, it thought this would make her see about how much I need her, but it didn’t help any. Her ego started to grow, she wasn’t always this hot chick that every guy wanted to date, and all of a sudden a lot of guys wanted her. So this pushed me to believe that her ego had gotten bigger. After the breakup me and her never talked, and me and her share the same best friend, which is also the girl who hooked us up.

 

After the breakup she had been transferred to a different school, so this didn’t make matter any better. So After the break up the friend continued to try to hook up back up and she would tell her that she just doesn’t want a boyfriend, but during the time of the breakup she was telling me that she wants to see other people. So 2months had passed, and my friend was telling me about that she may want to get back with me, and she was trying to see how I still felt about her, because she was scared of trying to get in touch with me.

She made one attempt to contact me but she would only do it on 3 way and if my friend was on the phone, but I missed that call I was so mad about that. And I found out she had another boyfriend, this crushed me and broke my heart once again, I was crushed, and it felt like the same day we broke up, but I just knew they were going to breakup, and I even guessed the month that they would break up, and I was right, they broke up in January, and she started trying to get in contact with me again through the help of our friend, so we finally got in contact and we talked for hours it was just like old times.

I asked her could we get back together because that’s what she had been telling all her friends, that she wanted me back, but when her chance came she turned it down, saying that she doesn’t want a boyfriend and I was like but you had a boyfriend, and she was like I wasn’t thinking during that time. So she continued to call me like once a week and we would have deep conversations, and I asked her to tell the 100% truth on how she felt about me and her getting back together, and she said it’s a very good chance, but she is just to busy for a relationship rite now, up until this day we still talk atleats every 1 and for 7 or 6 hours sometimes, actually she still treats me pretty much like her boyfriend. Shes giving off mixed signals, shes always told me that i was her best boyfriend ever, and that she misses me, we went 2 months withot NC and the only time when we do talk is when she does the calling, her alaby is kinda good becuz she is having alot of amily problems during the time.Or is she just pullin my leg, and strinning me alone.Helpppppppp.......Please

[Still_In_Love]

WiseNitchie, I feel for you and the hurt you are going through. I think your girlfriend sounds quite young and she is at a point in her life where she doesn't know what she wants. She calls you only to have her ego stroked and then feels good and leaves you again wondering what happened.

The best advise is NC. There are lots of people on this site that have great experience and know what they are talking about. You need to heal and gain your respect back for who you are! walk away and grow!

Good luck!

[WiseNitchie]

WiseNitchie, I feel for you and the hurt you are going through. I think your girlfriend sounds quite young and she is at a point in her life where she doesn't know what she wants. She calls you only to have her ego stroked and then feels good and leaves you again wondering what happened.

The best advise is NC. There are lots of people on this site that have great experience and know what they are talking about. You need to heal and gain your respect back for who you are! walk away and grow!

Good luck!

Im very good when it comes to relationships myself, im rarely ever wrong, i know this because everytime one of my friends had an problem in their relationship they call me, and im never wrong, im always rite, but i just cant figuire this girl out, if it was anyone else i could. But when she calls she me she doesnt even talk about me and her goign back together, she well tell me all about her family, and alot of deep stuff, i mean thats why i kind of feel like im her still her boyfriend.

 

When somebody mentions me moving on, she gets very upset, i find out this from her friends and my friends, and she got mad the other day and said that i never call her. And one time i told her to stop calling me for good, because i told her i wasnt gonna feel comfortable being her friend after she broke my heart, i told her this right after we broke up, ya know i cant handle talking to her, and i was real str8 down to the point i explained to her, to not call me except if she wanted to go back out with me, and if she never came to that decision that me and her just would be over for good, becuz its not that i cant accept her as a friend, is thats my heart wont accept her, it wants us to be more than friends.

 

And Out of the blue she calls me on (Valentines Day), im very happy, very very happy, im thinking well maybe she has came to her senses and wants to go backtogether, no its not that she called back to wish me haopy valentines day, and we talked for about 7 hours str8 that day.

She calls me and tells me about the boys at her skool, she says stuff like they are ugly, and they are all pimps, and that she doesnt want any of them as a boyfriend, becuz half of the boys in the skool are either pimps, and whatever. But she has admitted that she made a mistake to friends of mines, she will say things like i was crazy for breaking up with me andi had even heard her say stuff like this myself.

 

I Mean could it be that she is callign me to tell me on sly not to move on, because she hasnt seen anyone she wants, and that she still has feeling for me, but i dunno what the case is, because she would stop calling me, and like a fool i called her, and i asked her is she to busy to call me, and she said no you dont never call me, so i dont see why i should only call you. Now DO YOU SEE, SHE'S SENDING MIXED SIGNBALS, IM GOOD AT RELATIONSHIPS MYSELF, THATS WHY IM THE WISENITCHIE BUT WHEN IT COMES TO HER, IM LOST!!!!!!! I NEED MORE HELP!!!

[Still_In_Love]

And one time i told her to stop calling me for good, because i told her i wasnt gonna feel comfortable being her friend after she broke my heart, i told her this right after we broke up, ya know i cant handle talking to her, and i was real str8 down to the point i explained to her, to not call me except if she wanted to go back out with me, and if she never came to that decision that me and her just would be over for good, becuz its not that i cant accept her as a friend, is thats my heart wont accept her, it wants us to be more than friends.

 

And Out of the blue she calls me on (Valentines Day), im very happy, very very happy, im thinking well maybe she has came to her senses and wants to go backtogether, no its not that she called back to wish me haopy valentines day, and we talked for about 7 hours str8 that day.

You tell her to stop calling and then talk to her on the phone for 7 hours. What's with that...take a stand and NC!

 

She calls me and tells me about the boys at her skool, she says stuff like they are ugly, and they are all pimps, and that she doesnt want any of them as a boyfriend, becuz half of the boys in the skool are either pimps, and whatever. But she has admitted that she made a mistake to friends of mines, she will say things like i was crazy for breaking up with me andi had even heard her say stuff like this myself.

 

She's wanting you make sure that you aren't going anywhere...yet! SHe needs to check out other things she has going and if they don't work out, she has you in her back pocket!!

 

Now DO YOU SEE, SHE'S SENDING MIXED SIGNBALS, IM GOOD AT RELATIONSHIPS MYSELF, THATS WHY IM THE WISENITCHIE BUT WHEN IT COMES TO HER, IM LOST!!!!!!! I NEED MORE HELP!!!

 

That's great that you think you are good at helping others with their relationships. IMO, I think we are all good at helping people with relationships but, at times, we aren't prepared to face the problems in our own...the help you need is to read others advice on this site and realize that you need to move on. Your ex-gf is going to continue her game of having you in her back pocket and once she is ready, she's gonna tell you to move on too!!

[WiseNitchie]

Ok, this isn't the first time me and her broke up, we broke up once at the begining of the relationship becuz i felt that she was to immature. During this time i wasnt in love with her, and i didnt think about her 1 time during that breakup. To tell the truth i had forgot she existed i had moved on and had alot of relationships between thouse 3 months, And out of the blue she called back then 3 months later and wanted to get back together, and things were perfect for another year and 5 months.

 

All im saying is im not here to front, im not here to tell you people that im not in love with her and that i dont still dream about her, and that im nto crazy about her, because i almost faint everytime she calls me, i still love her very much. But i have a life also, i cant sit here and be depressed while she's out there having the time of her life, yea her ego is big alright, but from what i remember i was always the popular one beofre she came along, i gave her her popularity, becuz this is all why this is happens, all of this has to revolve around her big ego. But i got a life, i got to go live my life, and stop sitting her waiting for a moment that may never come.

 

It's alot of thing i dont like to do, but i do them, and this is one of the things that im just gonna have to do, so bassically what im saying (It's Gone Be What It's Gone Be), if it's meant to happen it will happen. I've been waiting for 6 months now for us finally to get backtoegther, and when it comes the time for us to reconile, she turns it down. Im sorry she can do whatever she want, she gets upset when i dont call her, and when i choose to talk to other girls on the phone instead of her, like if im on the phone and another girl is on the other line, she will get mad if i'd rather talk to the other girl.

 

Im walking around her beggin her like i did something wrong, and i did'nt, Im not finna sit here and be her friend either, if i cant have her all the way, i dont want half of her, bassically the only reason i dont think im over her yet is becuz not many girls are my type, and bassically all the good girls are taken, so in a way i feel like she is the only girl rite for me. She keeps saying she thinks that we should get backtogether and that she misses me, but she toying around with me.

 

And at her new school she has alot of problems with alot of girls, because alot of there boy friends like her, but im not finna add gas to the fire, they can chase her around, i aint got the time, all im saying is im through, i will keep you guys updated but what im saying now, is its time to let Destiny do it's job.